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Intention, Outcome, Irony, Reactions – When Things Go Awry

Alright, party people. I’ve got a bit of a story for you. First though, I must do the obligatory thing and complain about the weather:

snowy spring chicago lakeshore east

Seriously, WTF Chicago? IT IS SPRING DAMMIT.

winter is drunk

Applied last year, applies this year.

Right. 

Now, let me begin by jogging your memory:

I wrote a post last year concerning intention vs. outcome. Well, Sunday night was definitely a test of that notion. Also an illustration of the definition of irony. And I’m talking irony in the old-school, English class way. Not Alanis.

dont know what word means inigo meme irony

I mentioned yesterday that I had to skip out on dinner with Lauren, Erin, and Bethany because Alex was having a not great day. And that things started looking up until, well, they didn’t. Let me explain.

story time

As many of you know from reading this blog, Alex is one of the most consistent, positive, and even-keeled people I know. And he doesn’t even need medication to be that way! It is one of reasons that he is such a consistently incredible doctor–he recharges every night and, though he might get tired, he hangs solid. It is also a huge reason that we are married–he can put up with my hot/cold, my hormone, health, and mental abnormality/imbalances, and he is my absolute rock in sickness and in health. I often say that “the boy is unbreakable.” And he truly is thus, to a limit. Every now and then, however, he reaches his limit. 

Yesterday was one of those days. 

Some things on his mind:

  • Figuring out our future
  • The fact that he has no time to lift (weights)
  • The fact that he can’t run or play basketball (even if he wanted to) because of his knee, which is still bothering him, though can at least jog across the street.
  • The fact that we never get to spend time together, and when we do, he is exhausted.
  • Dealing with serious cases all the time. It is something that he is very good at, but it is still draining. 
  • UVA Basketball. It is kind of his shining light during the day. 

And he’s just kind of exhausted. So Saturday night, he didn’t sleep well and had another day where he didn’t get to workout (because he got home late). Then Sunday, he is exhausted, gets to work, and everything just starts going south–with patients, with families, with people wanting to leave, people wanting his attention, and then UVA loses and looks terrible the whole time, and it just keeps on going downnnn. And he gets a headache to boot, making his likelihood of working out or even going for a walk with me slim.

So I randomly had the brilliant idea to GO BOWLING. Like, let’s go!! Stand up, put on your real clothes, we aren’t thinking we are going. Right now. Let’s go. I called, they had lanes, we are going. 

So I got him up and going, we get to the alley (the new one!), we get our lane, we get a drink and an app, we bowl TERRIBLY (but are totally ok with it), and then we decide that we have to try one last game, right? We can’t end like that! So he buys another game, we buy dinner, he bowls a strike, I bowl whatever, and then he goes to bowl another frame….

And hears a pop in his bicep. I’m not making this up. My husband, who can curl more than any human being ever should, pulls/tears his bicep throwing a bowling ball. 

And we still have to wait on our food. 

alex dancing bonfire 2009

seriously big muscles.

So now, not only does he not have much time to life, he can’t lift (oh, and did I mention that he was going to do arms today?), and who knows for how long, and even how long it will be before he can do things like brush his teeth without pain. To clarify–it is the part of the bicep that helps you supinate, or turn you hand over, and doesn’t seem to hurt yet when he lifts straight up and down.

Oh, and he didn’t get to workout, cherry on top.

And I feel terrible, of course. Yes, I know that I had nothing really to do with it, and that we decided together to bowl another game.  So, for all of you intention vs outcome people out there–which is better? 

Logic can win out here–Alex is strong, but he isn’t doing as many functional or explosive movements that would have protected him. He could have stretched out things better. The moon could have been in retrograde, who knows! So many signs. So many reasons not to do this, to do that. To sit and wait and let it be.

To avoid the outcome that you don’t want. To live, maybe not in fear, but in shelter. There are times in life when you are going to be filled with coulda shoulda woulda’s. Sometimes? Life is just filled with freak accidents. 

An innocent sunburn from a time when you didn’t have the chance to apply sunblock before helping a friend may one day lead to a melanoma that has to be removed.  But what would be better–to not help the friend or to have the mole removed later? 

