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Something’s Gotta Give (Friday Catch Up 6/16)

Happy Friday, my friends! We have reached the end of yet another week, but as usual, Alex and I will be working the weekend away. Let’s get caught up on what we have been up to otherwise, ok?

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1) Oh, hello, my dear friends. I suspect you all have likely noticed a bit of an absence from me around these parts. In truth, I’ve been, in a word, exhausted. Purely and utterly. Our vacation week last week proved to me just how exhausted and overextended I have been. Last week, I woke up just let myself be. I slept, I ate, I napped, I helped Alex (a little), but mostly, I got to do the things that I love to do: cooking, walking Ridley (often with Alex), reading, and just spending time with Alex in situations the did not end with one of us running off to work.

But I didn’t come to my “chill the **** out, Suz” realization that week. No, I just thought I was reveling in the laziness. When I went back to work on Friday and stared in the face a full week of work at two jobs with the horrific commutes and long hours on my feet… I knew something had to give. 

I am exhausted. I love blogging–I love sharing my life, writing down these stories and anecdotes and words of advice for you as well as for myself and my family for the future. But over this past week, I was smacked in the face with the fact that I need to take care of myself a little bit more. I need to get back to being me a bit more.

As of right now, between serving and the gym, I have no guaranteed days off a week. And I can’t operate like that. 

So I am rearranging my schedule, beginning with a huge reduction in hours at the gym. The reduction in commute alone will make a huge difference in my anxiety and time.

2) Alex has been a star this past week: He got our groceries, did laundry (twice!), helped me get dinner ready while I was on my way home, and has been a huge trooper with me and my ever-changing appetites. I know we don’t owe each other anything, that we are a team, but I am just so thankful for him right now. 

He also keeps bringing me bulk candy, which is both the best thing ever and totally feeding the monster. But hey, I ain’t going to stop him!

3) So during my minimal time off, what have I been doing? Trying to walk Ridley as much as possible (I have a new route that I love–less goose poop, more houses) and walking Game of Thrones with Alex. We got HBO Go back (we are paying for it now rather than borrowing from our friends, rawr), so we have dedicated June to getting as much in as possible before Alex starts fellowship.

4) I have eaten at a gourmet salad bar at least once every day since Sunday (I think. The days are smooshing together, but I can count at least 4x). But to be honest, I really don’t want to make my own at home. I am just tired of it. Or I think I am, until I make a salad at home (I made one to go with another round of turkey burgers and sweet potato fries on Wednesday) and realize that it is all in my head. 

Speaking of headcases, I totally bought two bottles of conditioner rather than shampoo and conditioner. And then wondered by the stuff wouldn’t lather. #facepalm

5) Lost of social events in the next week: We are (well, when you are reading this, we will have gone) to a pretty famous restaurant tonight for Alex’s cousin’s graduation from business school. I will report back with the yumminess. On Sunday, Alex’s aunt (who we visited in Chicago a few years ago) is coming to visit us and get shown around Chicago! We are taking her to some favorite restaurants and Alex is going to take her on a downtown tour (I have to work on and off during her visit). Speaking of famous restaurants, Alex wanted to take her to Stephanie Izard’s Girl and the Goat, but didn’t tell me of his plans until… Monday. For next Monday. It takes at least a month, if not more, to get on the list there. Needless to say, they didn’t have any openings for us…

And speaking of that… I’ve got to go get dressed! I hope you all have a wonderful weekend! I miss you all!

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55 Comments

  • Reply MCM Mama

    Sounds like you’ve made a good choice in cutting back. I totally understand the going in too many directions at once thing (and adding in a commute is killer.) Hope you get the rest you need!

    June 16, 2017 at 6:33 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      It is amazing how much the commute can suck the life from you! Geez.

      June 19, 2017 at 10:40 am
  • Reply Emily @ Pizza & Pull-ups

    Glad you are decreasing your work hours and taking some time to care for yourself. My last year of grad school I interned from 8-230 five days a week and worked from 3-11 fours days a week, then would come home to work on the my thesis. It was exhausting and horrible for my well being and mood. Hope you guys get some nice family time in.

    June 16, 2017 at 6:34 am
  • Reply heather @Lunging Through Life

    <3 <3 Take care of yourself!!

    June 16, 2017 at 6:48 am
  • Reply Deborah @ Confessions of a mother runner

    I certainly go through phases where I feel like I have over committed and I am tired. It’s so important to do a little self check every once in a while and rearrange as necessary. sounds like you have made some healthy changes hope you get some rest this weekend

    June 16, 2017 at 7:19 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Definitely was time to make some changes–for everyone’s sake!

      June 19, 2017 at 10:39 am
  • Reply Rae

    SO glad to hear that you are taking some time for yourself. It can be hard to feel “justified” in taking a break sometimes (at least for me). Eat some bulk candy for me!

