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No Great Thing is Created Suddenly

No great thing is created suddenly. A statement that could not be more true as I am working on the project of my life. 

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Last week, I mentioned working on an ebook. Well, I still am writing… and the book will likely be electronic… but I am starting to broaden my scope. I don’t want to say exactly what it is about, not yet, in case I end up needing to rein it back in for the time being (either way, I am writing it!), but each day since I made the decision last week (that hasn’t involved parents being here) I have worked on my project. I now have a rough outline, a VERY rough proposal, and the beginnings of sources. 

I feel like I was meant to do this project. I know that Suzy has also recently gone public with her own book (she’s putzed around long enough, right? lol love you boo), and I also imagine that she feels like her project is something… maybe not that she was born to do, but what she has lived to create. I feel the same way about my book. 

No great thing is created suddenly, least of all the greatest projects of our lives. @suzlyfe suzlyfe.com

 

At first, I was toying around with one idea to build into an ebook, and that was actually the book that I mentioned last week. But when I talked to my Coaching Mastermind Group last Wednesday (it was my turn in the hot seat), I discussed these books with them, and then, at the end of the conversation, I threw out this other idea, one that I have long been contemplating (in various iterations). And they literally said, STOP. That is your idea. That is your topic. Do it. Own it. Love it. 

With every comment and every thought that succeeded it, I grew increasingly excited. 

The past 6 months (wow, has it really been that long since my colonoscopy and going off of birth control?) have been really, really rocky for me, mentally. The highs have been really high, but with each high, I’ve fallen rather low. Not manic/depressive, but definitely comfortably high and to uncomfortably low.

Success is not a straight line! This is what the road to success really looks like. Suzlyfe.com 

Monday, after my parents left, was a low after a fantastic high. A low where I knew it was Depression talking to some extent, but also something else building below the surface. I texted my mom that morning and called her that afternoon. 

I went for a walk around the neighborhood and talked to her. Back and forth to the verge of tears. I told her how lost but yet not lost I felt, how frustrated I was with certain circumstances, but also with my mental state concerning those circumstances. As I talked and talked, I ultimately came back to my project, which I had announced to my family over the weekend. 

And as I spoke, I realized how passionate I am about this project. How maybe, just maybe, these pieces of my life, the ups, downs, and all arounds, my work in graduate school (learning to write, learning to think about the world in a different way), my fight to find myself again after jobs didn’t work out, finding myself again in running, then the blog, and then coaching and training. 

Talking it out, I realized how I feel that I am, more than anyone else I know, uniquely prepared and uniquely positioned to pursue this mission and go after this project. 

All of the sudden, my world shifted. The air became clearer. I felt calmer. I felt like all of this movement, all of this change, wasn’t because I couldn’t decide what I wanted to do with my life, but rather because I wasn’t thinking about the fact that my story simply hadn’t unfolded yet. I was looking at chapters, rather than the whole story. 

We are all a work in progress, so stop beating yourself up! Give yourself time to grow and develop. Suzlyfe.com

Does this mean that I know exactly what to do, that the road ahead is obvious? HELL, NO. I have so, so much work to do. If I am to do this project the way that I want to, this is going to take months, I am going to have to make some real decisions, I am going to need funding, and I am going to put myself, and my family, in a very vulnerable place, especially financially. 

But this project, like when I found architectural history, which brought together my love of history and architecture, aethetics and theory, this project seems to be my chance to synthesize the seemingly disparate parts of my life. 

When life's pieces shift in to place, you realize the importance of your journey #inspiration Click To Tweet

So, while things may change, this project may never come to fruition in the way that I am presently imagining, I am at least excited about the future. Sometimes, we need to take a journey, we need to stop being so hard on ourselves, and we need to keep searching. Don’t forget the pieces of your life that have brought you to now–you may still need them, even in a way you are not expecting. 

I’ve had these moments before, I will have them again. But I am going to celebrate each one as a moment that might change the course of my life. Celebrate each mile, every victory, and love yourself and your life for providing you with the moment of clarity and the opportunity to become something even greater.

Tell me about a moment of clarity in your life.

What is your favorite stone fruit? (Peach, Plum, Cherry, Nectarine)

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94 Comments

  • Reply Heather @Lunging Through Life

    Ahh Suz I am soo excited for you on this! I know it will be fantastic! Seriously, if it’s making you vulnerable, it’s going to be worth all the time and effort. Things DO take time, and those ones are worth it!

    August 4, 2016 at 6:08 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      My family and this project, they are so worth it!

