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I am Not Making New Year’s Goals

While I am totally in support of anyone making goals and resolutions for the New Year (did you see my tips from coaches and trainers for newbies?), I am not making new year’s goals for 2016. Intentionally.  I’m not even really setting an intention, other than the one that I will mention at the end. Buy why?

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In the interest of full disclosure, I have prepared multiple times for this post: 

The first time, I titled and had it scheduled in Coschedule and everything, and then well, as I will tell you in a minute, I changed my mind. The second time, I opened a “New Post” window and wrote nothing. The third attempt, I wrote down all the things I wanted to talk about.

And then a) proceeded to forget that I even still needed to write a post for today (this being last night), b) left my laptop on the table (after moving to couch happily ready to work on my Christmas running book reading list–I’ve started Advanced Marathoning) and realized I needed to write my post and then c) sat back down, opened up computer and another “New Post” window…. and realized that I’ve left my notebook with my notes to myself in my bag on the table and I’m not supposed to move too much (after a day of moving too much) and here comes Zoe and now she is laying on top of me (and the laptop) and I can’t move her.

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I’ll let you make what decisions you will about me from that. 

But, luckily for you, Suz is as Suz does, so here are the remaining thoughts that may or may not have been on that piece of paper.

ALRIGHT.

I am not making new year’s goals for this year.

And before I go any further, please understand that what follows is a) not meant to be pessimistic, but rather, realistic and b) a bit of a brain dump.

I am not making new year’s goals, as it were, because let’s face it, Alex and I can’t even meal plan. Believe me. We tried to do so this week, and guess how many of those meals we have made? ONE. Because he has worked all the others!

I don’t like putting pressure on my running by saying: I’m going to hit x time or x miles. If your body is screwed up magical enough to have a sacral stress fracture, one of the rarest stress injuries for a healthy (ish) person, among other lovely conditions, well, you take your victories where you can get them. 

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Thumb holes are victories

Those other goals? Running by Christmas. Biking by Christmas. Being off crutches by New Years. Being off crutches by Cabo. Being giving a new sacrum and $20 million dollars for Christmas. Well, let’s just say that they didn’t happen. And that bigger goal, the literal unicorn… the Boston Marathon… well, that strike through is getting farther and farther each day.

Brain dump on Boston: Also, we keep getting newsletters about Boston. I just can’t bring myself to unsubscribe or defer yet. I know it isn’t going to happen. Or at least I tell myself that. But I keep having these silly moments where I think… just maybe. But then I think, ok, so I somehow get to Boston. Is that really how I want to experience Boston? Or do I want to wait until I can come back and run it? Am I willing to a) wait and b) take that chance?

Is it really terrible that part of the reason that I want so badly to go is that I love the finisher’s jackets, which are bright teal and pink aka totally my color (though I know people are totally crabbing about it)?

Official 2016 Boston Marathon Women's Anthem Jacket

What about my other “goal” for the year: To work on having a family. I can’t really even work on THAT either with a semibroken pelvic girdle! Even if fertility issues were not on the table and those things were bing-bang-bam-boom easy, I probably shouldn’t be getting preggars with a broken baby basket. I don’t see that being such a great idea.

I’m not trying to crab, I’m really not. Thank goodness I’m not in the same amount of pain that I was in initially, or even the week of Christmas. But the simplest movements still hurt. We are going to Cabo this weekend to stay with my parents (my dad lives there for part of the year) and I can’t walk on the beach–literally what I have been waiting months for. I’m not supposed to sit cross legged, and it hurts so piggy back rides are out. 

I guess what I am trying to say is that the whole thing kind of wears on you.

Ok, Pity Party is over. One day this will all be but a distant memory. But for now. It freaking sucks. What are some fun things that I can tell you? hmmm. This is what happens when I don’t have my list!

I am not making goals for this year because this is not the year in my life for making goals.

This year is a year for abiding by my own advice in my  my toast to the New Year. To remember to be thankful even when times are tough, to play my cards as they are dealt to me, and to remember my favorite motivational quotes to get through the harder days.

