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Fight Your Fight — Thinking Out Loud

Before I go any further, I would like to say please excuse any typos. Zoe is currently “helping” aka flipping over and over again and hitting random buttons as she does so in demand for my attentions. #catmomlife

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thank you to Amanda for hosting Thinking Out loud as always!

I should be punching the air (and hopefully not others) right now at #sweatworking. Instead, I am currently watching Southern Charm on On Demand and fighting my cat for use of my hands. Why? not by choice, but by potential injury. For lack of going into specifics, I am going to be resting for a bit so that a) I can walk without pain and b) I can run Ragnar in a month and a half.

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I went to FlyWheel this morning in hopes that I would be able to do spin without pain (negative–hurts when I pop out of the saddle). I truly do enjoy FlyWheel–absolutely the workout, but I feel that I have taken something, even just a blurb, out the door with me each time. Sometimes, it hasn’t even been something that the instructor has said, but a moment in a song and the way they set it up. This time?

Fight Your Fight.

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Sure, we’ve all heard this before. But every now and then, we finally listen and hear it anew when it is the right time. “Fight your fight” hit me this time largely because of you all lovely creatures: the response to my Living with Crohn’s Disease (one, two, three) posts has been incredible–not overwhelming in number like some posts that I have had before, but I can feel how personal the topics are for each of you. Something that consistently appears is a beautifully flattering comment of admiration for my strength and positivity and that I am a “fighter.” And each time, it means so much to me, but I also want to shake each of you and scream YOU ARE A FIGHTER, TOO!!

The only difference between us? I am fighting my fight. My fight is, in that instance, living with Crohn’s Disease. But sometimes, Crohn’s isn’t the fight, my cat is the fight is staying home and watching TV when I could go out and be social, or the fight is the cold weather. The fight is reverting to the same thing every day and staying in my comfort zone rather than trying something new. The fight is having horrific night sweats and then trying to carry on with my life. The fight is burning legs and not wanting to push. For Alex last night, the fight was trying to save a life. (Unfortunately, that fight was lost).

So many of you are fighting incredible fights: you are mothers or fathers, athletes, working full-time, part-time jobs, volunteering, growing humans inside of you, trying to keep long distance relationships alive, in school, just trying to figure out who you are and where you belong in this world….

You, too, are fighting. Fight YOUR fight. Support the fighter in others, but let them fight their fight. You can’t fight it for them. But you can be there for them as they fight, you can lift them up when they are struggling, light the fire under their asses when they are lagging, quiet them when they are raging. 

You have to let them fight. Otherwise, they will never learn from the experience, and they will never learn to earn that experience. 

Some people have the fortune of having life handed to them on a silver platter. I know a few people like that. Sure, I’ve been jealous or resented them for that fact. But you know what? My fight has given me a Boston Qualifying marathon time, a cat that is now quietly laying next to me, a husband who is now a chief resident and is actively making the world a better place, for whom loving me isn’t a “chore” but is rather a privilege.

 worth it to the right person

I saw this on Instagram yesterday, and reposted it–it, too, struck me as we’ve been discussing confessions and our “crazies.”

If anything, I hope that you take from my posts not a feeling of pity those with chronic illnesses, or that our “plight” is worse than yours–rather, it is different. We all have problems. We all have fights. Have perspective and be able to prioritize in the moment, but don’t belittle yourself.

Fight. Your. Fight. And fight it with pride. From the everyday struggles to eat healthy or not pick at your fingernails to the larger struggles to get pregnant or find a job. 

What is a fight on your horizon? Do you tend to belittle your own issues in the face of other’s problems?

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86 Comments

  • Reply Annmarie

    I absolutely LOVE that quote, it is so true! I hope you feel better soon, sending you healing vibes! <3
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    April 23, 2015 at 6:02 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thanks boo–I need some healing vibes!

      April 24, 2015 at 1:55 pm
  • Reply Mar @ Mar on the Run

    Gosh. Your posts always hit me square in the sternum. Can’t say what I’m fighting right now but this was timely. Love you girl.
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    April 23, 2015 at 6:39 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Well, just know that I am always, always, here for you.