      August 5, 2016 at 4:47 pm
  • Reply Suzlyfe's mommy, Clare

    There is an old saying that
    “when God closes a door, he opens a window”
    I sort of rephrased that to
    “keep your doors and windows open, and then just see what comes in”

    You’ve been doing that for quite awhile, and a few doors have slammed you in the face, but THIS door has been there all along……now you are ready to walk through it.

    You go girl!

    love you,
    Mommy

    August 4, 2016 at 6:11 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I am so tired of the slamming doors that I decided to just rough in some myself!

      August 5, 2016 at 4:47 pm
  • Reply Megan @ Skinny Fitalicious

    Yay for the ebook! PS it’s very easy to turn it into a real book with self publishing! Proud of you!!!

    August 4, 2016 at 6:13 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I will likely be picking your brain!

      August 5, 2016 at 4:45 pm
  • Reply Rae

    Way to build the mystery and anticipation, my dear! I can’t wait to see what you’re working on. Also, my favorite stone fruit (really the only one I like) is cherry.

    August 4, 2016 at 6:23 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      HOW CAN YOU ONLY LIKE CHERRIES THAT IS BLASPHEMY

      August 5, 2016 at 4:45 pm
  • Reply Alicia @Bridges Through Life

    This is great Suz. Go after it! No matter how long it takes, it’s a journey to get there and I know you will.
    Also thank you for this “talk” as it is so inspiring and encouraging to me to work towards big goals I have.

    August 4, 2016 at 6:26 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I’m so excited to hear about them, Alicia! GO and Go and GOOOOO for it!

      August 5, 2016 at 4:44 pm
  • Reply Rebecca @ Strength and Sunshine

    O I’m excited for you 🙂 Those moments of clarity can be SO good! I think getting to talk it out with someone, and just let all your thoughts out on the topic can really jumpstart the passion too!
    (Stone fruit….so hard…but I’ll go with cherries and nectarines!!!) 😉

    August 4, 2016 at 6:34 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thank you, Rebecca! Next question: what type of cherries 😀

      August 5, 2016 at 4:43 pm
  • Reply Kimberly Hatting

    this, indeed, sounds like a great adventure you’re embarking upon! My favorite fruit is nectarine 😉

    August 4, 2016 at 6:53 am
  • Reply Dietitian Jess

    Sounds like you are feeling really inspired so go for it- can’t wait to follow along with the journey and see the final product!

    August 4, 2016 at 6:53 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thank you so much, Jess!

      August 5, 2016 at 4:42 pm
  • Reply Debbie @ Coach Debbie Runs

    I am excited for you! As challenging as it can seem, it is the journey that makes up our lives, not the destination.

    August 4, 2016 at 6:56 am
  • Reply OmniRest

    I think you need about 10 more squiggly lines for the graph to success! Great article!

    August 4, 2016 at 7:00 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thank you! And you are too right!

      August 5, 2016 at 4:40 pm
  • Reply Sarah @ BucketListTummy

    This is so exciting! I look forward to hearing more about your Ebook – you have so much to offer so yay that you are bringing that forward. My favorite stone fruit are hands down, peaches.

    August 4, 2016 at 7:02 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thank you, Sarah! I’m really excited to get to work! And YAS for peaches!

      August 5, 2016 at 4:40 pm
  • Reply Emily @ My Healthyish Life

    I’m excited for you and selfishly for me (to one day get the book). This post is everything and hit me hard. Chapters are a THING. They aren’t our full story (<–what I've been telling myself lately).

    August 4, 2016 at 7:21 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I know where you are right now, in your life, and I know how you are struggling. Hang in there, my love. This is indeed just a chapter of an epic saga!

      August 5, 2016 at 4:40 pm
  • Reply Sarah

    I love what your mom said above. It is so true. As I sit here right now, in a totally different place than I thought I would be last year, it is crazy how life makes twists and turns. Rolling with it is the only way to survive and it is awesome to see where it takes you.

    August 4, 2016 at 7:29 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      But it can be scary when the roller coaster stops and you are upside down!

      August 5, 2016 at 4:39 pm
  • Reply shawna

    Good for you, chasing this dream! I’ve known since I could pick up a pen(cil) that my life passion and goal and what I was born to do was to write, and I struggle every day with the fact that I still haven’t made the commitment or figured out exactly what the focus will be for writing my book. But it will happen. It’s my destiny.

    August 4, 2016 at 7:45 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      You definitely are destined to write a book. No question!

      August 5, 2016 at 4:38 pm
  • Reply Brie @ Lean, Clean, & Brie

    Love this and am so excited for your ebook! 🙂

    August 4, 2016 at 7:52 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thank you, Brie! (and happy birthday!)