I think what we have to remember in life is this (and please bear with me, I am still thinking this through): What is important in life is the intention and the manner in which you pursue and then react to the outcome. In my experience, life and the true test of character lies in your reactions. 

And right now, my poor boy is being tested. So send a little love his way, but tell me what you think about this:

How do you measure the tension between intention and outcome when irony comes into play?

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90 Comments

  • Reply Suzy

    Adversity doesn’t make a person stronger but merely reveals what a person is made of already. The opposite of love is fear, not hate. So combine those philosophies together, and we can live and love fearlessly even when things go south. And maybe even that’s where the most love is found. I hope Alex’s arm heals up fast. That really sucks. I’m sure he must be feeling so discouraged, but I am also sure he must also be feeling loved. You’re the good stuff, Suz.
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    March 24, 2015 at 5:40 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      As are you, other Suz. You know exactly where it is at.

      March 24, 2015 at 12:59 pm
    • Reply Suzlyfe's mommy, Clare

      That phrase “the opposite of love is fear, not hate” is a simple, wonderful and, I find positive, statement.
      Thank you!

      March 25, 2015 at 1:27 pm
  • Reply Farrah

    I’m so sorry about your weather. ;_; I hope it warms up for you soon!

    I get really cranky when I can’t work out either. :[ I’m sorry he’s been feeling down, and about his bicep! :[[[ I will send lots of good thoughts his way and hope for a speedy recovery!
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    March 24, 2015 at 5:51 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thanks, Far. It was just a s**tstorm of a day, huh? But thus begins a new week, I guess we have to remember!

      March 24, 2015 at 12:59 pm
  • Reply Kate @ Baking in Yoga Pants

    Ouch! I love that you had the idea to go bowling, so sorry that Alex tore his bicep. I love the idea here about creating intentions and how we mindfully respond to life happening as it does πŸ™‚
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    March 24, 2015 at 6:05 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I mean, I can’t predict the world! But I can go into with the intention to make it better.

      March 24, 2015 at 1:00 pm
  • Reply Run Colby run

    That was all such a series of unfortunate events starting with that damn snow and ending with a “Pop!” I’m feeling the need for a SuzeAlex -Eff It! Getaway Weekend! You’re man is be tested and while I am certain he will pass with flying colors, it still stinks. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, right? Heal swiftly, Doc!

    March 24, 2015 at 6:08 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      If he dies from a torn bicep, I am looking at you! DON’T BRING THAT ON MY FAMILY! He’s got another week and a half of this rotation, and then a little break. HOLD IN THERE

      March 24, 2015 at 1:01 pm
  • Reply Annmarie

    Oh goodness Suz, I feel so bad for your hubby. Sounds a lot like my hubby. He works his butt off all day helping people and tries to do everything right but always gets the shit end of the stick. Given your husbands personality though I am sure he will manage to overcome and find someway to make it all work in the meantime. You sound like a super supportive wifey too so I am sure you both will be just fine, hang in there <3
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    March 24, 2015 at 6:09 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      We will, and thank you for your thoughts. Sometimes, you just need to start from scratch, you know!

      March 24, 2015 at 1:01 pm
  • Reply Heather @Fit n Cookies

    Oh my gosh sending love to Alex! Poor guy. He can’t catch a break! Hoping the next few days are an upswing!
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    March 24, 2015 at 6:15 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thanks love, and me toooooo

      March 24, 2015 at 1:01 pm
  • Reply Amber

    Suz, your hubby is so incredibly lucky to have you, and you sharing and being open with your relationship makes me feel at ease, because, although I am not in Alex’s shoes, THAT is exactly how I was/have been feeling, which I gave a glimpse into with my “Be Happy” post because I was burnt out.
    ALEX, IF YOU READ THIS, PLEASE KNOW THAT YOU ARE AN INCREDIBLE BEING, YOU ARE MAKING A DIFFERENCE, AND LIFTING UP OTHERS AS A DOCTOR, even if you cannot lift weights, your lifting the lives of patients, and that takes more strength than anything else.
    I agree with you, Suz, our REACTIONS are what mater most, how we move forward, and continue on, even when all this “bad” stuff happens. Healing and positive vibes to you both xoxox <3
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    March 24, 2015 at 6:28 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thanks, Amber. We are lights in the this world, and sometimes we do burn out, but that just means that we gotta get a new bulb or just cool off and start again. Thanks love