Maybe next year will be an appropriate time for goals, maybe not. But even so, I guess I am of the firm opinion that you cannot time these sorts of things: the time for making goals is not relegated to just one part of the year. When it is time to make a change, seize that moment and make that change. Don’t “wait on Christmas.” 

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So maybe not the straightforward, methodical and logical answer you were expecting or looking for. But if you click on the blogs of many of the commenters, I am sure that you can find someone who has brilliantly made the case for or against the making of New Years goals and resolutions. I just know that right now is not the time in my life that I need to feel the pressures on my physical self. 

Who else is just looking to see what comes our way organically, from how we play our cards?

Teal jacket: love or hate?

How do you take your margaritas? On the rocks, with salt, light agave.

Thank you to Amanda for the chance to Think Out Loud!

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106 Comments

  • Reply Farrah

    I’m the worst at meal planning! I kinda just dump stuff together on the fly and hope that things work. The only recipe I ever intentionally plan is…well, basically for Foodie Friday. I don’t think you’re being pessimistic. You’re being adaptable and realistic, both of which are really important too! Sending you lots of good thoughts.

    I heart the teal, but I’m biased because blue’s my favorite color and green’s pretty high up there too. <3

    January 7, 2016 at 6:01 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      aka we are sooooooo similar, and thank you!

      January 7, 2016 at 2:06 pm
  • Reply Julie @ Running in a Skirt

    I totally understand this too. Some years are for doing the best you can, whatever that may be. This is that year for you. I’ve been there and I get it. One day at a time.

    January 7, 2016 at 6:32 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Maybe I need a goal a week, or something!

      January 7, 2016 at 2:06 pm
  • Reply Lauren

    I’m making some less concrete goals, but I get you lady, especially with your injury. Also those Boston jackets are my jam! Totally like my fave colors and cmon, way better than those neon orange ones a couple years ago haha.

    January 7, 2016 at 6:59 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      GOD yes. Maybe this just means I will get to run it with you!

      January 7, 2016 at 2:02 pm
  • Reply Kimberly G

    I totally understand where you are coming from. I struggled with making ‘goals’ this year but decided to focus more on fun stuff like meeting more blogger and social media friends at races this year.

    January 7, 2016 at 7:01 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Which I can tell you is SO MUCH FUN.

      January 7, 2016 at 2:02 pm
  • Reply Annmarie

    I totally think it’s okay to not have goals and being realistic is a healthy way to deal with all that you’ve got going on. Having to just deal with everything and figure out your next step really is quite an accomplishment in and of itself <3

    January 7, 2016 at 7:02 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thanks, boo. I just have bigger fish to fry, and I don’t want to do anything that might set me back more.

      January 7, 2016 at 2:03 pm
  • Reply Sara @ LIfe Between the Miles

    I don’t have formal “goals” for this year either, mainly my “goal” is to be happy, patient and try to live in the moment as much as I can (this is VERY hard for me!) To answer your questions–I don’t like the teal jacket (sorry) but honestly I don’t like the jacket the year I ran Boston either (its fluorescent orange–but I bought it anyways!) And I’m not a huge margarita fan, but if I do have one, I want it frozen with sugar on the rim…and in a fruity flavor cause I’m high maintenance like that! πŸ™‚ Have a great time with your family in Cabo!!

    January 7, 2016 at 7:19 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      You are so high maintenance. But I adore you regardless. I think that you have perfect goals for a mom with a busy boy and a full time job. Believe me, accomplishing all of those things will keep you busy enough!

      January 7, 2016 at 2:05 pm
  • Reply Wendy@Taking the Long Way Home

    Complain away. I’m feeling sorry for myself because this damn PF is so painful and taking time off isn’t helping AT ALL. I’m giving it until the weekend and if it’s still painful, I’m going to start running again because why not? And I’m going to make an appt with Marcia’s guy. Runners gotta run, and that’s the bottom line.

    January 7, 2016 at 7:24 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Yup. And we gotta do what we gotta do in order to make that happen. Sadly, for me that means biscuit sitting.

