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How to Make Friends and Influence People (Weekend Recap)

Ever wondered how to make friends and influence people? I did, too, but based on this weekend, I think I’ve got it down pretty well!

As evidenced by this weekend, there are a few ways to make friends and influence people. And somehow, they all seem to come back to the same things, at least in my case!

Linking up with Katie for Marvelous Monday!


We worked to clean out the freezer Thursday and Friday nights, finishing off the Chicken Kale soup on Thursday and the last of my chili powder free turkey chili (don’t worry, both had been in the freezer, lol)

with sweet potato chips and a Bourbon and diet ginger-ale (our current drink of choice when not drinking beer). I got a high compliment when Alex declared my chili better than the chili that he was eating (sorry, bud, but I claimed the last of my own), which was store bought (and had chili powder in it). SHAZAAM. 

Saturday brought hella cold temps and flurries all day (called it), so we kinda loafed around the apartment until later. And yes, I napped. That afternoon, we headed out for a nice long walk to our destination for the evening, and on the way ran into Erica, so we stopped on the sidewalk for a quick catch up (and some exciting news!). 

By the time that we got to our destination, Bitter Pops Tasting Room, we were a bit munchy, but Alex was being stubborn. Luckily, I have no shame, and soon procured cookies for me and jerky for us. Thanks to our Groupon, we also secured beer flights of all totally new to us beers, and we sat down at one half of a picnic table from two girls.

 Bitter Pops tasting room has an incredible selection of draft beers and beers to buy in their tasting room! Check out the flights! @suzlyfe

I don’t remember how exactly we ingratiated ourselves, but soon we were chatting with the girls about their dog (Bitter Pops allows dogs, which is awesome), the beers we liked, and before I knew it, we were planning to play card games with them! 

Two flights, 4 craft pints pints and an hour later, we had had a total blast with the Sarahs (as they both were named). Seriously, they were the sweetest people, and we totally bonded over our love of dogs, the fact that the Sarah I was sitting next to has UC (and I have Crohns), and then finding out all about her upcoming trip around the world. It seems that I know so many people doing that now! Jen, Alicia, Rhys (she is the OG of people I know doing the around the world exploration), and friends like Erica and Danielle are always going out and taking these amazing trips. I think that we are all learning life is short, you have to honor what is within you.

Alex and I went to Bareburger next door for dinner. It was alright. I got a Mexican style salad with pico de gallo and guacamole topped with an elk burger, Alex got a fried chicken sandwich, and we shared the onion rings and 4 awesome sauces.

The food was good, and I appreciated their responsible sourcing, but I wouldn’t say that I would go out of my way for the food and the bartender (we were sitting at the bar) was definitely… on something. That said, we had a lovely time, and it was just the ticket after a few hours of craft beer!

Sunday, neither Alex nor I was our best. Alex woke up in the middle of the night with nausea (alcohol gastritis), and I woke up in the middle of the night with my headache, which abated with Tylenol but returned with a vengeance later on. Even so, it was a beautiful (if windy) day, and so I walked back from my ultrasound appointment while Alex took Ridley out for a spin.

I swore I wouldn’t eat the entire eggplant in one sitting. You know that I did. Sorry, not sorry.

Later on, we went on a really long walk with the Riddles, taking a new route!

We were laying low, conserving out energy, because that night, we got to meet up with the entire team from Team Challenge for dinner at Hopcat! Those crack fries aren’t going to eat themselves!

It was so great to have my team around me. I’ve missed my kids (because you know that I think of them that way, even though I’m only a year or two older than them), and I’ve missed helping them with their running. I’m hoping that I will be able to coach them for the upcoming seasons, and maybe even go to a race one of these days–that would bring everything full circle for me. Obviously, I won’t be able to run with anyone for the next 4 weeks (stupid ovaries and your swollen-ness. Do your job so we don’t have to do this again!), but if all goes well, I should be right on schedule to start back with them as they start up in April. 

And yes, froyo was had afterwards. #allforyoshi

Froyo time! Snow Dragon Shavery @suzlyfe

I didn’t watch the Oscars. I used to live for that stuff, but honestly? It just isn’t really on my radar anymore. I taught myself to read while running on treadmills by using US and People magazines, and I flipped through one the other day and was like, ok, whatever. I guess my life is interesting enough, or, alternatively, the lives of my friends and family are more interesting and meaningful than the lives of the rich and famous. (I am excited for Emma Stone, though, she was fantastic in La La Land. I don’t know if she was that fantastic, as I haven’t seen the others, but good for her. That said, Steve Harvey was a trendsetter with his Miss Universe dust up. )

Yet. I still watch Real Housewives. But I wouldn’t say that I really care about them, I just find them entertaining. And so frustrating and bewildering. Ah well, you can’t be perfect!