      March 24, 2015 at 1:02 pm
  • Reply Pam and Christine

    This story reminds me of the”Horrible No Good Very Bad Day” book. Hopefully Alex will have a few good days in a row and your support. Not being able to workout sucks, but hopefully he can enjoy a walk outside with you if spring decides to show up!
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    March 24, 2015 at 6:33 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Operative word is the IF. And IF they let him out of the hospital so that he can! But thank you!

      March 24, 2015 at 12:58 pm
  • Reply Deborah @ Confessions of a Mother Runner

    oh my when it rains it pours huh? Bummer for Alex I hope he is feeling better soon. And your right, he always does sound pretty awesome when you talk about him. πŸ™‚
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    March 24, 2015 at 6:44 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      HE”S MINE HANDS OFF

      March 24, 2015 at 12:57 pm
  • Reply Lisa @ Running Out Of Wine

    Oh man I am so sorry to hear all of that! I know the feeling of not being able to exercise when you know that it will help you feel better about other things going on. I hope that his arm heels fast! And like you said, there was no way to know that it was going to happen, and you both had good intentions that evening, and accidents happen. But he will heal and he has you for support so I know he will be ok:)
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    March 24, 2015 at 6:56 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thanks, Lisa. I know you understand that trapped feeling. It just blows, doesn’t it! But that is why we surround ourselves with great people!

      March 24, 2015 at 12:57 pm
  • Reply Suzlyfe's mommy, Clare

    Well, I could have slept in or watched cartoons from the red sofa, but on that Saturday, in 2008, I got up to ride Lad and got launched into the heavens. The intention was to have fun, the outcome was far from it.
    It was a perfect storm, the planets got aligned and I got in the way…………
    I think Alex had a perfect storm……… and that just sucks sideways.
    Being a doctor, he has to go to work, he sees patients who have done the same think that he has done to his arm.
    How does he treat their injuries? What does he advise them?……….”physician heal thyself ” sounds great ……. unless you are the physician.
    I am so sorry about his arm, and I KNOW that this is very frustrating for him, and thus, for both of you. I could tell him to just buck up and deal with it—-but if someone said that to me—I’d hit them with my other arm.

    March 24, 2015 at 6:57 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Haha. Yes, you definitely know better than most that the best intentions can go awry. But look what came out of it–you still struggle, but I think you have found yourself in a way that you never could have before the accident.

      March 24, 2015 at 12:54 pm
      • Reply Suzlyfe's mommy, Clare

        You are SO right!!

        March 24, 2015 at 5:00 pm
  • Reply Erica { EricaDHouse.com }

    Poor hubby! I’ve tried to do nice things for Travis and had them backfire. Now you get to play sexy nurse and take care of him πŸ™‚
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    March 24, 2015 at 7:01 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Except you know that with our luck I would totally poke his eye out or something!

      March 24, 2015 at 12:53 pm
  • Reply Sam @ PancakeWarriors

    Oh bless it! I’m going all southern on this one! You know Suzy I would be so torn up if that was Dave. He’s like Alex – his mood almost depends on his workout. I can’t imagine. I’m sorry. Tell Alex I’m sorry and this just freaking sucks. Reaction – yes I think reaction is where true colors come out. Some people flee immediately, others that you never expect to be there come through. Sometimes you just have to react because even the best plans never quite work out. Sending love!
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    March 24, 2015 at 7:22 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thanks Sam. He’ll bounce back, I’m hoping that this is just a minor thing, but you know how it is–I worry about him!

