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Lucky to Be a Runner

There are so many other “vices” I could have chosen. I am so lucky to be a runner!

The theme of Tuesdays on the Run (thank you  Patty, Erika, and Marcia) this week was “St. Patrick’s Day.” Well, seeing as the only St. Patrick’s Day associated race or anything of the sort that I’ve ever done was the FREEZING cold Shamrock Shuffle a few years back… I don’t have that much ammunition or more to contribute to the topic. 

In fact, I’m not even allowed to run right now, thanks to IVF (I just had my Embryo Transfer). 

A topic I can contribute to? Feeling lucky to be a runner.

Lucky to be a Runner @suzlyfe

I am lucky that this sport chose me. For years and years, I rode horses competitively, and it was my everything; passion doesn’t even really begin to describe it. To be honest, I’ve never felt as all-consumingly in love with running as I did with riding. I don’t read running books the way that I tore through riding novels and fact-filled books on horses. I don’t get giddy with excitement when I see my running shoes (well, that may or may not be true). I don’t pour through gear guides or even subscribe to the running magazines. 

And yet…. I would say that the relationship that I have with running might be the one that goes the most distance. 

In fact, I think that running is kind of like the relationship I have with my husband:

I definitely didn’t choose to become a runner… in fact, I resisted it for many years. (In Alex’s case, it was a few weeks)

But then, we started talking. We went on our first date and never stopped talking after that. We never thought about it as serious until one day we realized that it was. We have had our minor disagreements, we have gotten our feelings hurt, we have even been forced to spend time apart… but we are good enough friends at the base of everything to know that when we see each other again, we will get right back to our speed, even if we both need a little period of adjusting. 

When I tell people that I am a marathoner and running coach who is not allowed to run during IVF, their first comment is how hard is must be for me. And is it awesome not to be able to lace up and get my moving meditation on? Of course it is. But I can be calm about our separation because I know that the separation will come to an end, and before long, just like when Alex and I would go a month between visits to NYC or Charlottesville when I was in grad school and he was in med school. 

Running will wait for me. The horses, as much as I loved them, and the barn, as much as I loved it… I couldn’t always know that they would wait for me. When I left for grad school, when I couldn’t offer them a certain something, they moved on. 

Running will wait for me. Though running sometimes feels like a bad boy, the running I know will respect me for what I can give it. Running knows that I have had to fight for it, that our relationship is built on more than just infatuation but an actual foundation–running is a backbone in my life–and that so much of who I am and what I know about myself comes from running….

I am lucky to be a runner. I am lucky to have a sport, that, no matter where I am in life, will welcome me back. It may make me fight a little, but it only wants me to fight to believe in myself (and also to remind me not to be an idiot).  I don’t know if I will ever run sub 3:30 marathons again. I don’t know if I will qualify for Boston, in any age group, again.

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And that is ok. Because running is about more than time and paces and medals on a wall. It is about knowing how lucky and privileged we are to be runners.

In other news, if anyone can procure me a pair of the St Patricks Day launches…. you might just supplant running in my heart.

What is your relationship with running like?

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  • Reply Heather @Lunging Through Life

    Aww I love this, Suz! Right now is just a hiccup in your otherwise great running relationship. We all have those hiccups every once in a while but the road will always be there!
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    March 14, 2017 at 5:51 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      We are just having a weekend apart 😀

      March 14, 2017 at 1:23 pm
  • Reply Lisa @ Mile by Mile

    I also feel so lucky that I enjoy running so much. Its nice to know that its something we can always go back to even though we may need time away here and there.
    Lisa @ Mile by Mile recently posted…Ginger and Beet Anti-Inflammatory SmoothieMy Profile

    March 14, 2017 at 5:55 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Just sitting and waiting for us!

      March 14, 2017 at 1:23 pm
  • Reply Deborah @ Confessions of a mother runner

    aww this is so cute! running and I are complicated at times. Right now I am not loving it so much but I hope the spring weather will help
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    March 14, 2017 at 6:39 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      You don’t have to love it all the time! Do you think that your husband can do no wrong? No! We all have cycles.