This week, I am going to be in and out of the various doctors, Alex is on service as an attending, Ashley is coming to visit (YAY!), we are trying a new meal kit delivery service, and I have tons of reviews and things to write for you guys. Maybe my life isn’t as exciting and dramatic as the Real Housewives, but then again, it does just fine by me!

Suz has the secret to making friends, and this weekend was proof of that! #sweatpink #weekendrecap Click To Tweet

Oh, and the answer to how to make friends and influence people? Be authentically yourself, find other people who are authentically themselves, and take chances by opening yourself up.

The secret to making friends? Be Authentically You, Find Others Who Are Authentic, Take Chances and Make Connections @Suzlyfe

And maybe drink a beer (if you are sober) or at the very least, offer food.

What is your secret to making friends and influencing people?

Do you have wanderlust?

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  • Reply Carla

    OK you totally have me distracted by the fact bitter pops allows our canines!!
    I think all restaurants should allow us to bring our four-legged sidekicks.
    And you know my philosophy. When we show up as authentic we create space for others to do the same <3
    Carla recently posted…Poverty Porn: is voluntourism wrong?My Profile

    February 27, 2017 at 5:04 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I TOTALLY AGREE. Maybe not health code, but whatever

      February 28, 2017 at 8:45 pm
  • Reply Megan @ Skinny Fitalicious

    I’m a serious houswives addict as well. Sometimes you just can’t help watch drama. The Orange County ones are my fav. How about you?
    Megan @ Skinny Fitalicious recently posted…Comment on The Sunday Skinny 2/26/17 by Julie @ Running in a SkirtMy Profile

    February 27, 2017 at 5:20 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I think they all have their merits. Except for Miami, they are worthless. And terrifying looking (the mom, oy)

      February 28, 2017 at 8:46 pm
  • Reply Heather @Lunging Through Life

    I alwayyysss read magazines when running- before I started reading blogs on my ipad, and now I pick them up and seriously say what the heck. I flip through and down they go. Sort of sad, ha. I am glad you guys had so much fun chatting with others! I actually feel like I miss out on that before I don’t like beer, ha. Now take me to a strawberry daquiri bar and I’ll be talking to everyone!
    Heather @Lunging Through Life recently posted…Top 5 From the WeekendMy Profile

    February 27, 2017 at 5:49 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      bhahaha there must be one somewhere!

      February 28, 2017 at 8:46 pm
  • Reply Ellen @ My Uncommon Everyday

    My most common reply when people are talking about celebrities is, “Who’s that?” It gets a lot of laughs, but it’s for real.
    And I give people baked goods and listen to their problems, and that pretty much guarantees instant friendship πŸ™‚
    Ellen @ My Uncommon Everyday recently posted…My First Half Marathon (+ Weekend Recap)My Profile

    February 27, 2017 at 5:55 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      And I bring you mini wines and granola. It works πŸ˜€

      February 28, 2017 at 8:47 pm
  • Reply Emily

    YES girl; I used to feel like I had to do everything in order to be friends with everybody, but I was putting on a show for other people which is not a good idea, ever. I love that you did what you loved to do this weekend with your family and friends. That fro-yo is making me want fro-yo for breakfast.
    Emily recently posted…Tough Life Questions: Am I Ready To Face Death?My Profile

    February 27, 2017 at 6:09 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I bet you could make that happen! No food rules!

      February 28, 2017 at 8:43 pm
  • Reply Sarah

    We feel the same way about Bareburger. They are all over NYC and everyone just loves them but I can’t say that there is anything special or really awesome about them. We also have had pretty subpar service there several times. Honestly, Homer’s in Wilmette is my favorite classic splurge burger. Just like you would have it off of the grill in the summer.
    Sarah recently posted…Good Races vs. Bad RacesMy Profile

    February 27, 2017 at 6:23 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Then we need to go there. On the list.

      February 28, 2017 at 8:43 pm
  • Reply Deborah @ Confessions of a mother runner

    Always love to see all of your epic eats from the weekends. I am no into the Oscars anymore either and this year I have not even seen any of the movies-oops. Looks like a great weekend nice to see you so happy today
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    February 27, 2017 at 6:32 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thank you, Deborah! Some weekends are just really great!

