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Indulgence or Self Care? Friday Catch Up 9/1

This week, I’ve been feeling a bit indulgent, but am I really just practicing self care? Either way, let’s talk about it in the Friday Catch Up!

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Friday Catch Up:

1) To make a VERY long story short, I’ve been feeling that I’ve been indulging myself lately with various things: extra baby naps here and there, pb cups and fries like they are going out of style, frivolous purchases (on the small side, but knowing that they are completely frivolous), not buckling down and doing some writing that I’ve had on my brain for a few days/week… etc.

I’ve been feeling that I’ve been overindulging myself, when really it is just self care (if you have been reading for a VERY long time… in my first year of blogging, I wrote a post called Beneficial Strategic Selfishness aka self care before “self care” became a THING. 

I’ve been feeling guilty because I’ve been focusing on ME. Texas is going through so much with Hurricane Harvey, but I feel so removed from it. When Hurricane Katrina happened, I was living in Atlanta and the effects were so visceral and real and in your face–you couldn’t escape it. Up here in Chicago, though, I feel so removed from this HUGE disaster. I don’t know if it’s a pregnancy bubble, or what, but I’m feeling guilty for not being more involved. 

The serious and the frivolous.


2) I’m working another 6 day week with picking up this Saturday. So basically I totally lied to you. But the great thing is that I could CHOOSE to pick up the shift. And we all know that the Monday lunch shift I’m supposed to work will be a piece of cake aka nobody will come.

I don’t have words.

mmmm cake….

Speaking of, it is getting to the point that I REALLY need to go buy at least ONE bra that fits me and at least one pair of legitimate pants that fit. Feeling guilty about making those purchases as well for personal financial as well as Harvey reasons.

3) I may or may not have gone with Alex to get froyo on Monday in pajamas and crocs. That were obviously pajama shorts. And Crocs are always obvious. REALLY MAKING A STATEMENT THERE. The flavors were ok–I got the same flavor combo I had the day before when I came home from dinner with Sarah. PS if you are vegan, they have coconut milk soft serve at the Sweet frozen yogurt shop on Clark!

4) I’m pretty sad because a bunch of my good friends are going to be leaving work soon, or have left work already. Sure, it means I won’t be “bottom of the totem pole” as much in some cases, but these are my partners in crime, and especially since I’ve been at the restaurant during the entire scope of my pregnancy… their departure feels… their departure leaves a sense of emptiness for me in some ways. I’m excited for them, but they will be missed. And I will miss giving them absurd faces that guests then see by accident and think I’m insane. 

5) Let’s end on a bit of fun news!

  • I made dinner for Alex and I Monday and Thursday. 
  • We had a yummy dinner at one of our old favorite Thai places on Wednesday
  • The US Open is totally captivating my attention. Totally jealous that Alex is going to go this weekend when he heads to NYC!
  • I have Horchata flavored coffee to make and I’m pretty stoked.
  • I have AWESOME giveaways for you guys next week.
  • We find out Yoshi’s sex next week!!!!
  • THEY ARE DONE WITH THE CONSTRUCTION ON OUR BALCONY! The plastic sheets came off Wednesday, and I was able to open the balcony doors Thursday! FRESH AIR FOR ALL.
  • The men in the US Open draw are very good looking. Don’t tell Alex.

Life is good, life is truly great for me. I have NOTHING to complain about–just things to ponder and process. I think I will go and process them over chocolate and chips, because I am pregnant and that is my diet.

Have an awesome weekend, everyone, and Happy Labor Day to all Americans! I will be laboring myself, but thanks to a friend at work, for a shorter shift than usual!

Have you ever felt totally removed from a huge disaster and felt totally guilty because of it?

What are your “unsexy” shoes? Mine are Crocs. Don’t tell me they are not comfortable. 

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  • Reply jennifer

    Havey is crazy over here — we just got blown down fence, limbs at our house. Brothers cul-de-sac in houston flooded up to waist but miraculously there house sitting up high enough only water to door. I have friends who are doing search and rescue . . . and here I am feeling like I don’t know what to do either . . . here take my text red cross donation, so removed feeling also. I couldn’t get to Houston if I wanted, there is LITERALLY NO GAS available to put in the car, so I am just rationing my driving.

    On a lighter note, I also wore my pajamas TO LUNCH the other day, I consider it a dress that can work day or night 😉

    September 1, 2017 at 7:12 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I am so thankful that you are ok. I understand your feelings of helplessness. And you are so close!

      September 6, 2017 at 6:27 pm
  • Reply Maureen @ Maureen Gets Real

    Thanks to social media now, I don’t think it’s that hard to feel disconnected from disasters since information is always available. Granted, I don’t see it first hand but it’s much easier to get information that it has been in the past. That’s just my humble opinion though 🙂

    September 1, 2017 at 7:51 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I hear you there. I just wish I didn’t then block things out.