      January 7, 2016 at 2:00 pm
  • Reply Anna @ Piper's Run

    First off, I love the teal jacket.
    Second – I’ve been taking some time to figure out my goals for the year and the post is drafted and ready to go. I always seem to take some time to get into the new year and then post my goals. I’m focusing a little less on details and more overall things to enjoy this year.
    Happy 2016 Susie.

    January 7, 2016 at 7:26 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Which is exactly how you should approach it! Love it and happy new year Anna!

      January 7, 2016 at 2:02 pm
  • Reply Michele @ paleorunningmomma

    That jacket will now have to become my motivation to train, so thank you for informing me. Clearly I haven’t been opening my emails. I totally get not making formal goals – especially around fitness when you’re injured – that’s a whole lot of unnecessary pressure. Plus, sometimes we need the exact opposite of goals for mental healthy purposes!

    January 7, 2016 at 7:30 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Precisely. I just don’t need that pressure–stress won’t help me heal any faster!

      January 7, 2016 at 2:00 pm
  • Reply Erica

    I’m with you. I just don’t feel like putting any pressure on myself this year. I’ll do what I can, and be happy with it.

    January 7, 2016 at 7:37 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      And raise that adorable son of yours πŸ˜€

      January 7, 2016 at 1:59 pm
  • Reply Laura @ This Runner's Recipes

    I completely understand and support you on this. Goals are great, but they are only useful if they emerge organically out of our current circumstances. In a way, you do have a built in goal for the year: to heal while taking the ups and downs of the injury with your head held highβ€”and you’re already doing that! Boston will always be there.
    And a margarita just as you described, just as they should be made.

    January 7, 2016 at 7:46 am
  • Reply Amanda @ .running with spoons.

    I’ve definitely had those years myself, so I know exactly where you’re coming from and think it’s not such a horrible idea to sit this year out on the goal making front. Sometimes we have to work on getting back to our previous baseline before we can think about going above that, and that’s perfectly okay — there’ll be plenty more years to rock the socks off of.

    PS. Love that jacket.

    January 7, 2016 at 7:46 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Exactly. And that doesn’t mean that I can’t have goals later on–I’m just not setting them NOW.
      Can we get matching jackets?

      January 7, 2016 at 1:58 pm
  • Reply Sarah

    I have never made a New Year’s resolution or goal. I don’t see the point. What is it about the New Year that we have to change? There are plenty of times during the year to set goals and resolve to do things. It doesn’t have to be now. It should be when you are truly ready and that comes with thinking throughout the year and being mindful of who you are and where you want to be.

    January 7, 2016 at 7:54 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thank you–exactly how I was thinking.

      January 7, 2016 at 1:58 pm
  • Reply Lauren

    I had read your post on my phone but just saw the pic and totally did not copy the new year’s graphic you used in my post today. eek. #bloggerproblems

    January 7, 2016 at 7:55 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      it’s call great minds thinking alike πŸ˜€

      January 7, 2016 at 1:57 pm
  • Reply Bri

    With so many unknowns its hard, and even unfair, to make goals. So I’m glad you aren’t, and can just focus day by day on doing what you need to do to get better.

    Also, the 90s called and want that teal Boston jacket back!

    January 7, 2016 at 7:56 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Raised in the 90s, and I’ll claim that πŸ˜€ As long as there isn’t the matching pants, lol. xoxox

      January 7, 2016 at 1:57 pm
      • Reply Suzlyfe's mommy, Clare

        Well, you had the Kerrits teal riding pants that matched your teal saddle pad..so the teal jacket would be a wonderful addition to your personal fashion statement!

        January 8, 2016 at 11:32 am
  • Reply Cassi

    I didn’t make any heath & fitness goals this year either.

    January 7, 2016 at 8:00 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      If we are already healthy, we just need to maintain that and support those who need help!

