Today, I challenge you to take a moment and find happiness where you are.
Find Happiness Where You Are Through Stillness
This weekend, Alex and I finally had a moment to ourselves after a week where we saw each other for quality time only twice. Sure, I crabbed at him and got bitchy itchy hormonal at him the days before (and yes, a little short with him later that day) but in that moment, I took a deep breath, melted into his arms (with Ridley amongst us) and just focused on the stillness.
Over the past 6 months, we have had our sights set so much on the future and what it might or might not look like. We have focused on what will happen in x number of days. What won’t be happening in 9 months. What can’t happen for the next amount of time, how much money we will have if/when/should/could.
I’ve found myself worrying and anxious about things that I cannot possibly control and losing the forest for the trees.
Yes, I’ve found myself being pissy with Alex for not getting us a table so I could get my margarita.
But I know that when I find the stillness, live in that moment, and look at how blessed and fortunate that I am, that I find my happiness again.
I find that in my runs on the Lakefront Path.
I find it with my mom on our porch or at a restaurant, just shooting the breeze or talking deeply.
I find it on the couch with Alex, with Ridley nestled with us, thinking about how lucky I am.
I have a life that isn’t perfect, but it is pretty darn great. My brain may try to convince me otherwise (and it often does), but I know this to be true:
We find happiness when we find a stillness of mind.
Life is never going to stop moving. Ever. Even when it feels like you are stuck, life is going to keep moving forward. The challenge isn’t necessarily to find the next step, but to realize that you are on a step, period, and to be thankful for the footing that allows you to take the succeeding steps.
With so much uncertainty in my life, with the ever constant focus on the future, I am finding happiness by ignoring all of that and instead focusing on what is certain in my life and the stillness of a moment.
We are complicated people. Sometimes, we need to answer, “Terrible, thanks for asking.”
But then we take a deep breath, and we remember what a gift it is to breathe.
It is my dream to become a mother and to have my own children grow inside me. But my time on the couch with Alex and Ridley this weekend, that 5 minutes of stillness, it brought me back to my body and the present, not stuck in my mind in the future. It reminded me to be happy and grateful for what I have, not always thinking about what I want.We find happiness when we find a stillness #mentalhealth #infertility #happiness #sweatpink Click To Tweet
We all need dreams, goals, aims. But we also need to remember that where we are? Is pretty darn great. Even when we struggle, we need to be thankful for the strength and the support.
I challenge all of YOU to find happiness where you are by taking a moment of stillness everyday where you use stillness, even just a moment, to take a deep breath and feel happiness and peace.
How or where do you find stillness, happiness, peace?
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