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Find Happiness Where You Are

Today, I challenge you to take a moment and find happiness where you are. 

Find Happiness Where You Are Through Stillness

I challenge all of YOU to find happiness where you are by taking a moment of stillness everyday where you use stillness, even just a moment, to take a deep breath and feel happiness and peace. @suzlyfe http://suzlyfe.com/finding-happiness-stillness-infertility

This weekend, Alex and I finally had a moment to ourselves after a week where we saw each other for quality time only twice. Sure, I crabbed at him and got bitchy itchy hormonal at him the days before (and yes, a little short with him later that day) but in that moment, I took a deep breath, melted into his arms (with Ridley amongst us) and just focused on the stillness.

Over the past 6 months, we have had our sights set so much on the future and what it might or might not look like. We have focused on what will happen in number of days. What won’t be happening in 9 months. What can’t happen for the next amount of time, how much money we will have if/when/should/could. 

I’ve found myself worrying and anxious about things that I cannot possibly control and losing the forest for the trees. 

Yes, I’ve found myself being pissy with Alex for not getting us a table so I could get my margarita. 

But I know that when I find the stillness, live in that moment, and look at how blessed and fortunate that I am, that I find my happiness again. 

I find that in my runs on the Lakefront Path.

I find it with my mom on our porch or at a restaurant, just shooting the breeze or talking deeply.

I find it on the couch with Alex, with Ridley nestled with us, thinking about how lucky I am. 

I have a life that isn’t perfect, but it is pretty darn great. My brain may try to convince me otherwise (and it often does), but I know this to be true:

We find happiness when we find a stillness of mind. 

Life is never going to stop moving. Ever. Even when it feels like you are stuck, life is going to keep moving forward. The challenge isn’t necessarily to find the next step, but to realize that you are on a step, period, and to be thankful for the footing that allows you to take the succeeding steps.

With so much uncertainty in my life, with the ever constant focus on the future, I am finding happiness by ignoring all of that and instead focusing on what is certain in my life and the stillness of a moment. 

We are complicated people. Sometimes, we need to answer, “Terrible, thanks for asking.”

But then we take a deep breath, and we remember what a gift it is to breathe. 

It is my dream to become a mother and to have my own children grow inside me. But my time on the couch with Alex and Ridley this weekend, that 5 minutes of stillness, it brought me back to my body and the present, not stuck in my mind in the future. It reminded me to be happy and grateful for what I have, not always thinking about what I want.

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We all need dreams, goals, aims. But we also need to remember that where we are? Is pretty darn great. Even when we struggle, we need to be thankful for the strength and the support.

I challenge all of YOU to find happiness where you are by taking a moment of stillness everyday where you use stillness, even just a moment, to take a deep breath and feel happiness and peace. 

How or where do you find stillness, happiness, peace?

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59 Comments

  • Reply Christina @ montessoriishmom.com

    I am really trying to work on being present lately – this is a great reminder, thank you!

    May 9, 2017 at 6:40 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Oh, you are welcome!

      May 19, 2017 at 1:12 pm
  • Reply Kelli @ Hungry Hobby

    I found it yesterday walking Nala. I usually listen to a podcast but it was a breezy 72 out so I kept the noise off and found some moving meditation it was amazing!

    May 9, 2017 at 6:54 am
  • Reply Erin

    Such a beautiful reminder, thank you!

    May 9, 2017 at 7:08 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I hope it helped you. xoxo

      May 19, 2017 at 1:11 pm
  • Reply Heather @ Polyglot Jot

    I’m so working on this myself too–its really hard! The unknowns and those what-if’s are enough to drive me insane!

    May 9, 2017 at 7:35 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Especially when you have anxiety and are pregnant!

      May 19, 2017 at 1:10 pm
  • Reply Jamie

    I have managed to find stillness this week, miraculously, at the beach with the kids. I was in a beach chair with Jonas wrapped in a towel in my arms yesterday and I could see the waves and feel his little body warm with the sun. It literally slowed my heart, my breathing, my mind. I am so grateful for that.

    May 9, 2017 at 8:11 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Oh my fabulous friend. I am so glad that you had that moment of peace and stillness. You so deserve it. LOVE YOU

      May 19, 2017 at 1:10 pm
  • Reply Emily

    I’m so thankful for stillness, for quiet, for a quiet peaceful mind; I have that a lot when I run or when I just meditate on God’s promises; they quiet my anxiety prone heart.

    Lately I’ve been happy just taking dogs on walks, reading, scrolling through Instagram, just being quiet and doing nothing, and running.

    May 9, 2017 at 8:29 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I imagine that you can find the moment more than most–you are so thankful for life!

      May 19, 2017 at 1:06 pm
  • Reply lindsay Cotter

    such a good reminder friend! We get so caught up in the future desires/wants/needs that we forget the blessings right in our face. I love that you shoot the breeze with mom. That’s happiness!

    May 9, 2017 at 8:40 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Yes, you must count those blessings, but also really realize what they are!