      January 7, 2016 at 1:48 pm
  • Reply Eric Nette

    I used to make resolutions just to be able to tell people what my resolutions were. As in, I didn’t take them seriously with even 1% of effort, people just kept asking and I wanted to give an answer. I never understood how a simple date change could change my resolve. I decided many years ago, I don’t even know when I think it was a slow realization over time, that if something was worth doing I would do it. I’ve struggled all my life with the most basic things (living, family, etc.) and my resolve to just go and fight for whatever I want is what got me through all of that. I don’t need a list now, I’m going to do it. I also get stuck in my head with plans plans plans, living organically to me is really hard but oh so worth it.
    I was upset when I read that the jacket (my first, god willing) was “Equipment Green”. My favorite color is blue, and Boston colors have traditionally eschewed to the blue side of things. Once I opened the link I fell in love with the jacket! That is NOT Green, it is a beautiful light blue.
    I was still upset with the commenter saying us charity runners don’t deserve jackets (he also cheered the death of a charity runner so a “real runner” could get their spot).
    My margaritas are with blended ice and no salt! I love salt in all other things but in this, none!

    January 7, 2016 at 8:05 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Haha, your marg is the polar opposite of mine πŸ˜€ I also used to just make resolutions for the sake of making them, and maybe that is why I also a bit adverse to them. Now I want to have something to build upon, so I am about making foundations.
      Also, wtf is with that terrible name? And anyone who thinks that charity runners don’t deserve jackets or to be there is a miserable elitist who just wants others to be miserable. I don’t have time for that.

      January 7, 2016 at 1:54 pm
      • Reply Eric Nette

        Well the whole thing is a throw back to their original jackets, since the original jackets were first made 25 years ago. Those jackets were called “equipment green” including some of the addidas gear that was made that year, so it’s just a call out to that. I love the teal color though.
        We start official registration for our runners any day now, so I can’t wait to get my official notice! I’m trying to focus on that instead of my last lousy long run. I set myself up for failure, but hoping I can pull it back for Saturday (Temp drop is influencing me so I’m looking into my treadmill options to rebuild confidence).

        January 7, 2016 at 2:33 pm
        • Reply suzlyfe

          Getting mentally back in the game is tough, but you just have to go in there with as clean a slate as you can manage. Easier said than done, I know!

          January 8, 2016 at 11:25 am
  • Reply Heather@hungryforbalance

    Amen to playing the cards we’re dealt! There are so many things out of our control in life.

    January 7, 2016 at 8:13 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      So many! And so many cards that are out there, trying to take our attention. It really is like being in a casino!

      January 7, 2016 at 1:48 pm
  • Reply Danielle @ The T-Rex Runner

    Margaritas are everything. Mine are on the rocks with as much salt as they can fit on the glass. A glass made of salt is preferred.

    I can definitely relate on just the overwhelming depressed feeling that comes from having an injury with no real time line as the things you were planning on doing slip away. For you, it’s not just running goals, it’s family goals, too, and that is really hard. That said, not everything in life is dependent on or related to your injury. I’m sure that you could come up with some blogging goals if you were so inclined, or develop a plan to grow your coaching business. Maybe focusing on those things in 2016 would take some of the sting out of potentially missing the others. You’re so talented and have a lot going on – you’ll find something!

    January 7, 2016 at 8:31 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      OMG this is why we are friends. SO MUCH SALT.
      I am definitely pushing through with some personal career aims and movement. I have certain benchmarks, I guess you could call them goals, in mind for my business and the long term, but I am also flexible with them so that I can balance life and what may or may not come in the future. Thus why I will be nerding in Mexico.

      January 7, 2016 at 1:50 pm
  • Reply Rebecca @ Strength and Sunshine

    #TeamNoGoals!

    January 7, 2016 at 8:42 am
  • Reply Erin @ Erin's Inside Job

    Yeah girl. Goals can kick rocks. Make some anti-goals like “I will not allow my sacrum to break more.” πŸ™‚

    January 7, 2016 at 8:58 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Sadly, I don’t know I can keep up with that one!

      January 7, 2016 at 1:46 pm
  • Reply Suzy

    I totally don’t care what colour the Boston jackets are. They could be covered in a raw hamburger meat pattern and I’d be just as proud to wear it anywhere. I don’t know how you’re handling all of this so well. If it were me, I’d blow everything up and make a “pessimistic post” look like a nursery rhyme.