      April 24, 2015 at 1:56 pm
  • Reply Wendy@Taking the Long Way Home

    I’ve been thinking about this concept of “fight” a lot lately. I’ve written about my struggles with my 17 year old a lot, trying not to go into details, but I feel like every day is a fight with him. Even the most trivial things provoke a fight. Someone gave me a book to read called The Anatomy of Peace and I have been looking at it more and more lately. Sigh.
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    April 23, 2015 at 6:41 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      The Anatomy of Peace. i need to look at that. As I’ve said, I think that mother’s have it so hard–there are so many fights. But I think that, though you are struggling with your son, that is the most important fight, and though it might take time, you will win it, ultimately.

      April 24, 2015 at 1:57 pm
  • Reply Beth @ Running with the Sunrise

    Another beautiful post, Suz. Love. it. Love you. You’re absolutely right, we all have our own fights. I hate it when people say things like, “Oh, you’re depressed, well, kids are starving in Africa, so you should’t be depressed.” But it all comes down to this–fighting your own fight and realizing that we all have our own fights and $#&@ to deal with and maybe we should all just honor that.
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    April 23, 2015 at 6:45 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      You know the saying that everybody poops? Well guess what, shit is still shit. Whether it be first world or third world.

      April 24, 2015 at 1:58 pm
  • Reply Dannii @ Hungry Healthy Happy

    I love that quote! Everyone has their one fight going on and sometimes people don’t even realise.
    I feel your pain about the cat on the keyboard. So cute, but so annoying.
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    April 23, 2015 at 7:15 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Like balancing writing a blog and a book???

      April 24, 2015 at 1:58 pm
  • Reply Linda @ Veganosity

    Beautifully stated Susie! Alex is working on her Master’s/PhD in psychology and she always says that you can never compare people’s struggles. Regardless of how trivial they may seem to you, they are important to that person.

    I’m obsessed with Southern Charm! Shep could be my son’s older brother. They look alike, and at times (sadly?) act alike. Mostly it’s the charming and laid back attitude that I see in the two of them, but sometimes it’s the, “I don’t do anything productive before noon” thing. 🙂 And Thomas and Katherine, please! He’s my age and she’s Alex’s age. Yuck, just yuck! Cameron is my favorite, she’s the cutest thing ever. Okay, enough, I’m being borderline weird.

    And I totally understand the typos (although I didn’t see any), because my newest puppy loves to jump all over the keyboard when I’m working.

    April 23, 2015 at 7:22 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      hahahaha oh, dear, a Shep in your family? Goodness. And YES Cameran is my favorite. I can’t do TRav and Katherine, or Whitney and that despicable mother of his.
      And I’m glad to hear that I’m backed up by a psychologist (to be)!!!

      April 24, 2015 at 1:55 pm
  • Reply carissajade

    I love this so much! I wish you were here so I could give you a high five and a hug and a kiss on the face. I love reading your blogs you always make me so happy.
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    April 23, 2015 at 7:26 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I would love a high five and hug and a kiss on the face. I love making people happy 😀

      April 24, 2015 at 1:54 pm
  • Reply Beverley Cheng

    Super inspiring! I definitely needed this pick me up, because it has been a stressful week – but everyone is going through something somewhere. Just gotta keep your head up 🙂

    I also just adopted a cat last weekend, and he LOVES to sit everywhere. yesterday he came and literally plopped down RIGHT on my textbook as I was studying. He’s too adorable to push off though haha
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    April 23, 2015 at 7:32 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Well, especially because you just got your behbeh. And you know I don’t push Zoe off…
      I’m so glad to hear that this resonated with you at the right time.

      April 24, 2015 at 1:53 pm
  • Reply Rae

    Amen! It’s easy to belittle our own strengths and troubles in the face of greater troubles, but we all have our own paths to walk, and no one can say that your own issues are worse or harder than anyone else’s; like you said, they’re just different.
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    April 23, 2015 at 7:33 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Alex always belittles his pain in comparison to mine, and it drives me nuts–pain is pain, problems are problems. Period.