      February 28, 2017 at 8:42 pm
  • Reply jennifer

    First off, I feel a little turned on looking at those onion rings.
    But seriously, making friends . . . . hmmm, sometimes that can be hard. We have some pretty fierce Snooty Mom Squads out here, that still, in your 40s if you are not swinging the right purse, driving the right car, not sporting the right fake boobs, not on the tennis or wine drinking teams, don’t have a maid that will drive your kid to school so you can sleep in . . . then you are NOT. Okay, I’m being dramatic . . . I do have friends (haha) that appreciate my colorful compression socks and the fact that I mow my own lawn.
    jennifer recently posted…Strawberry Cacao Nib Protein Oatmeal Mix / Packets for Meal PrepMy Profile

    February 27, 2017 at 6:34 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I totally appreciate your compression and the fact that you mow your lawn and work out with watermelons. You are my idol

      February 28, 2017 at 8:41 pm
  • Reply Jamie

    “Be authentically yourself, find other people who are authentically themselves, and take chances by opening yourself up.” Yup. So true. My trick is to be as weird as possible at first to weed out the judgy ones and then proceed from there. Oh and I didn’t watch the Oscars either. I haven’t seen ONE of the movies nominated so what’s the point? I do like the dresses though.
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    February 27, 2017 at 6:40 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I am kind of reliving the fashion moment. And trying not to be too bewildered by what occurred during the show itself.

      February 28, 2017 at 8:40 pm
  • Reply Julie @ Running in a Skirt

    What a great weekend! I find the older you get the harder it is to connect with new people, but sounds like you stumbled into a perfect group! Yay! And that frooooo-yoooo!!
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    February 27, 2017 at 6:41 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I need more froyo. Like now.

      February 28, 2017 at 8:40 pm
  • Reply Wendy@Taking the Long Way Home

    Hell yeah, I have wanderlust! I just need someone to finance that…
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    February 27, 2017 at 6:50 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Let me know if you find that…

      February 28, 2017 at 8:39 pm
  • Reply Linda @ Veganosity

    I said I wouldn’t watch the Oscars, and then I did, and now I wish I hadn’t wasted so many hours that I can’t get back. The only awards shows that I like are music shows, because they’re like watching mini music festivals in my living room. The Oscars allow us to watch an industry pat themselves on their backs and give self important speeches that go on too long. However, the ending was pretty entertaining! But Real Housewives, now that’s entertainment. Like you, I can’t help myself. πŸ™‚
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    February 27, 2017 at 7:02 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I know, right? LIKE PRINGLES

      February 28, 2017 at 8:39 pm
  • Reply Kelli @ Hungry Hobby

    I love that commercial with sleeping beauty and the housewives cracks me up every time. I have no idea who it is promoting so that was a mess on the advertiser’s part. It seems like you are in a really good spot, almost a groove! Glad you had a fun time!
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    February 27, 2017 at 7:11 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I think it is the estrogen!

      February 28, 2017 at 8:38 pm
  • Reply Cora

    I think we are all starting to learn more and more how inspiring it is when we see something being authentically, 100% themselves. I know these people leave in me awe and inspire me to do the same. And they make me want to be their groupie. Er, friend,
    Dan and I love Bareburger. Though we’ve only had their burgers – never their salads or sandwiches. Their sweet potato fries and onion rings with dips would keep me happy just themselves. Hope you have a lovely start to your week my dear.
    Cora recently posted…Week In Review: Opera, Pizza, and Talking Out the ToxinsMy Profile

    February 27, 2017 at 7:34 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      So basically we just ordered wrong. Though the elk burger was pretty good πŸ˜€ Have a great week, Cora!

      February 28, 2017 at 8:37 pm
  • Reply Laura @ This Runner's Recipes

    I used to watch the Oscars and all that, but now I really don’t pay attention to it. I have so much wanderlust! I always want to travel and see something new.
    Laura @ This Runner’s Recipes recently posted…Lake Sammamish Half 2017 Training Week 8My Profile

    February 27, 2017 at 7:48 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      And you do! I love your adventures!

