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Please know that I am reading all the comments that you leave, but please also allow me an extra day or so to respond while I am getting used to my new gig!

first day from where I stand

Before anything else, I want to say thank you. Thank you all for your support and congratulations. It really means the world to Alex and I. Especially to me. I have searched for a job for so long, that to finally get one, after 3 months of pursuing something totally different, and just to have a certain feeling and to act on it because I already had written a cover letter and resume tailored to that…. it’s like everything that I had done, even though often completely unrelated, just converged: Getting to know the city. Prepping for applying to various jobs. Earning the money at the restaurant. Working on the blog. Working on Ramblen. Working on myself. Gaining my confidence. Building myself up, falling, building up again. And then, just when I’m getting things settled in the direction in which I was headed, to have this feeling.

part of the plan

And to act on it. I think that, if nothing else and certainly without me knowing it, getting my NASM certification was the first step for me in trusting my intuition–I had a feeling and acted, unlike in the past when I didn’t. This time, I had a feeling, I looked for other PT jobs (because it still was by no means a certainty), didn’t see any, panicked, and then looked up the general job listings again. I don’t even think that I clicked on any of the filters. And I scrolled. And I clicked. And I didn’t think, I just did it. Ha! Just making that connection, too–Don’t Think, Just do.

Plus, today, I got a call from a recruiter (to the office, I answered the phone) and I had the great pleasure of saying that the position was filled. SUCKASSSSSSSS.

Even more appropriate because it is million dollar listing.

Even more appropriate because it is million dollar listing.

As I look back at my Tough Talk series, I am shocked by my own growth–the mental struggle and evolution that has led me to this place. My yoga practice has also helped me to cement these practices–Breakthrough, or Break down. On Thursday, before my interview, I took C2 with Elyse (one of my faves), and she talked about Relaxed Readiness, a technique used frequently in improv and theater. The idea revolved around the concept that though we may be doing poses that we hadn’t specifically done before, or that we might be doing things that seemed new or were in a different order, our training and muscle memory would help us through if we stayed both relaxed and ready. If we panicked, either on the mat or on stage, we would likely have greater difficulty than if we maintained a state of relaxed readiness, and then reacted as we were trained and as was natural. I had some trepidation that I would be out of my league a little bit with the real estate aspect, but I realized that I have trained for this. I may be rusty, but by trusting myself, I could tap into those reserves.


Yesterday. I walked into the office. It is a small office within a much, much larger company (it is actually separate from the larger development, though offices are shared. My boss works for both, this is his personal company.) It is me, my boss, his partner (and longtime friend), an IT guy, another chief of operations type dude, and then 5 agents, only 1 of whom I met today. It operates like a family, and I will be expected to help out everyone but also to keep tabs on everyone (in a helpful way to benefit all). I will have a lot of very real, rather large responsibilities. And I will be dealing with invoicing, marketing reports, and a few other things that I’ve never done before. At one point, I was feeling kind of overwhelmed. And then I had a little chat with myself. I said to myself, look, you are new to this. And they have already said that they are going to do things with you the first few times, to make sure that everything gets done right. Trust yourself, that you aren’t an idiot. Play to your strengths, admit your weaknesses, and work on them.

And Look awesome

And Look awesome

So that afternoon, they had a bunch of things that came up and that needed to work on, so I (with their blessing, obviously), started to develop blog, site, and social media content for them. I played to my strengths–my Ramblen connections, running, food, lifestyle, what I would want to read about. By the end of an hour, I had a full page of topics of potential interest and another page of tweet examples. Then I worked on fixing the website copy (they have just redone their website completely, so there are a few holes). By the end of the day, I shared the Google Docs with my boss, and you know what? I hit it out of the park. He is freaking excited.

mind blown gif

And HOLY BALLS so am I. There is so much that I can do, that I will learn to do. Some of it will be new to me, but I have to remember that it will just seem new. I have all of the foundations, I just need to build upon them.

Another great tweet that came at the right time, touched my heart, but again, I am only just now realizing that it was perfect at the moment: Allow yourself to be a beginner. No one starts off being excellent.

Relaxed readiness. 

Also, I will have you all know that I showed up to work with 2 giant bags of 479 Popcorn (for the office), 8 mini boxes of jelly beans (courtesy of Laura), oatmeal packets, bars, oyster crackers, an apple, and other miscellaneous crackers.

first day popcorn bribery
Also, I brought flip flops and necessaries (purell, etc). I also told Mom that I’ve already decided that Fridays will be Flats Fridays. She said, “Oh, because it is more casual?” I replied “No, Mom. Saturday’s are for long runs. Thus flats the day before.”