      April 24, 2015 at 1:52 pm
      • Reply Suzlyfe's mommy, Clare

        I think that the pain for Alex of losing a patient that he has fought so hard for– must be a terrible pain. Its a pain of the heart, not of the body.

        April 24, 2015 at 5:58 pm
        • Reply Suzlyfe's mommy, Clare

          I now have a face to go with my name!!

          April 25, 2015 at 10:20 am
  • Reply Bri

    I love that quote you posted. It so resonates with me and my life right now. Sometimes when I complain about something I compare my issue to those who are so worse off than I am, and while it helps put things in perspective it also kind of dismisses what I may be going through. Thanks for the reminder that it does matter too xo
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    April 23, 2015 at 7:52 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      It is hard to figure out eh difference between perspective and getting lost in that perspective. It’s like too much cake or too much healthy food–you know, too much of a good thing.

      April 24, 2015 at 1:52 pm
  • Reply Erin@BeetsPerMinute

    Beautiful post, Susie! I really needed to read something like this today. I’ve been feeling so defeated about looking for a job and trying to grow my blog. Last night I cried about it to my husband and felt like such a baby, because I don’t feel like those are things worthy of feeling defeat or tears from, but they must be if it’s how I feel. I am lucky that I have such a great support system, but you’re right, we’re all fighters! <3
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    April 23, 2015 at 8:20 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      They are absolutely valid and real–these are things that are meaningful and real to you, therefore they are absolutely fights. So you keep fighting, and you find out how to throw the next punch!

      April 24, 2015 at 1:50 pm
  • Reply Sarah

    Love that quote. Great post. Makes me want to get out the door and RUN! But alas, I fell in the shower last night and am a bit bruised. Think I will enjoy the fight from my couch for the morning 😉 Great post girl!
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    April 23, 2015 at 8:22 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Sorry to hear about your bruise! Want to get together and just cuddle??

      April 24, 2015 at 1:49 pm
  • Reply Jen @ Pretty Little Grub

    Is Southern Charm good? The previews looked intense!
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    April 23, 2015 at 8:26 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Southern Charm is particularly good because the characters hit pretty close to home for me, lol.

      April 24, 2015 at 1:46 pm
  • Reply Suzy

    I needed to read this today. I feel like I fight so hard for everyone around me and get zero recognition. But I need to just fight MY fight. If I keep fighting everyone else’s fight then they’ll never learn how to fight their own. Life fights translate over to running fights, and I can’t wait to race a marathon. I need to get all of this frustration OUT.
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    April 23, 2015 at 8:31 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      GET IT GIRL. It can be really difficult for moms to do so–my mom is a great example. Her fights tended to get lost in mine, and it is one of the things that still guts me.

      April 24, 2015 at 1:48 pm
  • Reply Amanda @ .running with spoons.

    Love this. And I love my fights, mostly because they make me a better version of myself. There are times where I look back at my struggles, and while I can’t necessarily say that I’d like to relive them, I definitely wouldn’t go back and change them because I really do believe that they’ve made me a better person. And it drives me crazy when I hear people belittling their struggles OR successes. We’re each on our own journey and have our own things to deal with… No better, no worse, just different.
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    April 23, 2015 at 8:32 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Exactly. You can be proud of what you’ve accomplished (vs boastful, of course), and you can acknowledge that you have battles (in fact you have to do so!). But you never need to make anyone else feel that they are less than yourself or that you are less than they are.

      April 24, 2015 at 1:48 pm
  • Reply Stacie @ SimplySouthernStacie

    I am guilty of sometimes falling into the “woe is me!” category, but it is so true that we do all have our own unique battles to fight. Who is to say which is worse. They are all different and all demand a fight.
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    April 23, 2015 at 8:37 am
  • Reply Jill

    Right on Suze! Oh there are def times I’ve thrown myself a pity party and thought ‘why haven’t I figured it all out yet?’ Or perhaps in more desperate times ‘why can’t I win the lottery?’ But there is meaning to be found in our struggles and we all have a purpose on this Earth. I’m sorry you’re dealing with a bit of an injury. I hope you are on the mend soon. Keep fighting the good fight!
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    April 23, 2015 at 9:07 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I definitely agree that there is always meaning to be gleaned from our struggles. I think that is why I don’t begrudge my illness, overall. I just understand that it is my fight.