      August 5, 2016 at 4:38 pm
  • Reply Julie @ Running in a Skirt

    I’m so glad you found a project and love to distract you from all the other crap going on. You will need it! I can’t wait to read your book and I’m sure it will be awesome.
    Are you really going to make me pick ONE stone fruit? Can’t do, will not do. 🙂

    August 4, 2016 at 8:01 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Spoken like a true Southerner, and I love it.

      August 5, 2016 at 4:37 pm
  • Reply KaellaOnTheRun

    I am so excited for you and proud of you. I can’t wait to read whatever you write as I know it’ll be perfectly you.

    August 4, 2016 at 8:05 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thank you, Kaella!

      August 5, 2016 at 4:37 pm
  • Reply kat

    This is so amazing and I am so excited for you. I think that everyone prays for this moment – when they find something that they are so passionate about they cant NOT pursue it. I can’t wait to see how this all unfolds for you.

    August 4, 2016 at 8:09 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thank you, Kat. It isn’t going to be easy, but what worth having is?

      August 5, 2016 at 4:37 pm
  • Reply EB @ Running on E

    Yes. I am so excited for you that you’ve found something that lights your fire. There is nothing like the feeling of having passion and inspiration ignited.
    Stone fruits. It’s too early in the morning to make such large decisions, but I would have to say nectarine or plum.

    August 4, 2016 at 8:12 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Not a Georgia Peach? TRAITOR

      August 5, 2016 at 4:36 pm
  • Reply Ellen @ My Uncommon Everyday

    I am so, so, so happy for you! I think we all need (somewhat concrete) reasons to be excited for what’s to come. That is, something beyond, “Well, I have some pretty cool people to hang out with and I can run and eat good food.” YAY for having one of those.
    Nectarines. I’ll sub them with peaches, but nectarines.

    August 4, 2016 at 8:21 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I know you like having a job and a purpose, and you know that I am right there with you!

      August 5, 2016 at 4:35 pm
  • Reply Danielle @ The T-Rex Runner

    Congratulations on finding something that is lighting your fire right now! I can’t wait to hear more about it. I have toyed around with writing a book/ebook for many years but just can’t seem to find the time. It really overwhelms me. I know what a huge commitment that is, so I am proud of you for making the leap!

    August 4, 2016 at 8:37 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thank you, Danielle. You do so much–job, teaching, running, ambassadorships, I can imagine that it would be very overwhelming. But I also know that you will rock it out, when the time is right. I’ll let you know how my piece of all this goes!

      August 5, 2016 at 4:34 pm
  • Reply Jessica Marie

    Oh my gosh, keep going for it! This post comes at a funny time, because I just published an e-book to Kindle yesterday! It’s funny how once the idea of writing a book comes into your head, you just can’t let it go until you write it.

    August 4, 2016 at 8:41 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      That is so exciting! I will definitely check it out!

      August 5, 2016 at 4:32 pm
  • Reply Suzy

    There is nothing like that feeling we get when we make a right decision. You know, there’s a book (I recommend the audiobook, actually, because Amanda reads it herself and her voice is incredible) that pops into my mind and it’s called the Art of Asking by Amanda Palmer. I KNOW you would love it. You’re going to have no problem writing the book itself but I can see you struggle with all the other things you listed (funding, financial vulnerability with relationships, etc) and her words about this stuff are BRILLIANT.

    August 4, 2016 at 8:50 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I will definitely put it on my list. Thank you Suzy!

      August 5, 2016 at 4:31 pm
  • Reply Laura @ This Runner's Recipes

    I am so excited for you – yesterday listening to you talk about it made me so happy because of how much direction and clarity you had. You’re awesome.
    I haven’t had stone fruit at all this summer, but usually peaches are my favorite.

    August 4, 2016 at 9:12 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Laura, it is thanks to you and Denny and Nora that I finally am getting the courage to go forward with this. Thank YOU

      August 5, 2016 at 4:30 pm
  • Reply Sara

    Yay for an e-book, can we put ourselves on an advanced copy list? So happy for you and glad you had the direction and clarity you needed. You have an incredible voice and I cannot wait to hear what this book will be about. Also….can we answer all the stone fruits? Seriously, I live to eat all of them–they are my favs!

    August 4, 2016 at 9:20 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      All the stone fruits IS the right answer 😀 and you can get a signed copy 😀

      August 5, 2016 at 4:29 pm
  • Reply Liz @ I Heart Vegetables

    I can’t wait to see where your idea takes you!!! It sounds like you’re headed down an exciting path 🙂

    August 4, 2016 at 9:24 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thank you so much, Liz. It is going to be quite a journey!