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  • Reply Tina Muir

    Love this Suzy, you are so right! I am trying to follow the “it will all work out” thought path right now, although it is very tough as I have no idea whats coming next. Love that you brought food for the office….you know how to make an office win! 🙂 Good idea with the Friday flats 😉
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    June 10, 2014 at 5:53 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thanks–and of COURSE food was a thought! Gotta be prepared 😉 Sometimes you have to know/remind yourself that things may not all work out peachily, or quickly, or the way you think you want them too, but they will work out, in some form. And as I just told Sarah, I think that it took me taking a step completely back to really realize and accept where I wanted to go, and what I really loved. And when I saw it, I grabbed it.

      June 10, 2014 at 10:46 am
  • Reply Michael Anderson

    “Play to your strengths, and admit your weaknesses”

    If I was to name the issues with people I have worked with through the sat few decades, people I interviewed but didn’t get the job, or that I replaced on project teams, or whatever … THAT would be it.

    I am not stupid – yet I am wrong about stuff every day, and learn. There is enough stuff I don’t know to fill the Library of Congress many times over – some of it I’ve learned before and SHOULD know. But for whatever reason it just isn’t in my brain now. Whatever.

    You are a smart and talented woman, and they are lucky to have you – don’t sweat what you don’t know now … admit, address and learn. You will rock! 🙂
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    June 10, 2014 at 6:05 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thank you so much. I will take that to heart. I want to do this right, and I would rather look stupid for a second than truly dumb in retrospect.

      June 10, 2014 at 10:44 am
  • Reply Sarah @pickyrunner

    This makes me so happy for you. Like so unbelievably happy. I think that’s my favorite part about blogging- the ability to go back and see how much we’ve grown. Because we all have, and that’s pretty fantastic. You have come such a long way and since I’m in that same job-limbo, you now serve as inspiration as well. I can’t wait to hear how you grow into this new role of yours 🙂
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    June 10, 2014 at 6:33 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thank you, my dear friend. I can only hope that you will find something as I have. I know you will–it just might take nearly giving up on something to realize how much you value it.

      June 10, 2014 at 10:43 am
  • Reply meredith @ The Cookie ChRUNicles

    I am happy for you. First days on the job and even the first month take a lot of time adjusting and can be so scary but you are so totally doing it! And yes to the flats the day before the long run.
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    June 10, 2014 at 8:38 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Haha thanks. It’s going to be a transition but the atmosphere feels right, and that helps a ton.

      June 10, 2014 at 10:42 am
  • Reply Mama Salt

    Haha DUH mom. 🙂 Fridays are definitely Flats days for me too. I LOVE that you have been there exactly one day and have already taken so much initiative in the social media/web aspect. You are going to consistently wow the pants off them! And you look fabulous in your work attire too. So proud of you, friend. <3

    June 10, 2014 at 9:04 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thank you! The real question is: could I wow the pants off a fish like #dashofsalt?

      June 10, 2014 at 10:41 am
  • Reply Sarah

    So exciting! I’m so happy you’re fitting in well in your new job! Also, your skirt game is ON POINT. But I think the true star of this post is that amazing pair of purple/pink running tights. Where did you get those?!?!?!
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    June 10, 2014 at 9:17 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      haha Athleta–the Blossom knickers. I talk about them on a treat yourself tuesday post and also a mimm post (both in April) if you follow the tags

      June 10, 2014 at 10:40 am
  • Reply Susie's mommy, Clare

    Play to your strengths and admit your weaknesses–I really like that!
    and you might find that, in time, some of your weaknesses become your greatest strengths!

    June 10, 2014 at 10:04 am
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      June 10, 2014 at 10:39 am
  • Reply Heather @ PrettyHealthyMostoftheTime

    Yay! I’m glad to hear your first day went well! Don’t worry, I won’t be offended if you don’t respond to everything I say. I’m off work right now so I will be doing the opposite and stalking your blog more than usual 🙂
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    June 10, 2014 at 10:11 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Tee hee, stalk away. (also, this comment is a bit ironic because I said I might not be able to. Hmmmm.)

      June 10, 2014 at 10:38 am
  • Reply Jenni @ Fitzala

    Love this! I totally can identify with wanting to be the best at everything. It’s a great reminder that I don’t have to be! Super excited for you and your new job, you’ll do great (and already are!) You’re a go getter and will have no issues getting up to speed 🙂
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    June 10, 2014 at 10:39 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thanks for the confidence and ego boost. Every time I am doubting myself, I’ll just be like Jenni says I can, SO LET”S DO THIS

      June 11, 2014 at 6:35 am
  • Reply Erica @ erica finds

    Love this post! I hope to write a similar one soon. It is amazing how the “hobbies” we have make us career ready for new things.

    Good luck and remember to go easy on yourself! I feel like you will knock it out of the park daily!
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    June 10, 2014 at 10:43 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I hope so! I can’t wait to see your take on the little things that lead us to big places.