      April 24, 2015 at 1:45 pm
  • Reply Sara @ Lake Shore Runner

    Im so sorry Suz – get better!! Obvi. Cant wait to connect in the next coming weeks. We need a date ASAP. Also, you have to be better for Ragnar.
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    April 23, 2015 at 9:14 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I know. Thus the moratorium on running. MUST GET BETTER

      April 24, 2015 at 1:43 pm
  • Reply Suzlyfe's mommy, Clare

    Fight your fight…….
    I am your mother and your fights are still my fights. I may have to let you fight them, but Mama Lion does not like to stand by and watch her cubs hurt–even if they are now taller than she is.
    love you,
    Mommy

    April 23, 2015 at 9:15 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      This is true, but the problem is that sometimes you forget that you, too, have fights yourself that are worth fighting!

      April 24, 2015 at 1:40 pm
  • Reply Ashley @ A Lady Goes West

    Oh Susie! Love this! We’re all fighting for something every single day. And it’s not easy for anyone to be the best they can. You keep trucking, girl! And I hope your injury heals up soon!
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    April 23, 2015 at 9:21 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thank you! The Best we can can vary, too, but as long as we are putting forward the effort, that is most important.

      April 24, 2015 at 1:42 pm
  • Reply Gretchen | Gretchruns

    Amazing post, Susie! I love how you said that we often look down on our own struggles because other people have bigger ones. It’s so easy to compare yourself to others and think that your life is SO easy because you don’t have cancer, or a missing limb, or other terrible problems. I still do have to fight my own fight like you said! This was such a great post and meant a lot to me!
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    April 23, 2015 at 10:11 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      So glad to hear that Gretchen! Ultimately, we have to understand that there are unending number of problems in the world–it is our reactions that shape ourselves and the worlds around us!

      April 24, 2015 at 1:41 pm
  • Reply Lisa @ RunWiki

    Oh this is good. I tend to face my problems head on, but there have been times when things were so tough that I used the flight approach. The older I get the more I realize that the flight approach has the tendency to backfire. Sometimes when you flight (not in every case, but sometimes), you carry that baggage with you and eventually you have the weight of the world on your shoulders. I found it best to face your problems head on, really feel it and that allows me to move forward in a much more positive fashion. Am I even making sense? I need more coffee, but I think you get my drift. I’m with you, fight your fight!
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    April 23, 2015 at 10:11 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Haha, I feel you! And I totally agree–you need to feel for yourself what you are going through, otherwise you will, to an extent, always be running away from them.

      April 24, 2015 at 1:39 pm
  • Reply Brianna @ I run He tris

    Such a great post! I always belittle my ‘problems’ because I know so many people that are in worse situations than myself. See! I even did it there because what I consider a problem, some people might feel blessed to be in that situation. I hope your leg starts feeling better soon so you will be ready for Ragnar!!
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    April 23, 2015 at 10:44 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thanks love. And you definitely did catch yourself, ahaha. Feeling blessed is never a bad thing, but you should belittle yourself for feeling so!

      April 24, 2015 at 1:38 pm
  • Reply Sarah @pickyrunner

    Yes yes yes. I think it’s easy to forget we’re all fighting something. It’s not just an illness, or a person, or an internal battle. We’re all different and we all have something going on in our lives. LOVE this post. And you, obviously.
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    April 23, 2015 at 11:13 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I LOVE YOUR FACE. And yes, we all do have our own fights, and they all give us strength, if we know how to approach them.

      April 24, 2015 at 1:36 pm
  • Reply Ange @ Cowgirl Runs

    Looooooove this. And it’s so right. My problems aren’t any less, or more, than anyone elses. No one needs to apologize for having a problem OR for being happy, none of that takes away from anyone else.

