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Terrible, Thanks for Asking (A podcast about humanity)

If you’ve ever wished that you could answer “how are you” with “terrible, thanks for asking,” I have found the podcast for you. And if you haven’t ever wanted to answer that way? This podcast will help you understand.

Today’s post is going to be a bit truncated, but no less meaningful than any other post that I share with you all. 

As you all are welllll aware, I suffer from anxiety and depression, and it has been RAGING for the past year. Add to that the stressors of life and general and infertility in particular, and you’ve got yourself a nice little time bomb.

As you all are also welllll aware, I am a very honest person. So, when people ask me, “How are you doing?” it is my reflex to answer them with the truth! Unless it is a pretty good day, I usually go with “I’m hanging in there.” Because aren’t we all?

If you are the person who answers the “How are you” question truthfully (and lays it all out there) or the person who answers “Good, how are you,” (and shirks from telling the truth), if you are a HUMAN who has been through anything in your life, you need to stop everything and listen to this podcast.

Terrible, Thanks for Asking.

This podcast is changing my life. There are episodes that will bring you to the verge (or directly into) tears. Moments where you smile knowingly. You will learn something new about the human condition. 

But you will also realize that YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

Depression and anxiety can be isolating–you isolate yourself from others because a) you feel unworthy of their company, b) you don’t feel they will understand, c) you don’t want to burden them, d) you don’t feel up to putting yourself out there, and the list goes on. 

Terrible Thanks for Asking is a fantastic new podcast about what it means to be human, and what often hides behind the fake answers we give when asked how we are doing @TTFAPodcast @suzlyfe http://suzlyfe.com/terrible-thanks-asking-podcast/

Terrible, Thanks for Asking is a podcast about being human, and about the raw emotion, the pain, the joy, and the pure amazingness of the human condition and experience. 

Going thing infertility? Dealing with death? Trying to find yourself? Nora (the host) covers it in a way that is accessible to those going through it and those who aren’t.

No, I am not being paid or have any affiliation with “Terrible, Thanks for Asking.” I discovered TTFA by chance via another podcast (which I will talk about later), and I couldn’t stop listening. 

I felt like I was being given the warmest of hugs by friends and counselors. It felt like meeting someone who understood. The host (Nora McInerny) is not only a fabulous host with a wonderful voice and presence, but she has first hand experience with wanting to be honest when asked the question “How are you.”

Stop everything and listen to this amazing #podcast about the ups/downs of life @ttfapodcast… Click To Tweet

It is heartwrenching, heartwarming, and changed my week for the better. 

Check it out!

When was the last time a book/podcast/piece of media had a profound impact on you?

When someone asks how you are doing, do you answer truthfully?

Joining Amanda for Thinking Out Loud.

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43 Comments

  • Reply Wendy@Taking the Long Way Home

    There have been so many recent moments where I wanted to answer with just this. Terrible. Horrible. Fortunately, those are becoming less frequent.

    Glad you found solace in the podcast.

    May 4, 2017 at 6:10 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I am so glad to hear that, Wendy!

      May 7, 2017 at 11:53 am
  • Reply Christina @ montessoriishmom.com

    I love finding new podcasts and this one sounds great! Just added to my Stitcher, thanks for sharing. I wouldn’t say it’s profound, but my favorite podcast is Happier, by Gretchen Rubin (author of the Happiness Project) – it’s funny and makes me think!

    May 4, 2017 at 6:14 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Ooo, I will check it out! We need to be happy!

      May 7, 2017 at 11:53 am
  • Reply Heather @Lunging Through Life

    I honestly never listen to podcasts but I think I should. I’m one of those who say good and then later wonder why I said that lol like I think about it for a while ha. But seriously I wish we were all more honest, within reason. Im not going to lay it out for an acquaintance but for a friend I should!

    May 4, 2017 at 6:24 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Um, yeah! That is why we are here!

      May 7, 2017 at 11:53 am
  • Reply Heather @ Polyglot Jot

    I can’t wait to check this out! I can definitely relate as I too struggle with anxiety and depression. <3

    May 4, 2017 at 6:53 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I think that you will connect to it and the humanity of it.

      May 7, 2017 at 11:52 am
  • Reply Julie @ Running in a Skirt

    I haven’t really listened to podcasts yet, but I’ll take your advice and look this one up! There have def been times where I’ve chuckled when asked that question. 🙂

    May 4, 2017 at 7:02 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I know, right? Like Oh…. if you only knew.

      May 7, 2017 at 11:50 am
  • Reply Jamie@TheMomGene

    I usually answer this question truthfully. But it does depend on the context for me. If I’m at a family gathering where I know the answer will stir up a lot of drama, then I usually steer clear, in order to protect myself. The last book that truly moved me was Fredrick Backman’s “And the Way Home Gets Longer and Longer” about a grandfather talking to his grandson at the end of his battle with Alzheimer’s. Cried my way through that one.

    May 4, 2017 at 7:18 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Honestly, I don’t know how you don’t just start crying at the thought of that book…

      May 7, 2017 at 11:49 am
  • Reply Cora

    This is perfect. Thank you so much for writing this.

    I plowed through Elizabeth Gilbert’s Magic Lessons podcast over the past two weeks and it was the perfect, most beautiful thing I was needing. I wish there was more.

    May 4, 2017 at 7:26 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I will definitely check that out, then. I trust you!

      May 7, 2017 at 11:49 am
  • Reply Michelle

    Just subscribed to it! I am glad I am not the only one who feels this way…hanging in there is my M.O.

    May 4, 2017 at 7:42 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      You need this podcast, Michelle. I think that you will really connect with it.