    June 16, 2017 at 7:20 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      ALL THE BULK CANDY

      June 19, 2017 at 10:38 am
  • Reply lindsay Cotter

    I am always amazed at what you do! take some time off or a mini break when you can. YOu deserve it! I need it too. LOL! Gah… sleep is needed.

    June 16, 2017 at 7:31 am
  • Reply Jamie@TheMomGene

    We all get to the breaking point. Mine was twins age 1.5. That era just about killed me. I had to create personal space again so I could really BE there for them when I was there instead of constantly tired and stressed out. Self-care, in a weird way, is also care for those around you.

    June 16, 2017 at 7:54 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I call it beneficial strategic selfishness.

      June 19, 2017 at 10:37 am
  • Reply Cora

    Your intuition is doing a pretty good job right now Suz. Yeah it sucks when we are the type of people who truly want to do EVERYTHING and sincerely love all the different parts of our lives, but reality does win out above all. We simply just can’t always do it all. I often have to take a step back, but when I do, I find that it isn’t too long before I feel revived. Or with stepping back I am able to take a clearer look at what the things are I actually want to spend time on and what I am forcing myself to. Regardless of what you learn – even if you blog once a week you won’t lose us. Hell, maybe you’ll teach us all to give ourselves a bit more time.

    June 16, 2017 at 8:16 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxooxxooxoxoxoxoxoxoxox (x infinity)

      June 19, 2017 at 10:38 am
  • Reply Megan @ Skinny Fitalicious

    Glad you’re slowing down a bit. You need it! I will also be working the weekend away. Too much to do next week and didn’t get enough done this week.

    June 16, 2017 at 8:27 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Are you ever going to slow down? But then again, maybe you don’t need to yet. You are finally getting where you want to be.

      June 19, 2017 at 10:36 am
  • Reply Danielle @ The T-Rex Runner

    Girl, blogging is hard! It takes a lot of time. I don’t even pretend like I can post every day. If I can get 3x a week, I feel like I’ve basically climbed Everest. You don’t need to apologize.

    June 16, 2017 at 8:35 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Definitely not apologizing. I am 100% owning this.

      June 19, 2017 at 10:35 am
  • Reply Anna @ Piper's Run

    Good for you! This was me a few months ago, that’s one of the reasons why I’m blogging far less and it’s really more of running updates then anything. I completely understand being exhausted! There are some nights when I say screw EVERYTHING and take care of myself first. Hope you have a nice weekend.

    June 16, 2017 at 8:51 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I think you are setting a great example for your girls in doing that!

      June 19, 2017 at 10:35 am
  • Reply Suzy

    Have fun tonight! Post pics on Instagram!!

    June 16, 2017 at 8:55 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Sadly, the lighting was terrible. But it was amazing!

      June 19, 2017 at 10:33 am
  • Reply Emily

    I think I realized that something had to give at the beginning of this year. I just couldn’t do everything and not feel really scattered and anxious. It’s so good when you are just able to let something go. God has really given me a lot of peace about it. I’m so thankful for His gracious leading and merciful direction.

    And I’m thankful that you got to have such a restful week; you always go so hard, and I love to see when you get to spend time with Ridley, walking, cooking, and just enjoying time with Alex.

    June 16, 2017 at 9:08 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      It is so amazing that we work so hard to work so hard, when we could work hard enough and then focus on living.

      June 19, 2017 at 10:34 am
  • Reply Katie

    I had a MAJOR “something has to give” moment a little over a year ago when I decided to quit my second job just a few months after starting it. The people weren’t great, the job wasn’t great, and the pay wasn’t great. Overall, I decided that it wasn’t worth the extra money. I keep having these small realizations every month or so, often wondering how at one point in my life I was able to work SO much AND blog 5-7 days a week. Right now, even 1 sometimes feels hard to do. *face palm*

    June 16, 2017 at 9:33 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Sounds like it was a good cut the fat moment there! Unless they were paying you millions…. you better get out of there. And even if they WERE paying you millions, still not worth it!

      June 19, 2017 at 10:33 am
  • Reply Farrah

    I’ve definitely been reveling in downtime and laziness lately too (yay for my radiology rotation)! I’m having a hard time shaking off the nagging feeling that I should be doing stuff though. x_x Urgh.

    A gourmet salad bar sounds like an awesome option. I want one in my life! 😛

    Hope you have a great weekend + more time to chillax for a bit!!

    June 16, 2017 at 9:50 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      You are a consummate do-all-the-things-er. Revel in that radiology rotation!!