      September 6, 2017 at 6:25 pm
  • Reply Julie @ Running in a Skirt

    I have this pair of winter slides lined with the stuff in uggs. They are Merrel or something. They are so ugly but I can’t seem to get rid of them.
    So excited to you to learn the sex!!!

    September 1, 2017 at 8:10 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I think ugly shoes are the way to go.

      September 6, 2017 at 6:25 pm
  • Reply Jennifer @ Fit Nana

    I have Crocs. Redskins Crocs with a hole in the toe where my dog chewed it. I love them. I wear them at home all the time (hello, so good for plantar fasciitis!) and I love them when we’re camping. So that definitely counts as wearing them in public.

    Honestly, I felt more removed from Katrina. Don’t ask me why. I think I was still reeling from all the 9/11 coverage and I refused to watch any news that would depress me. Terrible, I know. I’m not proud.

    September 1, 2017 at 8:24 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      It isn’t terrible–I understand all too well what you mean. There is only so much terrible that our brains can take in at a single time.

      September 6, 2017 at 6:25 pm
  • Reply Emily Swanson

    Pajamas and crocs? You are a girl after my own heart; I LOVE the gifts of pajamas and crocs. I wear my crocs so many places.

    And I think that it’s important to rest. I’ve been learning lately about rest and waiting on the Lord, and it’s been hard, because I naturally want to just ‘go, go, go,’ but I think that’s often spurred on by not wanting to feel ‘useless’, but rest teaches me that God is working even when I need to rest.

    It’s good to rest. I’m glad you’re taking time for extra naps and self-care.

    September 1, 2017 at 8:40 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      You know that I push so hard because I see everyone else doing that. I need to remember that I am human!

      September 6, 2017 at 6:24 pm
  • Reply Suzlyfe's mommy, Clare

    I’m going to give you some “Suzlyfe’s mommy, Clare’s” observations–

    You aren’t self-indulging. Your body is not just your body now, its also carrying a precious being inside of you.
    You are feeding your body in a different way than before.
    Yes, you are sugar loading, and maybe that type of carb isn’t always the best choice, but you are responding to your body’s cravings–not just as a runner or a crohns patient, but as a hormonal pregnant hotmess!! Hormones can do really weird things! (and, I’m just jealous b/c when I was pregnant, for months I couldn’t look at sugar in any form other than an occasional chocolate chip cookie and fruit!)

    Let’s go to your question about a terrible disaster and your mental and emotional separation from it.
    I believe that in very deep and feral way, that separation you feel, is your way of protecting your unborn child from a horror in this world that you can neither fix or heal. That is the mother in you that is trying to protect your child.

    When Katrina hit, you lived in the south and we saw and knew a lot of people who were terribly affected by the horror. When you and I went to NOLA in 2016, for that TeamChallenge race we couldn’t run, we could still see the devastation that Katrina had wrought years before.
    After watching the complete media overload from 9/11 for days, we discovered that the only way we could deal with that type of horror was to turn off the TV, Otherwise we watched it over and over.
    After awhile, your mind steps back b/c your life keeps going on, even with the horror.
    Your dad and I had to turn the TV off, because you and Chris were old enough to be horrified, yet captivated by the repeated graphic news and it really took a toll of all of us. Its numbing and exhausting to see over and over the pain and terror.
    When we had the hurricanes (Opal and Ivan) that affected us and our home by dropping huge trees in our yard and onto our house, we had our own disaster up close and personal.
    It’s not that you don’t care about the flooding that Harvey has brought, but the enormity of the media overload can numb you to the tragedy unfolding daily to an area that you don’t personally know. You feel guilty about not feeling the strong emotions you think your should feel. Give yourself a week or so.
    Once the real destruction is known, after the water recedes, I know you will feel differently, because I know you.
    Right now, your withdrawal from the pain being experienced somewhere else, is your unconscious protection of your unborn child.
    These are feelings that you could not have understood no matter how much you could read about or have described to you. These come from a place way deep inside of you and they will become more and more real in the next months. Its called “being a parent.”

    September 1, 2017 at 9:30 am
    • Reply jade

      I always love reading your responses and this one sent tingles down my spine. You ended it with ‘it’s called being a parent’ …and all I could think about was yes, protection…and we would die for our babies, in a second.

      September 1, 2017 at 3:04 pm
      • Reply Suzlyfe's mommy, Clare

        Thank you, Jade!
        That was much longer than I’d intended, but there are truths there that you can’t really (deep down really) understand, until you are a parent……and then……you can.

        September 1, 2017 at 3:56 pm
      • Reply suzlyfe

        She’s the best, right??

        September 6, 2017 at 6:21 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I’m growing and learning and transitioning and figuring out how to feel as a mother. We can’t protect our kids from everything, but we can figure out how to deal with things ourselves for later.

      September 6, 2017 at 6:23 pm
  • Reply Linda from Veganosity

    Indulge! Guilt-free! I went to the Western & Southern Open in Cincinnati (a great, intimate venue for tennis)a few weeks ago. I was literally 10 feet away from Rafa. Let me tell you, that man is not human. Perfection from head to toe! Have a great long weekend, Susie!