      March 24, 2015 at 12:53 pm
  • Reply Beth @ Running with the Sunrise

    Oh no, I am so sorry Alex hurt himself. That is really, really terrible. I hope his bicep heals quickly. I think all you can do when you get the wrong income is to try to accept things as quickly as you can, honoring that you’re probably going to have some strong emotions to work through. Unfortunately in the present moment there’s not much do to fix the current problem, so I try to make myself focus on the things that I *can* do to make the situation better–ice the injury, etc. Doesn’t always work, but it helps. Sending healing vibes to his arm!
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    March 24, 2015 at 7:26 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thank you! I am very mama like when it comes to these problems–I want a solution, steps to work towards fixing it. He is likely (when it is him) to marinate on it. But he did humor me and ice the damn thing.

      March 24, 2015 at 12:52 pm
  • Reply Katie @ Live Half Full

    Oh man, poor Alex! I tend to think things happen in seasons, so this too shall pass! Adversity will help him appreciate when things are going well. πŸ™‚
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    March 24, 2015 at 7:36 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I think so. You gotta have snow in SPRING to appreciate… spring?

      March 24, 2015 at 12:51 pm
  • Reply GiGi Eats

    UGH LIFE!!!! I had a week last week – we all have our ups and downs and hopefully his mindset can transform into a more positive one soon. Sadly… In my experience, it takes about a WEEK to flip – ugh! πŸ™ I kind of, totally, HATE thinking about the future!
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    March 24, 2015 at 8:12 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      He’s far more resilient than I. I would just be in the corner. Instead he went to sleep. I guess we all have our methods.

      March 24, 2015 at 12:50 pm
  • Reply Hilary

    Well geeze I honestly don’t know about that question. It kind of leaves me blank. I honestly just think that we are given bad luck and hard times only as much as we can handle. We are never dealt cards that we can not handle, and although it really truly does suck, it is how you said about how we handle those situations that give us character and help us grow as people. If nothing ever went wrong who would we be? How would we know when everything was going right?
    Hope poor Alex has something good coming his way though!
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    March 24, 2015 at 8:48 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      As I just wrote on your blog, I think that you are living through this very thing right now with your marathon training–sometimes, you do everything right and it all falls apart, sometimes it doesn’t, but you’ve gotta take the chance!

      March 24, 2015 at 12:49 pm
  • Reply Tiffany @ The Chi-Athlete

    Gosh dang, the poor Kid met his day. Have you ever felt that way? I believe that there’s ONE day, or ONE TYPE of day (for those who bow down to experiencing this multiple times) that will exceed your expectations in: Stubbornness, meanness, ugliness, accident proneness or clumsiness. Just one day where everything goes downhill. Fast. Like *you* fast.

    Since I clearly accept that everyone meets that day, I will keep you and the Kid in my prayers and happy thoughts. Just from all of the wonderful things that you type about him, I’m willing to bet that his will won’t ever break; but for now, it’s just a little bent.:)
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    March 24, 2015 at 8:52 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Oh goodness yes. But I like to hope that maybe it will swing the other direction after. Like maybe now everything will look up? And you said it perfectly–and I hope it’s true–he just needs to straighten back out a little bit.

      March 24, 2015 at 12:40 pm
  • Reply Rae

    Poor Alex! Personally, I think you guys needed the time together and the bowling and the apps and fun, and the outcome is absolutely not something you could have predicted. I could just has easily not have happened and been a fun date night. You just have to keep moving forward and doing the best you can as each situation presents itself.
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    March 24, 2015 at 8:54 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I think that you are so right. Sometimes? life just bites you in the ass. But then again, it is because you got out there and gave it the chance to nibble, so there is that.

      March 24, 2015 at 12:39 pm
  • Reply Sarah @pickyrunner

    Oh no! I’m so sorry for Alex! I can’t imagine being in his shoes. I know how frustrating injuries are especially when exercise is one of your outlets. But the amount of time he spends at work is true dedication and it’s really awful when things like this happen to the people who deserve them least (not that anyone deserves it, but come on life, that just isn’t fair). Fingers crossed he heals quickly and that there’s a light at the end of the tunnel!
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    March 24, 2015 at 8:55 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thanks boo. He gives so much of himself that I wish the world would cut him a little slack!