      March 14, 2017 at 1:21 pm
  • Reply Julie @ Running in a Skirt

    Oh my those green tennies are so cute! I totally agree with running– it found me too and I’m so glad it did. It changed my life for the better!
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    March 14, 2017 at 7:14 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Cheers! And yes… if you want to send me a pair…

      March 14, 2017 at 1:20 pm
  • Reply Kimberly G

    I’m always in a love/hate relationship with runner. I picked running because it was always super hard for me. While I’m proud of what I’ve been able to achieve over the past 3 years, I wish running would get easier for me!
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    March 14, 2017 at 7:17 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Hey, no relationship is easy! If it was easy, would you value it as much?

      March 14, 2017 at 1:20 pm
  • Reply jennifer

    Seriously, barring pregnancies and post-partum, I don’t think there has been an entire week in the last 25+ years when I haven’t run. I’ts just what I do. Sometimes I love running more than other times, and sometimes, honestly, I hate it . .. usually that happens when I haven’t put anything into the “relationship” and expect a lot back. haha. But, agree . . . lucky and god willing this is how it will also go for the next 25+ years
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    March 14, 2017 at 7:21 am
    • Reply lindsay Cotter

      you amaze me! <3 But so does Suzy. I lost my running mojo 2 years ago. Does walking count? I'm lucky there!

      March 14, 2017 at 9:02 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      But no relationship is perfect, right? You need to have those runs when you aren’t so into it, or even those period when you just don’t feel it, and then have the will to choose it again–that is what makes you a runner–you CHOOSE to go back.

      March 14, 2017 at 1:20 pm
  • Reply Megan @ Skinny Fitalicious

    You are lucky to be a runner. Last week I wanted nothing more than to run. So when you can run, you need to do it for those of us who can’t!
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    March 14, 2017 at 7:30 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I always do! xoxox

      March 14, 2017 at 1:18 pm
  • Reply Laura @ This Runner's Recipes

    My relationship with running evolves over the years, and it’s always there. I am happy that I love it whether it is simply short runs or marathon training!
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    March 14, 2017 at 7:36 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      That is true love!

      March 14, 2017 at 1:18 pm
  • Reply Jamie

    Aww shucks, Alex, those horses, your clients AND this baby will be lucky to have you. You’re a good egg.
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    March 14, 2017 at 7:40 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      A slightly scrambled one, but I wouldn’t disagree 😀

      March 14, 2017 at 1:17 pm
  • Reply Rachel

    Ah yes, I feel you. I feel so lucky to have found running. It’s one of those life changing sports that you don’t even notice until you’re several years in and then all of a sudden you realize how amazing it is!
    Rachel recently posted…Race Recap: Kiss Me I’m a Runner 10KMy Profile

    March 14, 2017 at 7:45 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Seriously. One day you realize how much you appreciate it!

      March 14, 2017 at 1:16 pm
  • Reply Michelle

    Love this…
    Running and I have been separated for a long time, but I’ll always be grateful for running as I believe my making the choice to train for a half marathon ten years ago truly changed my life forever.
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    March 14, 2017 at 8:25 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      It is patiently waiting for you!

      March 14, 2017 at 1:16 pm
  • Reply Emily

    Love that you embrace the gift of running; it is such a gift, but it can be put aside for a time and even appreciated more when you come back to it; I <3 the gift of running.
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    March 14, 2017 at 8:48 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I am so happy to have so many around me that appreciate it as well!

      March 14, 2017 at 1:15 pm
  • Reply Sam @ See Sam Run

    I feel so lucky to have running as well, and I’m also lucky to share a love of running with others!

    March 14, 2017 at 9:04 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Yes yes yes! Love the community!

      March 14, 2017 at 1:14 pm
  • Reply Christina @

    I love this! My relationship with running has definitely changed over the years. I used to run halfs and marathons. One day my foot started hurting…and I kept on running like the stubborn person I am. It got worse. It sadly turned into a long term injury (I have an accessory navicular, an extra bone in my foot, that causes tendentious). I couldn’t really run at all for about a year, and of course this happened when I had a lot of hard stuff going on in my life and really felt like I needed to run! I couldn’t even go on long walks without it really hurting. I am just now getting to where I can run once or twice a week and feel great. It’s been tough, BUT I have never before appreciated running like I do now! I love it more than ever and enjoy each run I get to do, whether on a beautiful day outside or on the treadmill in my garage.
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    March 14, 2017 at 9:34 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I’ve had some serious injuries that have also changed my approach to running–and live. Respect should be the basis of your relationships!