      February 28, 2017 at 8:36 pm
  • Reply Gretchen

    Still working on making new friends in adulthood, but I’ve found that if you go to an event or join a group that is of interest to you (whether it be homebrewing, knitting, or sailing) you’ll meet lots of people that you can get along with! Or, you know, start a blog and comment on cool people’s posts and hope they want to talk to you πŸ˜‰
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    February 27, 2017 at 8:07 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      So far, you have been very very successful in those matters πŸ˜€

      February 28, 2017 at 8:36 pm
  • Reply Morgan @ Morgan Manages Mommyhood

    Wait, but I definitely just spit water out over the bartender being on something. I just can’t.Also, I regularly eat all of something. I’m doing a drawer cleanout and roasting all of the things tonight, and even though I know it’s a LOT of food, I know there will be zero leftover…..
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    February 27, 2017 at 8:18 am
    • Reply suzlyfe


      February 28, 2017 at 8:35 pm
  • Reply Suzy

    What 20-something uses the word “ingratiated?” You’re a vocabulary CHAMP. A writing GENIUS. Seriously. Anyway, okay. So, I don’t watch TV because my life is dramatic enough. And I have no time. There’s that too. LOL
    Suzy recently posted…Mileage MondayMy Profile

    February 27, 2017 at 8:23 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I used to have a way better vocabulary. It has gone way downhill. It’s upsetting.

      February 28, 2017 at 8:35 pm
  • Reply kat

    Uhhhh I pretty much fail at making new friends. Thank goodness for the gym otherwise I would probably have zero interaction with people outside of family!
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    February 27, 2017 at 8:27 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      But you have a pretty baller family!

      February 28, 2017 at 8:34 pm
  • Reply Annmarie

    I’m not really a fan of the Oscars either…mostly I feel pretty meh about celebrities in general lol. Definitely more concerned with real life things πŸ™‚
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    February 27, 2017 at 8:31 am
  • Reply Alyssa

    I missed the Oscars too!

    And my secret for making friends is being completely authentic. Being 100% real and me, because then I will attract people who are similar to myself!
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    February 27, 2017 at 8:46 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      And that is why we get along!

      February 28, 2017 at 8:33 pm
  • Reply Jessica @ Semi-Sweet Tooth

    This sounds like such a wonderful weekend. And boy, you packed a lot in – especially with fitting in a nap, ha!

    You are so, so right – the lives of our friends and family becomes of the utmost importance as I go throughout my years. (Feeling retrospective as I celebrated my 30th birthday this past weekend, ha!)

    I’ll admit that I do still watch the Oscars, but I’m not a very talented televisions watcher in general. I made Oscar Bingo cards for myself, my husband, and my mom (who is visiting) to play and it made the whole event a lot more enjoyable. πŸ™‚

    XO, Jessica

    February 27, 2017 at 9:05 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Happy birthday! And if you are going to watch the oscars, that is the way to do it–but I think Yahtzee is the word for what happened at the end, lol

      February 28, 2017 at 8:32 pm
  • Reply Lacey@fairytalesandfitness

    Everyone is out to usually have a good time. I never find it hard to strike up a conversation with someone I am sitting next too, especially if there are drinks involved. I didn’t watch any of the Oscars. I have heard that La la Land was really good from one, and it was a major snooze fest from another. I guess I will have to watch it myself and make my own judgement!
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    February 27, 2017 at 10:06 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      It was really uneven–the last 30 minutes are incredible though!

      February 28, 2017 at 8:31 pm
  • Reply Michelle

    I have a very small circle of friends, and it got much smaller over this last year to be honest. I could care less about the Oscars or any of the celebs…I’m more interested in “real” people, but I too love my guilty pleasure of the Housewives of OC. LOL!
    Michelle recently posted…Spicy broccoli puree’My Profile

    February 27, 2017 at 10:21 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      As you should! And you definitely need a guilty pleasure!

      February 28, 2017 at 8:30 pm
  • Reply Jo @ Living MInt Green

    I didn’t watch the Oscars either… and, like you, just don’t care about pop culture/celebs/fashion anymore.
    ALWAYS have wanderlust – I’d die for a beach vacay right about now.
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    February 27, 2017 at 10:38 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I will totally go with you!

      February 28, 2017 at 8:29 pm
  • Reply Ange // Cowgirl Runs

    I love making those random connections with people! It’s always so fun when it happens.
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    February 27, 2017 at 11:49 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      It was the most lovely time!