    September 1, 2017 at 1:31 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      You and my mother in law need to have a personal Rafa cheering section 😀

      September 6, 2017 at 6:22 pm
  • Reply Deborah @ Confessions of a mother runner

    Oh the bra issues are just starting! yes definitely need a few good ones in different sizes. That means everyone is healthy and growing 🙂

    September 1, 2017 at 1:59 pm
  • Reply Emily @ Pizza & Pull-ups

    Both of the kids have crocs, I have not ordered myself any as of yet, but I think about it all the time. They both love them and kids are not shy about telling you when something is not comfy. Finding out the sex is so exciting. Hope you have a great weekend! What kind of coffee is this? I love horchata, and would love to try it out in coffee form.

    September 1, 2017 at 2:42 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Just some horchata flavored coffee that I found at TJ Maxx!

      September 6, 2017 at 6:21 pm
  • Reply San

    Oh, I often feel removed from disasters and feel guilty about it… like ,right now, I have donated (and will run miles) for Texas, but shouldn’t we – at the same time – care about the floods in India? Nobody has been talking about this. It’s really hard to care about EVERYTHING that is going on everywhere and we can all only do what we can. I think it’s totally ok that you’re mostly focusing on yourself right now.

    Also, I love that you love the US Open. I used to play tennis, so I love the big tournaments, too (although I will admit I am not as much in the loop as I used to).

    September 1, 2017 at 4:09 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I totally hear you. There are just so many problems in this world, it is hard to know what to put your attention to.

      September 6, 2017 at 6:21 pm
  • Reply Ashley @ A Lady Goes West

    OMG the gender reveal is coming up! That was SO exciting for us! Are you going to get it in a cake? What’s your plan? As far as the rest of what you’ve said — you shouldn’t feel guilty for self care or worrying about yourself. You have a LOT going on with pregnancy, and that doesn’t mean you don’t have sympathy for those in Texas. Also, pajamas for froyo? That’s my girl! Enjoy your weekend, Susie! 🙂

    September 1, 2017 at 5:34 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      We are just going to find out and then go out to dinner. Simple and no pomp and circumstance for us!
      Glad I’m making you proud 😀

      September 6, 2017 at 6:20 pm
  • Reply Lisa @ Mile by Mile

    I’ve actually never tried wearing crocs! I have slippers that I wear around the house and Rob makes fun of my when Im wearing pajamas as slippers at 7pm. Looks like you have so many exciting things coming up!

    September 1, 2017 at 6:25 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I luuuurve my crocs. I may never get rid of them.

      September 6, 2017 at 6:19 pm
  • Reply Laura @ This Runner's Recipes

    I haven’t worn crocs in years! I do wear my Birkenstocks everywhere. I’m excited for when you share the gender of your baby!

    September 1, 2017 at 7:10 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I rarely wear them out of the house, but they remain for sore feet days!

      September 6, 2017 at 6:18 pm
  • Reply Wendy@Taking the Long Way Home

    I can’t even wear Crocs. But all my shoes are super comfy–not a heel in the house!

    I have my last week at my clinic next week and then I move to my new site. It is bittersweet–so many of my coworkers have left this summer, so it won’t be as hard to leave as it could be–but it still is. I love my partners and will miss them. My patients are mostly coming with me, so that is a good thing. Either way, it’s still tough.

    September 1, 2017 at 8:18 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I’m sure. But I have such hope for you to find a new work life balance at the this new place. Such hope.

      September 6, 2017 at 6:18 pm
  • Reply Kristy from Southern In Law

    How exciting!!!!! I’m so glad you’re finding out the sex so I can know too I don’t know how people wait!!

    September 3, 2017 at 3:51 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      hahahahahaah I know!

      September 6, 2017 at 6:16 pm
  • Reply Farrah

    I’m totally with you on the being-more-indulgent-lately train–I’ve definitely made several purchases on things I didn’t really need. (I blame it on retail therapy fueled by boards brain. 😮 ) I’m gonna agree wholeheartedly with your mom’s comment. Take those extra naps and work in that self-care! <3

    Hope you find well-fitting bras soon, and I can't wait to find out your baby's gender! :]

    September 3, 2017 at 9:10 am
    • Reply suzlyfe


      September 6, 2017 at 6:15 pm
  • Reply Renee Benda

    Harvey is just heartbreaking, everything I see, everything I hear it’s just heartbreaking, I think everyone feels a little helpless. As far as self care I’m with you on the over indulging. I find I get a little depressed and I go nuts with purchases I’ve been justifying it as it’s all things we need for the new house but I’m not sure how workout clothes are needed for the new digs? Oh boy! Kudos on the dinners… my instant pot is the only way my family is eating meals this week!

    September 3, 2017 at 10:09 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I think we all react to extremes. We are seeing an extreme with Harvey that is a natural disaster, not just a political or social disaster. There is just so much bad going on right now that we all need some comfort.

      September 6, 2017 at 6:15 pm

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