      August 5, 2016 at 4:27 pm
  • Reply Emily

    YOUR mom is a gem Suzie, and I just love how you are so close to her. I’m close with my mommy too, which is such a gift, and I’m so thankful that talking it out with her gave you so much clarity. Don’t you just love those moments? Sometimes the greatest mountains come after the darkest valleys. I literally can not wait to come along with you on this crazy amazing ride. <3 You are loved Suzy.

    August 4, 2016 at 9:58 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      You are a gem as well, Emily! ANd thank you, I can’t take any credit for her, but yes, my mom is amazing.

      August 5, 2016 at 4:27 pm
  • Reply Wendy@Taking the Long Way Home

    There’s nothing like a big goal to get a person fired up! I need one of those! Been a tough summer for me as well. Hang in there…

    August 4, 2016 at 9:59 am
  • Reply Ashley @ A Lady Goes West

    Susie! You are SO right! It takes time to get ANYWHERE worth going. And I think it’s awesome that you have an idea for a book and are starting to work on it. I can’t wait to see what it’s going to be about, friend. Great post!

    August 4, 2016 at 10:06 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thank you, Ashley!

      August 5, 2016 at 4:25 pm
  • Reply Bri

    I’m so excited to see what you “birth”, so to speak! If you havent read Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert yet, you gotta. Totally relates to what you’re creating right now!

    August 4, 2016 at 10:10 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I definitely need to. I’ve heard amazing things about that book!

      August 5, 2016 at 4:25 pm
  • Reply Nicole @ Fitful Focus

    WEEEE!! I’m so excited for you! I know it’s going to be awesome because, well, it’s you!

    August 4, 2016 at 10:32 am
  • Reply Tiffany @ The Chi-Athlete

    Oh, Boo, I teared up* while reading this. I L-O-V-E that you have this new focus; and it’s one that is going to be SO AWESOME for other people! Your words, your smirk, your wit, your wisdom, and your snarkity-snark-snark are things we all need. I am so pumped for you.

    Regarding this talk, our chats as of late (let’s go get sushi tomorrow or next week?!), and things I know that you’re going through —–> It’s A LOT. But you’re so right…at some point, we look at all of the broken pieces and start to re-make, re-build, re-structure what it once was. You’ve got this, no matter what —- You’ve got this.

    *Girl parts doing their thing in 3…2…1…

    August 4, 2016 at 10:40 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      YES PLEASE SUSHI SOON. And I heart your lady parts 😀 We’ve both got this xoxox

      August 5, 2016 at 4:24 pm
  • Reply Emma Sapio

    Wow, this is a great post. I know it’s scary to embrace the unknown future, but you got this!

    August 4, 2016 at 11:16 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thank you, Emma! That means a lot..

      August 5, 2016 at 4:24 pm
  • Reply Dannii @ Hungry Healthy Happy

    Working on a book can be amazingly cathartic. I loved being able to tell my story through my book and sharing it with the world. Send a proposal out to some agents and see what they say 🙂

    August 4, 2016 at 12:21 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      That’s what I am currently working on! But that also is really overwhelming.

      August 5, 2016 at 4:23 pm
  • Reply Morgan @ Morgan Manages Mommyhood

    This is awesome, Susie! I am so excited to hear more about your project when you’re ready. Just the passion you speak with when simply talking about HOW passionate you are about your project is inspiring. I have a few things that I’ve been toying with working on, and a few I am SO, SO passionate about, but I really need to just force myself to make the time to sit and flesh them out. You’ve inspired me!

    August 4, 2016 at 2:29 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      YAY! That is the best thing that anyone could possibly have said after reading this post!

      August 5, 2016 at 4:23 pm
  • Reply Jo @ Living Mint Green

    I’m so excited for you. You have so much talent and creativity to share with the world and I know a lot of people look to you as their role model. That’s the thing about being a creative type – knowing you want to share your gifts and knowledge but then getting “stuck” on what it’s going to look like at the end. You’re wise to take it one step (and breath!) at a time and assemble the puzzle pieces one at a time, and as you see fit. And even then, if you don’t like what you’ve created, you can always begin again. Exciting, juicy stuff!!! 🙂

    August 4, 2016 at 3:24 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thank you so much, Jo! And you are so write. I think I’ve really been stuck in trying to figure out the best avenue to actually apply my skills. Or skillz? Who is to say.