      June 11, 2014 at 6:34 am
  • Reply Sara @ lifebetweenthemiles

    I had a huge smile on my face reading this. Not only did you looks fantastic, but clearly you wow’d them..AND ALL ON YOUR FIRST DAY!! You will be great there, and you have the right attitude. Remember, everyone starts at being a novice at everything, it takes time and patience to master things, so sit tight, soak it all up and in a few months, you will laugh at this time!! You are amazing friend! xo
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    June 10, 2014 at 11:30 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      THANK YOU. And thank you as well for the support–you say I am amazing, but you are just, if not more, so.

      June 11, 2014 at 6:33 am
  • Reply Courtney @RunningforCupcakes

    Everyday is flats day for me! I’m way too clumsy to wear heels all the time. I’m so happy you are already doing so well at your new job! The few days are always scary but once you get adjusted it’s so much better. I love that the company is like a big family, it will make going to work so much easier and fun!
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    June 10, 2014 at 11:42 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Don’t I know it. I was in such a toxic environment at my last job that this is such a breath of fresh air. And I’m suckkkking it in

      June 11, 2014 at 6:32 am
  • Reply Laura @ the gluten-free treadmill

    I oh so totally got the flats reference. In fact, that’s why most of my days are flats days (which I never could have imagined a year ago).

    I’m loving hearing about how things are working out for you, and I think relaxed readiness is the perfect term. As is “you got this!”
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    June 10, 2014 at 2:03 pm
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      June 11, 2014 at 6:32 am
  • Reply Hilary

    Ahh new jobs are so exciting! And my current job I do all that invoicing and nonsense you were talking about and you will totally excel at it, the hard part is the social media that you totally have it in the bag! Way to impress 🙂
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    June 10, 2014 at 3:16 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thanks darling. And yes, it is utter nonsense x100000

      June 11, 2014 at 6:31 am
  • Reply Ange @ Cowgirl Runs

    And that would be why I’m always in flats.
    So many heels, but can’t wear ’em. 🙂
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    June 10, 2014 at 3:18 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I figured that I would wear them periodically, mostly because I’ve been wanting the excuse to, but yeah, I rarely wear heels anymore, even more so when going out–hello, I have to WALK there? NO THANK YOU

      June 11, 2014 at 6:30 am
  • Reply Tiffany @ The Chi-Athlete

    WOOT WOOT for kicking ass and taking names already! And yes, yes to “Flats Friday”. Duh. I’m a P.E. teacher, so every workday is “Old, Worn-Out Mizunos Day”. 😛
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    June 10, 2014 at 4:07 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Hey, I still think they are sexy!!!

      June 11, 2014 at 6:29 am
  • Reply Carson

    I just love this and I love how you were able to use all your social media know-how to really impress the new boss! We all know you are awesome, so it is great to see how quick the new boss and co-workers will learn this as well!
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    June 10, 2014 at 5:54 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      AAAAAWWWWWWWWWWWWWW this is like a big hug

      June 11, 2014 at 6:29 am
  • Reply Brianna @ I run He tris

    I’m glad you enjoyed the first day! There is always a learning curve with any new job but you have the right attitude! Just relax and you’ll rock it!! 🙂 I think bringing food will when over any new coworker. If they don’t like good food then there is probably no pleasing them.
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    June 10, 2014 at 7:27 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Exactly. And if they don’t like 479 then they fail my acceptability tests. Luckily, they passed 😀

      June 11, 2014 at 6:29 am
  • Reply Dannii @ Hungry Healthy Happy

    Congrats on the job 🙂
    I always tell myself that things will workout in the end, because they always have in the past.
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    June 11, 2014 at 5:03 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thank you! And I know what you mean–I tell myself something similar, but I’ve made the addendum that things will work out, not maybe the way that you want them to, but they always work out.

      June 11, 2014 at 6:27 am
  • Reply Irene

    Congratulations on the new job!! And it’s so great that you were able to impress your boss so quickly!
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    June 11, 2014 at 8:58 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thank you! Let’s hope I can keep it up 😉

      June 11, 2014 at 11:49 am
  • Reply Gabi @ Lean Green Island Girl

    Flats Friday, love it! Congratulations on the new job, the positive attitude and the relaxed readiness! I’ll have to carry some of that with me during my upcoming career transition. Go Suz!
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    June 11, 2014 at 10:12 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thank you! Now that I think about it, relaxed readiness is very similar to your approach to your tri, just a little different application. So boom, you’re already there 🙂

      June 11, 2014 at 11:51 am
  • Reply Mo (@rushourunner)

    Haha flats Fridays! Love it! I work at home 3 days/week (including Fridays), so I wear a lot of flats 🙂
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    June 12, 2014 at 10:51 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I will be damned if I have problems because of wearing heels. Flats are where it’s AT

      June 12, 2014 at 9:07 pm
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