      February 28, 2017 at 8:29 pm
  • Reply Jen

    I used to be totally into the Oscars, I didn’t even know they were on last night until I heard about it on the radio this morning. Ehhh. Whatever.
    I am obsessed with the Real Housewives though, I can’t help but watch those trainwrecks πŸ™‚
    Jen recently posted…Weekend Wrap UpMy Profile

    February 27, 2017 at 12:58 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      OMG they are amazing. Amazingly ridiculous. I shouldn’t fund them. but I do.

      February 28, 2017 at 8:28 pm
  • Reply Sarah @ BucketListTummy

    I didn’t watch the Oscars either – turns out, I’m not really into that stuff. And how fun to make friends at bars. Dogs are the best way to bring about conversation πŸ™‚
    Sarah @ BucketListTummy recently posted…Austin Half Marathon RecapMy Profile

    February 27, 2017 at 2:50 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Why can’t we take them everywhere with us!

      February 28, 2017 at 8:28 pm
  • Reply Ashley @ A Lady Goes West

    Hi Susie! I took a nap this weekend too, and it was glorious. Sorry about the headache, but at least you met some new peeps and connected with your kids! πŸ™‚
    Ashley @ A Lady Goes West recently posted…Super easy no-bake chocolate peanut butter protein barsMy Profile

    February 27, 2017 at 2:56 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I missed my kiddos!

      February 28, 2017 at 8:27 pm
  • Reply Kimberly Hatting

    I don’t do awards shows anymore…too political and some of the “costumes” are just too over the top (and I’m pretty open minded when it comes to fashion). But….Oh…those onion rings…..#heavenly
    Kimberly Hatting recently posted…Back on the (weather) roller coasterMy Profile

    February 27, 2017 at 4:20 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      What if the Oscars gave you onion rings?

      February 28, 2017 at 8:25 pm
  • Reply lindsay Cotter

    Oh man, i’ve had what alex had alcohol gastritis is no fun. But what a fun time! Groupon for the win! and yes, authentic people authentic selves. WE NEED!! It’s refreshing and humbling and all that shiizzzzz
    lindsay Cotter recently posted…Gujarati Style Coconut Almond Warm Cabbage SaladMy Profile

    February 27, 2017 at 5:50 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Preach! Preach preach!

      February 28, 2017 at 8:25 pm
  • Reply Lisa @ Mile by Mile

    The Oscars were not on my radar at all. Yesterday my mom asked if I was going to watch and I said I didn’t even know they were on! I’ve never been into that stuff. Looks like a great weekend!
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    February 27, 2017 at 6:18 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Ha! So nothing different for you!

      February 28, 2017 at 8:24 pm
  • Reply Hannah

    The only way I know to make friends is to bring them food and nerd out with them over random things. As long as the nerding is mutual.
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    February 27, 2017 at 8:13 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      That works for me πŸ˜€

      February 28, 2017 at 8:24 pm
  • Reply Jen @ Chase the Red Grape

    My wanderlust has kind of disappeared since moving to Australia – maybe because every day is an adventure in an amazing place! But I do wanderlust for home occasionally – especially for the trip back home we have in June πŸ˜€
    Hooray for using up leftovers in the freezer! Always leaves me feeling so satisfied!
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    February 28, 2017 at 1:14 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I think that would definitely take care of it!

      February 28, 2017 at 8:23 pm
  • Reply Laura @ Sprint 2 the Table

    So, this is funny… I never cared about the Oscars before… but now I watch awards shows for the DT slams. LOL!

    Also, make friends and influence people? I just burn shit down and drink beer. You know that shit is true too. πŸ˜‰
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    February 28, 2017 at 1:39 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      And that is how you make friends lol

      February 28, 2017 at 8:22 pm
  • Reply Kristy from Southern In Law

    Hmmm, I don’t know that I have a secret to making friends. Maybe just being a good listener? And being yourself?
    Kristy from Southern In Law recently posted…Random Ramblings: Why Saving the Best For Last is Actually a Cover UpMy Profile

    February 28, 2017 at 4:54 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Authenticity is the most important!

      February 28, 2017 at 7:52 pm
  • Reply Alicia @Bridges Through Life

    Thanks for linking my blog. While traveling we have met so many people. We started staying in airbnbs but then we were missing the social aspect of hostels. While we are not partiers, it is nice to be around other travelers. Brian is always good at just striking a conversation with someone. I am still.working on it but it has been nice to network a bit while traveling and find people with similar interests.
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    March 2, 2017 at 7:52 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I’m sure it is difficult–always meeting new people. You will be an expert by the time you return!

      March 3, 2017 at 12:39 pm

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