    January 7, 2016 at 9:08 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      To be honest, when/if I get mine, I really hope that they aren’t ugly. But I guess it is all relative? And I think that would be a very interesting post…

      January 7, 2016 at 1:47 pm
  • Reply Jen @ Pretty Little Grub

    I can totally understand why you aren’t making goals. Right now, it’s hard to have a positive outlook.I think your goal should just be focused on recovery and getting back to a healthy place both physically and mentally.

    January 7, 2016 at 9:08 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I agree, and that is totally my mindset–recovery, but also what I can handle. I now know how much of a long haul this is going to be, and I am no longer looking at just “getting through” but rather finding ways that I can work with it.

      January 7, 2016 at 1:44 pm
  • Reply Rae

    Well, considering that I already wrote a post about how I don’t have any 2016 goals other than the marathon, I’m totally with you, and I totally get it. Maybe my reasons are a bit different than yours, but you’ve gotta do what’s right for you. And as you said, it’s ok to make goals at times other than the new year. Maybe you can re-evaluate later. Maybe not. Just roll with it.

    January 7, 2016 at 9:17 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      That is just what I am doing. But don’t you worry, I am still 100% in it for you πŸ˜€

      January 7, 2016 at 1:41 pm
  • Reply Megan @ Skinny Fitalicious

    You do have a goal this year…it’s to GET WELL! That is your number one goal and I promise you will get well. I won’t leave you either (like so many did to me). Focus on getting well. Everything else will fall into place. I know you had your hopes on Boston, but Boston will always be there.

    January 7, 2016 at 9:22 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I know it will, and I know you won’t. I knew that minute we connected–you are a true soul, through and through. xoxo

      January 7, 2016 at 1:42 pm
  • Reply Angie @ Pace with Grace

    Yes to this! I totally get where you are coming from. Its okay to not have defined β€œgoals”. This doesn’t mean you aren’t working towards something or growing. I think we need to cut ourselves some slack when we need it and this is what will help you heal and get back to yourself. I appreciate your candidness!

    January 7, 2016 at 9:24 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      You know I am always going to tell it straight, come hell or high water. And yes yes yes to cutting ourselves some slack!

      January 7, 2016 at 1:42 pm
  • Reply Kat

    This is such an honest post and I really appreciate you putting it all out there. SO many others might “fake” this post to fluff it a bit, but you just lay it straight – it isn’t going to happen. Good for you. Just because you aren’t going to be making specific goals though doesn’t mean you wont completely destroy this year – I 100% believe that you will! The great thing about injuries is that they reveal things about yourself you never knew before. I can’t wait to see all that you accomplish this year – especially since you aren’t planning on accomplishing it πŸ˜‰

    January 7, 2016 at 9:39 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Precisely. My motto is to live beyond expectations–luckily, I’m setting myself up for success with that by not having too many to begin with!

      January 7, 2016 at 1:39 pm
  • Reply Emily

    I’m going more and more this way for my goal setting this year. My one goal for everything is to be FAITHFUL, and remember my favorite hymn, ‘Great is thy faithfulness, O God my Father. There is no shadow of turning with thee.’

    January 7, 2016 at 9:49 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Faith is always necessary, regardless of our beliefs. We have to have faith in something, otherwise, I think we are a bit aimless and untethered.

      January 7, 2016 at 1:37 pm
  • Reply Sue @ This Mama Runs for Cupcakes

    Margaritas on the rocks, no salt.
    Teal and pink jacket? Yes please.
    Goals. Gosh, I felt so much pressure to make goals for myself and like you sat down in front on my computer time after time with nothing and thought what the hell is wrong with me? How can you have NO goals? I have agonized about this, but I’m over it. No goals. I will set goals as something comes up I think and actually? It’s really quite refreshing!

    January 7, 2016 at 11:05 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Seriously, I want to drink my marg in my teal jacket. Talk about awesome. I read your post and 100% we are on the same page!

      January 7, 2016 at 1:36 pm
      • Reply Suzlyfe's mommy, Clare

        If you put just a smudge of curacao in the marg, it will make it teal and then the jacket will match perfectly!