      March 24, 2015 at 12:38 pm
  • Reply Beverley Cheng

    Ahh so sorry to hear about the bicep pop, especially on such a fun day out! Sometimes the most harmless things can injure a person – so frustrating! My heart goes out to him because I understand how annoying it is not to be able to work out as one normally would. Hopefully he gets better soon!
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    March 24, 2015 at 9:07 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      It was just such a clusterf***. We kept looking at each other like “this would be funny but NOT.” And it just adds to the workout frustrations. Ah well, such is life!

      March 24, 2015 at 12:37 pm
  • Reply Sarah

    Well of course when it rains it pours! Seriously though, that sucks. Girl can’t even win for trying to have some fun. I hope he is feeling better soon. I find those injuries to be the worst because there is no real reason for them in the first place and they take forever to work themselves out. Feel better Alex. And while you’re at it could you bring some heat to Chicago?! Seriously!

    March 24, 2015 at 9:12 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      You said it. Although instead of pouring it just started snowing. Which I guess should have been my sign?

      March 24, 2015 at 12:36 pm
  • Reply Erin @ Erin's Inside Job

    I definitely have those times when everything seems to be going downwards. It is usually a matter of time and a conscious effort on my part to flip my perspective so that I don’t perpetuate the cycle. Maybe YOU were being punished for not coming for tacos. Hahahaha jk. I hope he feels better soon!!
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    March 24, 2015 at 9:16 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Seriously, I was like OMG I just have just gotten the damn tacos and let you wallow in your misery and then you would be miserable but unhurt. I GIVE UPP

      March 24, 2015 at 12:35 pm
  • Reply Laura @ This Runner's Recipes

    Sending good thoughts and prayer your way that Alex’s bicep heals soon! That genuinely sucks. You’re so right that reactions are truly what reveals character, but sometimes it seems like bad luck after bad luck just can wear on those with even the most level-headedness and resilience.
    And of course second winter has arrived. That tease of spring was too good to be true.
    I have to tell you that it made me smile with all the Sherlock gifs you used. That show is the best.
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    March 24, 2015 at 10:24 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      The good news is that he came home last night and seemed back to his old self, went to the gym, got a renewed outlook. Hoping we’ve turned his luck around!
      And Sherlock is the best show EVERRRRR

      March 24, 2015 at 12:34 pm
  • Reply Gretchen | Gretchruns

    I have to say that reading posts like this make me feel so guilty for ever complaining about life. I feel so bad for Alex and wish I could send him a few free hours a day and some healthy limbs! I hope he feels better soon, and he’s very lucky to have a wife like you that cares so much about him. Take good care of him, and I’ll be thinking of you two next time I want to bail on a workout because I’m “so tired” or “so busy” aka watching Netflix. Thanks for sharing!!
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    March 24, 2015 at 11:22 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Aw, thank you so much. We truly are fortunate, and these are but little things in the big scheme of life, but every now and then it just catches up to you!
      And hey, there is nothing wrong with being busy with Netflix. #balance ;D

      March 24, 2015 at 12:33 pm
  • Reply Anna @ Piper's Run

    Awww man! Here’s to a speedy recovery for Alex.
    I hear ya on the rough times….all little things, you know but they sure can take a told on people. I do love that your first thought was let’s bowl – just go and do it. Most people would mop around and do nothing….being active can turn things around. You wouldn’t have known that he’d pull his tricep.
    Rest up Alex.
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    March 24, 2015 at 11:55 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I will say that it was a bit selfishly motivated–I was feeling antsy after sitting around, but still, I knew that he would feel worse if he just wallowed. And I meant so well!