      May 7, 2017 at 11:47 am
  • Reply Farrah

    I’ve been looking for more podcasts to check out–can’t wait to try this out! It’ll be good for my walking commute to work!

    Sending you lots of love and hugs!

    May 4, 2017 at 8:08 am
  • Reply Kelli @ Hungry Hobby

    Yes I need a new podcast recommendation! Podcast and audible for life!

    May 4, 2017 at 8:11 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Oo, I think you will love this!

      May 7, 2017 at 11:45 am
  • Reply Laura @ This Runner's Recipes

    I’m glad that you found a podcast that helped you! Literature and now podcasts have such incredible power to relate the human experience and lift people up. How I answer the question depends on who is asking it: if it’s a stranger or casual acquaintance, I’ll answer briefly and more positively – after all, I have a roof over my head and food on my table – as with family and friends I open up more.

    May 4, 2017 at 11:37 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Yeah, I on’t think that people need to know that I’m going through IVF if they don’t actually know me well enough to ask specifically about it!

      May 7, 2017 at 11:43 am
  • Reply Ange // Cowgirl Runs

    My answer is always, “Oh, you know” because I hate that question.
    Lindsay Ostrum mentioned this podcast in one of her posts, and I’ve been intrigued, but haven’t had a chance to listen yet.

    May 4, 2017 at 12:13 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I think you will really like it. There is just so much pathos in there.

      May 7, 2017 at 11:42 am
  • Reply Sandra Laflamme

    I live on the roller coaster ride of depression. The lows can be so low. I am thinking of you friend. I will definitely give this podcast a listen. Sounds like a great one. So many hugs.

    May 4, 2017 at 1:03 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      This really feels like a therapy session on so many levels of our psychological being. I really hope that you connect with it. xoxo

      May 7, 2017 at 11:41 am
  • Reply Jamie King

    Thank you for this recco, I am ALWAYS on the hunt for new podcasts to add to my life! You’re amazing, girl!

    May 4, 2017 at 4:35 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      YOU are amazing, my friend!

      May 7, 2017 at 11:41 am
  • Reply Lisa @ Mile by Mile

    Sounds like a great podcast. I try to respond positively to the how are you question especially at work. Other times I may be a bit more honest, but it depends if I think the person really wants to know the answer…

    May 4, 2017 at 7:12 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I 100% agree. Some things just don’t need to be gotten into at work!

      May 7, 2017 at 11:40 am
  • Reply Ellen @ My Uncommon Everyday

    OOH another podcast! Yay!
    My typical answer to, “How are you?” is, “I’m here. What about you?” It’s always true, not too downer, and not falsely-cheery. It doubles as a reminder to myself to chill the f*ck out and live in the moment, and then quickly deflects to the other person.

    May 4, 2017 at 8:14 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Oh I like that! I’m here, I’m present (or so I need to tell myself!)

      May 7, 2017 at 11:40 am
  • Reply Hannah

    I think I use “okay” the same way you use “hanging in there”. It’s vague enough that the other person often follows up if they truly meant it as a question rather than a rote greeting.

    I don’t really do podcasts because I can’t listen to them while doing anything else (single tasker to the extreme), but the last book that impacted me is The Sparrow by Mary Doria Russell.

    May 4, 2017 at 8:15 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I agree with you there–Okay opens it up for discussion if they want to go there. I will look into that book!

      May 7, 2017 at 11:39 am
  • Reply Jen @ Chase the Red Grape

    I know this is going to sound kooky but the amount of ah ha moments I have through recording my own podcast is amazing. I think it’s focusing on a particular topic and delving deep into it and my experiences that makes it so.
    But it is so amazing and rewarding to hear other voices out there which makes you realise you are not alone. It’s so empowering.

    May 4, 2017 at 10:57 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Doesn’t sound kooky at all! It is like a blog + therapy!

      May 7, 2017 at 11:37 am
  • Reply Suzy

    Dude, I missed this post this morning! My phone sees it but my laptop didn’t. Now I’m wondering if I missed yesterday’s post too! I gotta check. Why would my MacBook not see your new posts?!?! WEIRD!

    May 5, 2017 at 2:21 am
  • Reply Erin

    I usually listen to podcasts on the train so I don’t know if I want to be bawling among a bunch of commuters! Still, I understand the sentiment. I’ve been in a funk for the past few weeks, too. My husband joked that I need to up my Lexapro prescription, but I have a feeling it’s more than that. And, yes, it’s nice to know I’m not alone.

    May 8, 2017 at 3:25 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      You are definitely not alone, Erin. Is everything ok? Maybe you just need some consistently better weather?

      May 19, 2017 at 1:55 pm
  • Reply Kristy from Southern In Law

    I am THE WORST for not answering truthfully… in fact, so much so that Jesse has coined me “Kristy sunshine” when I’m having a bad day/feeling upset/am sick/whatever and have to spend time with people outside of my immediate family. All of a sudden without even realising I put on the “Kristy sunshine” cloak and pretend like I’m my usual happy bubbly self – and then crumble into a million pieces when I get home.

    I think it’s me being a perfectionist -but it’s definitely something I’m working on. There are friends who I’ll tell what’s going on – but I still won’t usually show it because I’d rather pretend like things aren’t that bad because I don’t want to bring them down.

    And hellooooooooooooooo basket case 😛

    May 10, 2017 at 3:58 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Sometimes, you just have to let the Kristy Sunshine be Cloudy Kristy. People will understand. But you are such a pleaser (and that isn’t a bad thing) and you have probably spent so much time feeling physically uncomfortable and needing to put on a show as if you aren’t.

      May 19, 2017 at 12:45 pm
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