      June 19, 2017 at 10:32 am
  • Reply Michelle

    Ah, this post is exactly why I’ve stepped back from blogging for a bit. Something had to give.
    Most famous restaurant I’ve been to is Graham Elliot’s several years ago (closed now, sad face) and we went to Tru in Chicago to celebrate my hubby returning home safely. Have a great week!

    June 16, 2017 at 11:00 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Tru is amazing. I’ve never been, but I remember your pictures of it, and it definitely looks like it lived up to its hype!

      June 19, 2017 at 10:32 am
  • Reply Sarah Rosenblatt

    *hug* I’m sure this was a hard thing to realize, but I’m glad you did.
    The most famous restaurant I’ve ever been to was Cafe Boulud, when my (now) father-in-law decided that we were going there for lunch, from Albany to NYC, for a day trip, in a limo. It’s still probably the most extravagant thing I’ve ever done! I have no idea why he decided to do it… but I wasn’t gonna complain!

    June 16, 2017 at 11:55 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      That is the most amazing story. HOW COOL IS THAT????

      June 19, 2017 at 10:31 am
  • Reply Ashley @ A Lady Goes West

    Hi Susie! Girl — you need to slow down for sure. I think it’s smart to cut back on some commitments. I did that earlier this year and it was JUST what I needed. As far as Alex helping out — what a good guy. I hope you have a great weekend, lady! 🙂

    June 16, 2017 at 12:34 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Life shouldn’t just be about survival! We actually need to be able to live, right?

      June 19, 2017 at 10:30 am
  • Reply Hannah

    Kudos for recognizing that you need to reduce the workload. It’s hard to admit you’re exhausted. I often refuse to notice I need to pull back until someone else points it out to me…and then I feel so relieved. Like someone finally gave me permission to do less. I need to work on giving myself that permission.

    June 16, 2017 at 1:39 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I know so well how you feel–that permission is the nail on the head. So silly that we feel we have to wait for it, isn’t it?

      June 19, 2017 at 10:30 am
  • Reply Bethany

    I’ve totally done the two bottles of conditioner rather than shampoo and conditioner thing!

    I just left my job soooo……their ya go =) Something had to give.

    June 16, 2017 at 3:30 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Something definitely did give!

      June 19, 2017 at 10:29 am
  • Reply Debbie

    Sometimes we have to make tough choices for our own sake. I think you made the right one to give yourself some time and relieve some stress.

    June 16, 2017 at 7:01 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      It is already making me feel better!

      June 19, 2017 at 10:28 am
  • Reply Wendy@Taking the Long Way Home

    I did that with work a few months ago–I only cut back 4 hours/week but that meant shorter days and wow! What a difference that made for me. Interestingly, that set into motion a whole other chain of events (which I won’t share here) but has given me a gift I didn’t expect. Management didn’t like it, but hey, life is funny, isn’t it?

    June 16, 2017 at 7:49 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Management can suck it–what is 4 hours if it makes that much of a difference in your life as well as the quality of care that you give?

      June 19, 2017 at 10:28 am
  • Reply Lisa @ Mile by Mile

    When I get busy and stressed I usually end up cutting back on blogging, which is what happened this week. Its smart of you to do what you have to do to take care of yourself!

    June 17, 2017 at 4:33 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I’m realizing that I’m not only cutting back on blogging, but so many other things I love. I think that is a sign!

      June 19, 2017 at 10:27 am
  • Reply San

    Good for your for taking care of yourself and making some changes to your schedule. I think it’s good that you recognized that you were overextending yourself…. I still hope you have a good weekend despite having to work!

    June 17, 2017 at 5:25 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Hey, at least I had a WHOLE DAY OFF on Sunday!

      June 19, 2017 at 10:27 am
  • Reply Jill Conyers

    The last time? How about now. I know something has to go but I’m just not sure what.

    June 18, 2017 at 5:38 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      You will figure it out, Jill. You do so much, and it can be hard when you love everything, but maybe there is a chance for a break for you soon.

      June 19, 2017 at 10:26 am
  • Reply Alyssa

    those sweet potato fries >> honestly i’ve been pretty tired too. but I get in the cycle of feeling like I need to be doing something at all times, which I’m really trying to kick. and hm most famous restaurant i’ve been to… uhh not too sure on that one lol I go to chipotle a lot : D have the best rest of your weekend!

    June 18, 2017 at 9:14 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Hahahaha well Chipotle is pretty much a household name!

      June 19, 2017 at 10:26 am
  • Reply Kristy from Southern In Law

    Sending big hugs to you, girl! I am glad you’re giving yourself some grace and reshuffling things around to find a better balance. Taking care of yourself is ESSENTIAL!

    And yay for awesome husbands!

    June 19, 2017 at 4:41 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thank you lovely and preach to that!

      June 26, 2017 at 4:37 pm

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