      March 24, 2015 at 12:32 pm
  • Reply Jen @ Pretty Little Grub

    That sucks, that totally totally sucks! Sorry to hear for both your sakes.
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    March 24, 2015 at 12:15 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I was just like UGH THE IRONY OF IT ALLLLLL

      March 24, 2015 at 12:31 pm
  • Reply Michele

    Poor Alex! Hopefully he can rest a bit and his body can mend itself. He is also very lucky to have YOU to take care of him! Sounds like he’s the type who just pushes himself to the brink without realizing because it’s in his nature to keep it together. And I definitely believe in intention over outcome, although we do learn from our outcomes, which leads to a shift in what we intend to do I suppose.
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    March 24, 2015 at 12:17 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I think that you have hit it right on head, on all counts! He definitely does push himself so far, so hard, and then the floor rips out from under him. I notice that I start to crack, but I continue anyway lol (though I am getting better about minding the cracks now). Luckily, he is also resilient, mentally. We shall see about the bicep.

      March 24, 2015 at 12:30 pm
  • Reply Brianna @ I run He tris

    First off, I love your mention that he stays calm and level headed without meds. πŸ™‚ If I skip my thyroid meds for more than a day, I cannot say the same about myself. Poor Alex!! Your intentions were good in suggesting the bowling- you wanted to help him perk up and have a better day! What happened is just unfortunate and as long as you are extra sweet the next few days, then he can’t blame you. πŸ˜‰ Hopefully, it heals quickly and he can use his medical connections to do whatever is needed to help him!
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    March 24, 2015 at 12:19 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I wish we had medical connections! You would think so, being a doctor and all… I just felt so terrible to be the instigator… and then I felt so brilliant and then fail. FACEPALM

      March 24, 2015 at 12:29 pm
  • Reply Erin@BeetsPerMinute

    First, I had to laugh when you made the Alanis reference, because that song has pissed me off for nearly two decades now. lol Secondly, I’m SO sorry that happened to your man, he sounds really strong, but it has to suck right now when he’s already feeling so overwhelmed! It simply sucks when all the intentions are right but something negative happens. The rollercoaster of life. πŸ™
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    March 24, 2015 at 12:26 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I know, right? He’s doing better today, it was just one of those, OK, let’s get allllll of the ick out. In the same day. And so here’s to hoping that we did!

      March 24, 2015 at 12:28 pm
  • Reply Nicole @ Fitful Focus

    Well that just sucks. But I am a firm believer in “everything happens for a reason.” None of this sounds fun, but it is just a test to get through, to learn from, and to push you both toward something great!
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    March 24, 2015 at 12:39 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      And I feel like if this is the worst of our problems, then we are in good shape, right?

      March 24, 2015 at 1:09 pm
  • Reply Dannii @ Hungry Healthy Happy

    Oh no! Poor Alex. Although, I can understand how he did it, I am a pretty aggressive bowler and these things can happen.

    Oh, and your weather is definitely drunk!
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    March 24, 2015 at 2:10 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      hahaha aggressive bowler. You would be.

      March 27, 2015 at 8:59 am
  • Reply Julie @ Running in a Skirt

    Oh what a crappy thing to happen! It seem like when it rains it pours. Sending positive healing thoughts his way. It is really hard when your “outlet” is taken away from you. Glad you have such a good man πŸ™‚
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    March 24, 2015 at 2:43 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I really do, and thanks for the positive thoughts!

      March 27, 2015 at 8:59 am
  • Reply Michelle

    Oh gosh… I am so very sorry for your hubby. Sending prayers that he feels better soon and is able to get some down time. xoxoxo

    March 24, 2015 at 2:48 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thank you! And he is finally getting a day off today πŸ˜€

      March 27, 2015 at 8:59 am
  • Reply Ashley @ A Lady Goes West

    Oh poor Alex. It’s terrible to see someone you love have a hard time. I can’t even stand it when my husband is sick. He’s dealt with some knee issues over the past two years, which are awful, because he was a college athlete and missing playing sports so much. I’m really sorry about Alex’s current situation and sure hope it gets better soon. But you’re right. How we react is everything.
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    March 24, 2015 at 3:07 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      It is so hard to get used to a new lifestyle, but you hope that you still have the time to do the things that you love–that’s why it is so hard for him right now! But he’ll hopefully get a break soon.