        January 8, 2016 at 11:37 am
  • Reply Nikki

    I love the Jacket too I will never be able to compete again..
    Hugs!!’ I would say . yourself and taking care of yourself is a good focus and investment . There are lots of races but you only have one body . I know it’s hard you’re doing a good job Hugs

    January 7, 2016 at 11:14 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thank you, Nikki. There is so much more to life than competing–there is also LIVING

      January 7, 2016 at 1:30 pm
  • Reply Gianna @ Run, Lift, Repeat

    I do not think you are being pessimistic in not having defined “goals”. That was me last year. I just wanted to be healthy. When you are at your bodies mercy you just need time and patience, oh so much patience. I did kind of lol at broken baby basket, you have such a way with words!

    January 7, 2016 at 11:33 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I, too, just want to be healthy. But I guess I am just getting as much patience practice as possible, huh?

      January 7, 2016 at 1:31 pm
  • Reply Jill

    I am sorry you did not get a new sacrum and 20 million dollars for Christmas :(. I used to make NY goals but haven’t in years. I don’t think they work Bc you often need to readjust throughout the year. And I kinda felt they set me up for failure. Anyway I think just getting to a point where you’re healthy is the best strategy right now. Your health is everything! For your now and for your future. Take care Susie.

    January 7, 2016 at 12:34 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thank you, and I will, Jill (you, too, by the way!). I totally agree with you. Maybe we need to have “aims,” instead of goals?

      January 7, 2016 at 1:34 pm
  • Reply Sarah @pickyrunner

    You’re making the best of this situation. I honestly don’t think I’d handle it well at all. I like the idea that this isn’t the year to make any goals. I never thought of it like that. I’m a big believer in “if it’s meant to be, it will be” so if Boston is meant to happen this year, it will, and if not, you will have another chance. Really love the honesty here <3

    January 7, 2016 at 12:48 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Maybe the jacket will be even more awesome when I finally get one (if I do). I think this is my version of letting things happen as they lie, you know? And I’ll always be honest. To a fault, even.

      January 7, 2016 at 1:32 pm
  • Reply Suzlyfe's mommy, Clare

    I’m long past trying to keep New Year’s Resolutions—I mean really, 365 days?—-and this year has 366 days cause it’s Leap Year! It’s hard to keep a resolution for a week, much less a year!

    I prefer to return to the rules of my youth in a very strict Catholic family. I give up things for Lent–it’s only 40 days and you get a pass on Sundays. Six days a week is very doable.

    I used to give up chocolate for Lent, then we had the years when Susie sold Girl Scout cookies, which were always during Lent. I’d be so good for those 6 days, then eat an entire box of Samoas on Sunday………

    But, seriously, 6 days a week is very doable for changing lifestyle patterns. Working out 6 days a week, cutting back on refined sugar, you can live with 6 days a week and each week it gets easier until it becomes your new normal.
    Lent may be over in 40 days, but those new improved life-style habits can last MUCH longer!
    But, I still love Girl Scout cookies

    January 7, 2016 at 1:28 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I miss the blissful ignorance that Girl Scout weren’t terrible for you. Can we go back to that, please?

      January 7, 2016 at 1:35 pm
  • Reply Kate @ Baking in Yoga Pants

    I love that you point out that goals can be made at any point in time and don’t have to be restricted to January 1. And as a side note, I don’t think you’re crabbing or throwing a pity party, I think that certain situations are just really tough and there’s something to be said for acknowledging that. One of my favorite authors calls life ‘brutifal’ and I have to say that I agree, it can be both brutal and beautiful.

    January 7, 2016 at 1:35 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Brutiful. I like that. Life can also be brutally beautiful. I’m looking forward to seeing some of that (and whales!) in Mexico.

      January 7, 2016 at 1:55 pm
  • Reply Kaella On The Run

    Ugh, I know this has been tough for you. I’m here WHENEVER you want to vent, okay? Please try and enjoy Mexico as much as possible though! Have a few drinks for me while you’re there? πŸ˜‰

    Can you only defer once for Boston?

    When we were trying to get pregnant I put so much of my life on hold b/c I wanted it so bad. Then, it didn’t happen right away and I was mad at myself for missing out on things. I say do what feels right but live for today.