      August 5, 2016 at 4:22 pm
  • Reply Helly on the Run

    My two favorite Suzys writing books!!! My world can’t be any better <3

    August 4, 2016 at 3:35 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Awww you are so sweet!

      August 5, 2016 at 4:21 pm
  • Reply Jennifer @ Fit Nana

    That squiggly line quickly straightens out after those moments of clarity. I love those! Good luck with your book! And, pass me all the cherries, please! 😉

    August 4, 2016 at 6:20 pm
  • Reply Ellie

    A moment of clarity in my life was when I moved out of my parent’s house. I finally felt like I could be who I wanted to be, with no judgement.
    Then everything got really hard…but it was so worth it 🙂
    I’d say nectarines. Or plums, but only if they are perfectly ripe.

    August 4, 2016 at 7:33 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      And you have grown so much into yourself because of it!

      August 5, 2016 at 4:20 pm
  • Reply Anna @ Piper's Run

    I’m sure that writing this ebook is exactly what you need right now. Though the topic is unknown, you seem so passionate about it and have lots of support. Sounds like the right thing to do. Also, so glad you can chat with your Mom at times like that. I struggle after I spend a lot of time with my husband and then he goes back to work and I’m “stuck” with the girls. I’m never stuck with my own girls but that first day on my own with them feels so hard sometimes. And sometimes it’s just not a pretty day but I get through it (knowing I’ll run later that evening, haha!).

    August 4, 2016 at 7:34 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thank goodness she picked up. But yes, I am so, so fortunate to have her there for me!

      August 5, 2016 at 4:20 pm
  • Reply Rachel

    Oooh, a book! Can’t wait to hear about it.

    August 4, 2016 at 8:15 pm
  • Reply Hannah

    How exciting! I love when all the seemingly random pieces come together.

    Favorite stone fruit: peaches and cherries together. Don’t make me choose.

    August 4, 2016 at 9:05 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I would never make you choose 😀

      August 5, 2016 at 4:18 pm
  • Reply Cora

    Well isn’t this just the best possible thing I could have read this evening.
    I am so, so excited for you Suz – but not just for the obvious notions of you writing a book (which is obviously going to be stellar – I’d gladly read a book about dishes drying if I knew you wrote it…). I am excited for these feelings you are having that are telling you everything thus far in your life has happened for a reason, and this spark that you are seeing arise at the end of what has been a massively difficult journey. Because it has all happened for a reason, and like you said, you are the most uniquely prepared and positioned person to do this. Hell, the ONLY person to do this. “…maybe not born to do but lived to create.” I LOVE THIS.
    Keep strong hold of these feelings my dear, and go after this with full arms/legs/allthephalanges blazing.

    August 4, 2016 at 10:03 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      You are the sweetest. person. ever. Thank you so much Cora. I want to frame this.

      August 5, 2016 at 4:18 pm
  • Reply Linda @ Veganosity

    Oh the mystery, it’s killing me! Congrats on finding your passion and best of luck writing it. I can’t wait to read it, my friend.

    August 5, 2016 at 7:40 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I can’t wait to really start working on it!

      August 5, 2016 at 4:07 pm
  • Reply Heather @ Life In Leggings

    Congrats on the decision to write an ebook! That’s so exciting. And trust me, the process of trying to grow your family can be just plain awful. I too have the highest of high days paired with the lowest of lows. It’s such a rocky roller coaster of emotions, all the time. Hang in there, kid. <3

    August 5, 2016 at 10:16 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      You, too, lady. I know you know all too well the lows. I’m hoping that having something else to captivate me in some ways will help me maintain my balance.

      August 5, 2016 at 3:59 pm
  • Reply Jill

    Well I cannot wait to see what you do!!!! The suspense may kill me. Those moments of inspiration and clarity are often rare but right on and just the way you’re talking about it and the way others have seen that this is IT means you’re headed in the right direction! This is so exciting!!!

    August 5, 2016 at 2:17 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thank you, Jilly. I want to do this the right way, which might been it will take more time than I would like, but it will be worth it!

      August 5, 2016 at 3:51 pm
  • Reply Heather @ Polyglot Jot

    Congratulations! What a big decision! I am kind of in a limbo time/phase in life right now where things arent exactly as i want them to be. Im in between a moment of clarity and working on things that im passionate about. I think often times when we focus on our passions, we get those moments of clarity!

    August 5, 2016 at 5:31 pm
  • Reply Kristy from Southern In Law

    Hooray for the eBook! I really really cannot wait to find out what this super secret project is!

    August 5, 2016 at 6:54 pm
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