      March 27, 2015 at 9:00 am
  • Reply Salt

    Oh no!!! I’m so sorry Alex. πŸ™ I can totally relate to this right now. I hope he gets better fast. Bowling is too dangerous for the likes of me.
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    March 24, 2015 at 5:15 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Seriously, we need to get the two of you healthy again!

      March 27, 2015 at 9:00 am
  • Reply Jess @hellotofit

    Sending good thoughts and prayers for Alex! It sounds like he truly has the most positive attitude about EVERYTHING! You guys are awesome. Also, don’t judge but I read – and re-read – your question at least five times through and I’m not sure how to answer. Can we blame it on a long day and being sleepy?
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    March 24, 2015 at 7:44 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I may have been as drunk as the weather when I wrote it!

      March 27, 2015 at 9:01 am
  • Reply Nicole@thegirlwhoraneverywhere

    Oooh no. This is terrible! POOR ALEX!!! I can’t imagine. My husband has had similar things happen: he will be out, doing something for us, and he’ll throw out his back. And it’s always over something so trivial. It’s ridiculously hard watching someone you love go through that pain, knowing you really can’t do anything except for distract them. Thank goodness he has you to help him get through!
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    March 24, 2015 at 8:26 pm
  • Reply Jill

    Oh my word. That is just terrible. From what you’ve said about Alex on the blog I get that he is a really strong, kind hearted, patient good person. I hate when unfortunate things happen to anyone, and especially to people who take on the weight of the world with all their good intentions and sometimes get broken by it. I think good intentions always win out regardless of the outcome. I mean you win some you lose some in life but if your intentions are wholesome then the outcome doesn’t matter so much. Oh and karma. I think Alex has got a stockpile of it, the good kind πŸ™‚
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    March 24, 2015 at 9:04 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I think that if karma exists, Alex had better have a savings account that he is depositing into it. And I hope he’s earning interest πŸ˜‰

      March 27, 2015 at 9:03 am
  • Reply Ursula

    People like Alex deserve some extra respect. In so many ways becoming a doctor is like giving your life over to your patients and your work. It’s admirable, it’s important but it also takes a toll. I get overwhelmed and blue when I haven’t had time to myself in a few weeks but my schedule is probably nothing like his. And despite the bowling accident, you’re such a good wife. I hope he heals super fast, like superhero fast.
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    March 25, 2015 at 9:26 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I don’t htink that many people have a schedule like his! I could handle it, in a robotic way. But Alex still manages to be non robotic! I wouldn’t mind superhero healing powers though–let’s get on that!

      March 27, 2015 at 9:04 am
  • Reply Mar @ Mar on the Run

    ugh. so when it rains it pours right? here’s what he’s got that’s stronger than any bicep – YOU. Hang tight, hold him close and be the gem that you are. this too shall pass. But I’m still sending mucho love his way xoxo
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    March 25, 2015 at 12:39 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      You are so sweet, Mar. And if I am stronger than Alex’s biceps, I should be taking over the world!

      March 27, 2015 at 9:05 am
  • Reply Autumn

    The weather this year is ridiculous! Life is ironic. Keep looking towards the positives and the bright side, accidents happen. He can fib and tell people he tore his bicep wrestling a bear!
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    March 25, 2015 at 7:57 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      oooooooo good idea!

      March 27, 2015 at 9:05 am
  • Reply Lauren @ ihadabiglunch

    This week was bananas for you πŸ™ I hope it’s all getting better and Alex is feeling better! You two have such a strong foundation that it’s so wonderful to see how supportive you are of each other when the other one is going thru a tough time.
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    March 26, 2015 at 10:25 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thanks, Lo. I hope that I get to see you soon!

      March 27, 2015 at 9:06 am
  • Reply Sue @ This Mama Runs for Cupcakes

    Oh no! So sorry to hear this. My husband is the same exact way, a rock and somehow continues to deal with my crap. We found us some keepers πŸ™‚ I hope he is feeling better soon. Sounds like you two need a vacation!

    March 28, 2015 at 7:49 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      We definitely found us some keepers, you are smack on the money about that! That is why it is so hard for us to accept when things go awry!

      March 30, 2015 at 2:46 pm

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