      May 19, 2017 at 1:05 pm
  • Reply Suzy

    Susie, I needed to read this today SO DAMN BAD. I’m all choked up. Thank you, my friend. You’re a treasure to me. xo

    May 9, 2017 at 8:48 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      And you are such a treasure to me.

      May 19, 2017 at 1:04 pm
  • Reply Laura

    I heart you. I’m glad you got a moment of peace. Vegas keeps me sane… even when I’m being a raging hormonal bitch (which I was last week).

    May 9, 2017 at 8:53 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      But with great reason! Love you!

      May 19, 2017 at 1:04 pm
  • Reply Cora

    It’s really hard. Especially if we are any sort of personality that is so goal and success oriented. I find it so hard to be happy with the present moment if I know my current life is not what I ultimately want for myself. That is a part of my mind set I am just going to have to continue to work and fight against. Lately, I’ve been feeling a little raw/sad/unsure, yet I’ve been finding myself craving moments of silence and stillness – just to sit at a window or color in my journal without any extra stimulation – rather than anything high speed and task oriented. A part of my brain wants me to do those things in order to “get successful,” but I only want the stillness right now. That’s where the important things happen. Thank you for this <3

    May 9, 2017 at 8:57 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Then right now, allow yourself to find the stillness (your coffee cup!)–everything else will fall into place.

      May 19, 2017 at 1:03 pm
  • Reply Suzlyfe's mommy, Clare

    As I get older and older, I see my world literally spinning faster and faster, slipping through my fingers like the sand in Dorothy’s hourglass.
    I choose to enjoy each moment right now, the future will be the present so fast, too fast.
    I find joy in small things everyday– calling a puppy by his name and having him wag his tail!
    It’s the everyday small joys that make me smile inside and out.

    May 9, 2017 at 9:13 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      And our sunrises πŸ˜€

      May 19, 2017 at 1:03 pm
      • Reply Suzlyfe's mommy, Clare

        yes, and our sunrises!

        May 19, 2017 at 1:47 pm
  • Reply Julie @ Running in a Skirt

    Such a good reminder, Susie. It’s so easy to get caught up in the what if… and forget that life really is good. It’s hard to find those moments though sometimes!

    May 9, 2017 at 10:03 am
  • Reply Michelle

    Did you write this for me? “Life is never going to stop moving. Ever. Even when it feels like you are stuck, life is going to keep moving forward. The challenge isn’t necessarily to find the next step, but to realize that you are on a step, period, and to be thankful for the footing that allows you to take the succeeding steps.”

    Because last night, after a very rough day at work I came home to cook my family dinner. You know, the one thing I like to think I am good at. All of my meals over the last few weeks have fallen short, so when I under cooked the steak for our tacos I said, “I quit. I am on a cooking hiatus.” And I knew my family knew I meant it, but that this also meant I was hurting. Work has been a rut, running has been a rut, and now my cooking too? I went upstairs to take a shower and just cry, and my oldest daughter came up to comfort me. She saw it in my eyes, and hugged me tight. I begged her, “Please don’t settle. Write your books. Chase your dreams. Don’t do what Mommy did. I was ok with this job when I was in the Air Force, but it’s not ok anymore and I’m stuck.” Instead of me being strong, I melted in to her embrace and just cried. But I also celebrated that moment, because she and I butt heads so often so I will hang on to THAT part of my really crappy rut I’ve been in lately. That was MY moment of peace. Gosh, I need to copy and paste this for my own blog post, LOL! I love you.

    May 9, 2017 at 10:49 am
    • Reply Suzlyfe's mommy, Clare

      Michele,
      I am SO glad that you had that moment with your daughter. Your life may be in a rut, but you–you are a great mom! Having a child will look beyond her own world and see into yours (even when you try hard to hide your concerns from her) and offer a hug like that–well, you’ve done a great job at the very hardest job in this world–raising your kids.
      What a wonderful step out of the ruts you are currently in!

      May 10, 2017 at 11:17 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      LOVE you.
      Thankyou for sharing this. May you continue to find the stillness you need. I know that you have been through the ringer.

      May 19, 2017 at 1:02 pm
  • Reply Laura @ This Runner's Recipes

    Yes, so true. The stillness is invaluable for happiness…I need a few moments of stillness each day. Running has always been a sort of mental stillness for me and husband/puppy snuggles are the best type of stillness.

    May 9, 2017 at 10:50 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Running definitely is my moment of stillness usually, but this was even more precious and isolated.

      May 19, 2017 at 1:01 pm
  • Reply Megan @ Skinny Fitalicious

    Such an important message. This is why I love my long power walks so I can just be and not think about anything too far into the future. I feel like this so eloquently written it could be a poem!

    May 9, 2017 at 12:17 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I listen to podcasts when I am working out and lose those moment of complete stillness–too many distractions. This was stripped raw and bare.

      May 19, 2017 at 1:00 pm
  • Reply Tiffany @ The Chi-Athlete

    Lovely post and a wonderful message, friend. Obviously, you can only find comfort, yourself. Your reflection is worth every bit of realization that we find our stillness — our happiness — our calmness — within ourselves at just the right time.