    Love you xx

    January 7, 2016 at 1:54 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      It is a tough balance. I think I am just going to keep things at 2-months-at-a-time timelines.

      January 7, 2016 at 1:56 pm
  • Reply Morgan @ Morgan Manages Mommyhood

    I love this. I love that you’re strong enough to admit that you don’t know what’s next, and that you’re being realistic rather than setting yourself up for disappointment or injury. I don’t think you’re throwing yourself a pity party – I think you’re being brave and honest and telling it like it is and really, isn’t that what the blog life is all about? (Also, I love that you called it a baby basket. I just can’t even.)

    January 7, 2016 at 1:57 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      We have to find the humor, or else we’d cry, wouldn’t we? Thank you, Morgan.

      January 7, 2016 at 2:11 pm
  • Reply Michelle

    Teal jacket=YES. Margaritas=YESPLEASEANDTHANKSONMAKEITONTHEROCKSWITHSALT.
    And the rest?
    Well, you know where I am at with my New Year goals. On any given day I go from so sad I can’t breathe, to so gracious for all the amazing people (YOU) that have genuinely reached out to me and offered support. So I say, lean on us, we’ll lean on you, and we will all be better for it in the end. <3 <3 <3

    January 7, 2016 at 2:12 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Always here. With margaritasontherockswithsalt

      January 8, 2016 at 11:23 am
  • Reply Kerri Mcgrail

    I love the teal jacket! I love pretty much any loud colored workout/fitness clothes-ha! I’m sure it can be frustrating when injuries don’t heal as fast as you want. Totally get not making goals right now- there’s no need to make goals just because a new year has started- you really can make them any time. I’m sure you’ll have some kicks goals when the time is right πŸ™‚

    January 7, 2016 at 2:25 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Exactly. Just gonna wait a little bit, for when the time is right!

      January 8, 2016 at 11:24 am
  • Reply Mar @ Mar on the Run

    Your goal is to not make a goal. See what I did there? I get it, I totally get it! I made a few “for blogging consumption” goals and obvi you are going to help me with my big fitness goal but really, I wanna have fun, and reclaim joy and work on my business (which have goals within itself). Good on you. I’m thinking all good thoughts for you and rooting for you and hope things get better in time!

    January 7, 2016 at 4:29 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thanks Mar, and I am SO excited about what is to come for us!

      January 8, 2016 at 11:25 am
  • Reply Lisa @ Running Out Of Wine

    This totally makes sense, and you shouldn’t be stressing yourself out about any tangible goals. I think your focus should just be on healing and staying positive, as tough as that may be. You have accomplished a ton in the past year or so and I think you should try to bask in those glories for as long as possible.

    January 7, 2016 at 5:22 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      You are right–I should marinate on those for a bit!

      January 8, 2016 at 11:29 am
  • Reply Julie

    Oh my goodness Zoe and you. I posted a similar picture today of me and Cocoa Bean!! I seriously was talking about this a few minutes ago. About living today and how so much anxiety is caused by either worrying about the past of the future instead of living today and I have wasted SO much time. Like, goals and resolutions or whatever you call them are good but it is ok to live today and let life happen. I mean, we do all we can do and pray about the rest and then LIVE!!

    January 7, 2016 at 6:41 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      And I think that I am right there. I am just seeing what comes my way!

      January 8, 2016 at 11:29 am
  • Reply Alaina @ thesimplepeach

    Let me just say that you are incredible! I say if you have the opportunity you take it. Also, you NEED that jacket! #idontdoquiet

    January 7, 2016 at 8:26 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      πŸ˜€ You are right. #idontdoquiet FOREVER

      January 8, 2016 at 11:28 am
  • Reply Kim Hatting

    I wish I could hug you in person (rather than “virtually” through the computer screen). It’s no secret (though some people try to conceal it) life sometimes sucks. We don’t have magic wands to make things happen the way we want them to be, but we get to make the best with what we’re given. And that’s what you’re doing. Hang in there, keep on healing, chin up! And, do take care πŸ˜‰ (BTW, I like my margaritas on the rocks, with minimal salt)

    January 7, 2016 at 8:33 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I will do just that. And thank you. One day, we will hug it out!