      March 14, 2017 at 1:13 pm
  • Reply AdjustedReality

    Awww, I love this. I resisted running myself, saying I’d never get into marathons or anything crazy (and I’ve run 6). We are a lucky bunch!
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    March 14, 2017 at 9:36 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Running knew better than us!

      March 14, 2017 at 1:12 pm
  • Reply Suzy

    YEAH! Amen. This is really great. Running IS a bad boy. Okay to quote Marybeth Bonfliglio, and to insert “running” where she wrote “love,” this is what running is: “Running is an imperfect badass motherfucker you wouldn’t want to meet alone on a dark street and running is what comes to your rescue when you scream help out your window at night.” In that running is steadfast and loyal as long as it is revered and respected. Okay, maybe a little too deep for a Tuesday morning.
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    March 14, 2017 at 9:55 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Majorly fucking deep and wicked awesome.

      March 14, 2017 at 1:11 pm
  • Reply Marcia

    Running and I have a similar relationship. We were friends very early on, but not lovers. It waited for me, a long time, while I worked through others passions. We really are so very lucky.
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    March 14, 2017 at 9:56 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      If only it would buy us a nice dinner

      March 14, 2017 at 1:09 pm
  • Reply Kelli @ Hungry Hobby

    Love this! I can totally relate with the idea that running will wait for me!
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    March 14, 2017 at 11:06 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      It isn’t going anywhere!

      March 14, 2017 at 1:08 pm
  • Reply Kimberly Hatting

    Running and I are at a good place at the moment. A few months ago? …not so much. It’s all about give and take, and mutual respect….not unlike human relationships 😉
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    March 14, 2017 at 1:50 pm
  • Reply Michael Anderson

    I laughed seeing this because as I was out running in the snow this morning (the blizzard wasn’t happening yet, just pretty snow showers) and drove by someone going into a convenience store who looked at me and said ‘are you freakin’ kidding me?’ ..given the smoke and smell coming out of his car my thought was “I will gladly take my healthy addictive habit over your unhealthy destructive addictive habit”

    I am in my 29th year of running, and have known Lisa for 30 years (though it was a couple years later we ‘got together’). It is funny to think about it as a ‘relationship’ though it is very true – with Lisa, people would joke that it seemed we were the last two people in the world to figure out we were in love … and with running I went years of it being just something I did to keep my weight under control (since that is why I started).

    As for now … I have a great relationship with running: I treat it well and it treats me well. I don’t ask too much, and it remains healthy. I might never achieve the fastest results I could muster … but I will take running whatever distance I choose whenever I choose to do so – and always being healthy to run tomorrow.

    March 14, 2017 at 2:34 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Cheers cheers cheers to that! If only others could understand it the way we do!

      March 14, 2017 at 6:38 pm
  • Reply Kristy from Southern In Law

    I’m not a runner but I love love love this because I feel like I can apply it to so many other things in life.

    You’re so right – running will wait. It’s not going anywhere.
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    March 14, 2017 at 3:38 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      It better. I won’t stand for being stood up.

      March 14, 2017 at 6:39 pm
  • Reply Wendy@Taking the Long Way Home

    I think you know that I’m having an affair with running. But my body is starting to betray me…
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    March 14, 2017 at 5:08 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      You have a very passionate relationship, one might say!

      March 14, 2017 at 6:40 pm
  • Reply GiGi Eats

    I am a cardio queen, but my type of cardio – AINT RUNNING. I hate running, ha ha ha! I love me some high quality walking and ellipticalling though 😉
    GiGi Eats recently posted…This “Sandwich” Will Catch Your AttentionMy Profile

    March 14, 2017 at 10:00 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Oh, I remember you and your “love” of running

      March 17, 2017 at 9:02 am
  • Reply Ree

    I used to be a dancer and thought ballet was my first love. Started running when I gave up teaching and it didn’t tat long for me to find a new lover. It comes with similar hurdles but it’s outside! What more could you want

    March 15, 2017 at 2:18 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I so agree! It has been a natural progression for me as well!

      March 17, 2017 at 9:01 am
  • Reply Jamie king

    those shoes are AMAZING! Seriously, give me all the green today!! Also, I feel you girl, we are LUCKY to be runners.

    March 17, 2017 at 11:57 am
  • Reply San

    I love, love, love this. This is exactly how I feel about running and how I came to be in a relationship with running 🙂
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    March 21, 2017 at 7:36 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      It really is a relationship! Hopefully long term 😀

      March 22, 2017 at 1:57 pm

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