    May 9, 2017 at 3:53 pm
  • Reply angela @ happy fit mama

    I feel like I’m always wishing my life away even when I’m looking forward to the weekend. It’s hard to live in the moment but when you are in that moment, it’s pretty freakin’ everything. I always think of the Incubus song that has the lyric – “And in this moment I am happy. Happy.” Taking more of the moments with me.

    May 9, 2017 at 5:35 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Those moments that we actually pay attention to make the biggest impact on our lives, I have found.

      May 19, 2017 at 12:59 pm
  • Reply Lisa @ Mile by Mile

    Great reminder! Its so important to enjoy the moment we are in. I definitely have a tendency to plan ahead and worry about the future.

    May 9, 2017 at 6:06 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      We are in a world that tries so hard to force that upon us. It is hard to resist!

      May 19, 2017 at 12:58 pm
  • Reply Ashley @ A Lady Goes West

    Susie! So hard! So hard! I absolutely can relate to this post. It’s so hard not to get frustrated with life and where you are. I just finished up a post about something so similar for tomorrow. Love you, friend!! πŸ™‚

    May 9, 2017 at 6:36 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      xoxox Love you too!

      May 19, 2017 at 12:57 pm
  • Reply Kat

    It is so easy to get lost in the future – the what ifs, the mights, the could be’s. I find myself there often – and then instantly regret what time I’ve lost here in the now. While I don’t think there is anything wrong with looking to the possibilities the future might bring, I think we all too often get far too caught up in it all and forget to just LIVE.

    May 9, 2017 at 6:58 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      So true. That is why this moment was so incredible for me. My brain just went quiet. FOR ONCE

      May 19, 2017 at 12:57 pm
  • Reply Farrah

    Sending you a lot of love and hugs! <3 This is a wonderful post and such a great reminder! I'm really glad you got a moment of peace! I'm working on doing that too.

    May 9, 2017 at 7:42 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Hugs lady! And god luck getting through everying that is involved in residency!

      May 19, 2017 at 12:56 pm
  • Reply Debbie @ Deb Runs

    I am in such a different place in life than you – probably much more similar to your mom than you. I find stillness and peace in the afternoons between clients when I sneak in a yoga routine (sometimes outside) or go for a walk on the beautiful trails in our neighborhood. Wishing you much stillness, happiness, and peace.

    May 9, 2017 at 9:33 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Yet even if we are in different places, we all need the same things. I hope you find your stillness as well!

      May 19, 2017 at 12:56 pm
  • Reply Deborah @ Confessions of a mother runner

    It’s not always easy to calm your mind I have been trying to work on this myself

    May 9, 2017 at 9:53 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I just had this gift of a moment. And it has transformed me.

      May 19, 2017 at 12:55 pm
  • Reply Hannah

    I am a total over-planner, over-analyzer, over-whatever-elser. I’ve learned to find stillness, but it still takes a long time. That’s why I need many miles of trails πŸ™‚

    May 9, 2017 at 11:59 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I would love to borrow a few of those miles!

      May 19, 2017 at 12:55 pm
  • Reply Patrick@looneyforfood.com

    Great and important message! I find my calm , alone on the golf corse!

    May 10, 2017 at 7:04 am
  • Reply Kimberly

    I love this post! I find I can quiet my mind when I walk on the trails by my house. I haven’t done that in awhile, I need to remedy that!!

    May 10, 2017 at 7:31 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      You definitely should, Kimberly. It is so restorative and therapeutic.

      May 19, 2017 at 12:50 pm
  • Reply Kristy from Southern In Law

    It really is hard to stay in the moment when you’re going through something that affects your future. I totally get it because I’m in the same shoes!

    I’ve definitely learnt I need to let the future worry about itself and enjoy what I have now because otherwise, I am an awful person to be around (well.. to Jesse and my family… everyone else still gets fake Kristy sunshine :P)

    May 11, 2017 at 12:04 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I don’t even give off fake Suz sunsine. Unless you are paying me, of course… but really, I find it extremely hard.

      May 19, 2017 at 12:42 pm
  • Reply Kayla

    This post is amazing! I struggle a lot with feeling anxious about the future and the unknown since I am such a planner. Lately I have really been trying to focus on the positive and realize how extremely blessed I am in this moment, but sometimes it can be hard and I get all caught up in the stress instead of just living. I find stillness in running, in relaxing with my husband, in hugging my nephews, and in praying. This post is such a great reminder, thank you! xoxo

    May 11, 2017 at 10:02 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thank you for reading and commenting, Kayla! I find stillness in many of the same places!

      May 17, 2017 at 9:02 am
  • Reply Bethany

    This is beautiful! I’ve been there. It took me praying on my knees crying for hours to be able to start feeling it again. Then I did throughout the day in the little things. The outdoors are always a good place for peace in my life. Thoughts with you my friend =)

    May 12, 2017 at 1:20 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thoughts with you as well, Bethany.

      May 16, 2017 at 3:04 pm

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