      January 8, 2016 at 11:28 am
  • Reply Sam @ PancakeWarriors

    My goal/resolution/life plan is to try to be a little bit better everyday. Some days that might just be holding my tongue instead of complaining, other days it might be pushing myself in fitness, or in my new coaching career. I’ve found that life can’t be planned, although that would be amazing. So this year I’m going to work to be the best I can, with a good attitude and lots of coffee πŸ™‚

    January 7, 2016 at 9:49 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Period. End of Story. Love it.

      January 8, 2016 at 11:27 am
  • Reply Sam @ See Sam Run

    I think it’s great that you’re going with the flow. Sometimes it’s the best way to go so you don’t get down on yourself. I hope that with all you’re going through you still enjoy your vacation!
    I say nay on teal jacket, but yet I still love it because I know it’s totally out of my reach πŸ˜›
    Magaritas on the rocks are normally my favorite, and without the fancy flavorings. I used to make my own simple syrup which made the best margs.

    January 7, 2016 at 10:02 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      But you still super fancy for making your simple syrup πŸ˜€

      January 8, 2016 at 11:27 am
  • Reply Cora

    I don’t think not making goals has to be pessimistic, nor does it mean “back tracking” or “not moving forward.” I feel like every year I say, “this is the year!” but then.. womp womp.. it never is (whatever that even means). You are in a shitty time of life right now with many cards dealt against you. It is not making life easy. So I would think just continuing to plow on ahead the best you can, showing life how fierce and determined you are and every day just choosing to not let it take you down, is what will make this year one of the most beneficiary/learning years you have… all without “goals.” I think you will kick ass and do things you can’t foresee right now.

    January 8, 2016 at 8:25 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I think we all need to just have some measure of faith that, as long as we stay true to ourselves and what is important to us, that it will work out. Or at the very least, it will lead us somewhere! Because that, that we will go on a journey, is inevitable.

      February 4, 2016 at 2:43 pm
  • Reply Jess @hellotofit

    Damn straight you have a magical body! And I appreciate that you will not make New Years resolutions. I’ve set an intention and a word for this month, but not the entire year. That’s too long!

    January 8, 2016 at 11:08 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I am of the same thinking as you–you just can’t plan for an entire year! I can barely plan for a month!

      January 8, 2016 at 11:21 am
  • Reply meredith @ Cookie ChRUNicles

    If it makes you feel any better, I never set goals, didn’t really know anyone who set goals and didn’t really see such an abundance of goals until I read blogs! Have a great weekend πŸ™‚

    January 8, 2016 at 3:25 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      It was something that we did, but it got to the point that it feels so forced. I think people like to check items off and feel accomplished, which I understand, but it is still overkill.

      January 8, 2016 at 3:46 pm
  • Reply Cora

    I don’t think not making goals has to be pessimistic, nor does it mean “back tracking” or “not moving forward.” I feel like every year I say, “this is the year!” but then.. womp womp… it never is (whatever that even means). You are in a time of life right now where not many cards are being dealt to you. It is not making life easy. So I would think just continuing to plow ahead the best you can, showing life how determined you are and every day just choosing to not let it take you down, is what will make this year one of the most beneficiary/learning years you have. All without “goals.” I think you will kick ass and do things you can’t foresee right now.

    January 8, 2016 at 5:39 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Sometimes, you have to discover that it is your year, without thinking it at first. You are right, we can’t see into the future–we need to let it unfurl a bit at times to know which strings to pluck!

      January 10, 2016 at 8:00 am
  • Reply Erica @ Erica Finds

    If it makes you feel better, I never meal plan, set goals or make resolutions. I mean, I do eat meals, have loose targets and try to improve myself each year, but I have found in my years that hard and fast planning and goal setting doesn’t work for me. (Maybe this is a cop-out?! But… I have figured out what works for me. I am resolving to take the high road and have more fun this year.

    January 10, 2016 at 2:49 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I think that you also have such a rolly polly all over the place life that you really do have to go with the flow. Otherwise, I know you–you would go crazy.

      January 11, 2016 at 7:28 am

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