    I’ve also been subjected to Merlin “adding” to my posts because he’s peeved I’m not giving him enough attention.
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    April 23, 2015 at 11:17 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      But Merlin seems like such a gentleman! I agree–we don’t have to fight for being happy or sad, we just need to figure out where to go from there.

      April 24, 2015 at 1:35 pm
  • Reply Jess @hellotofit

    Oh this is some real talk, and I LOVE it. Great message, Suz. So many hugs for everyone fighting their fight.
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    April 23, 2015 at 12:08 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Damn straight real talk. Hugs back!

      April 24, 2015 at 1:34 pm
  • Reply Anna @ Piper's Run

    It’s so true, everyone is fighting their own fight and mostly we don’t know about it. For me, one of my fights is the single parent thing (when my husband is away for 5 days home for 3)…it’s so hard to get it all done on your own. I’m also fighting the fight with my hamstring…but you know all about that one. It’s so frustrating and disappointing but I just have to keep moving on and seeking help as needed.
    We all (hopefully) get there in the end.
    Happy almost weekend!
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    April 23, 2015 at 12:16 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I know how frustrated you must be with your hamstring. And to try to deal with single parenthood during the week while being frustrated as well as not having your usual release… just so frustrating. You know I’m thinking about you <3

      April 24, 2015 at 1:34 pm
  • Reply Kate @ Baking in Yoga Pants

    Amen sister. Our lives and our struggles are unique, but the commonalities are the emotions that we experience – the fear, and loss, and sadness, as well as the joy, and love, and happiness. I love the quote “be kind for everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.” And one of my favorite authors in her own geniusness added the line…”including you.” Beautiful post.
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    April 23, 2015 at 12:39 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I love that “including you” at the end. Perfect.

      April 24, 2015 at 1:32 pm
  • Reply Maddie @ Dixie Runs

    I’m one of those people that would much rather focus on solving everyone else’s problems instead of worrying about my own. I am always the listener and the secret keeper among my friends… the person who won’t judge and will always answer the phone when it rings. The only issue is that I don’t always let others in on what is going on in my own life. We do all have to fight our own fight, but it’s amazing how a little support can go a long way! Love this post.
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    April 23, 2015 at 12:57 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I’m glad it resonated with you Maddie! There is a balance that you have to find–you can’t always concentrate on your problems, or always on others’.

      April 24, 2015 at 1:30 pm
  • Reply Erin @ Erin's Inside Job

    Yeah girl, get it. There have been so many TOL posts today. Shit is getting real. I know how tough it is to do the right thing when you are injured but I’m proud that you were able to listen to your body.
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    April 23, 2015 at 1:04 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Thanks love. And yeah, it would have been a BADDDD idea.

      April 24, 2015 at 1:26 pm
  • Reply Laura @ This Runner's Recipes

    Yes, yes, yes to this! It is so true and relevant to everyone no matter what they’re fighting. The best lesson I learned from a college room was that no one’s life is perfect, even if it looks that way – everyone has their fight, and saying someone’s life is perfect is not helping yourself or them.
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    April 23, 2015 at 2:33 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Gah preach to that. I’ve found that often those with the most “perfect” lives are often those with the most to lose–and they are either actively losing it or in fear of it.

      April 24, 2015 at 1:29 pm
  • Reply Farrah

    hahaha, my cat likes to lie across my arms while I’m typing! (It’s not like we need them or anything! :O )

    I definitely have a tendency to belittle any and all issues I have in the face of others’ problems, and it couldn’t have come at a more perfect time, so I thank you immensely for this post! <3 It's so true, and is definitely something I've had to realize over the years–there are some people I just really can't help because they don't want to help themselves.

    I love that quote too! :] Hope you recover soon! <3
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    April 23, 2015 at 3:01 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Always here for you, my dear. It can be hard, as well, being in medicine–you see people with such difficult issues, and it can cause you to lose perspective, even as you think that you are gaining it.

      April 24, 2015 at 1:28 pm
  • Reply Lauren @ The Bikini Experiment

    Great post! Everyone really does have their own battles. It is always easy to forget that. Good luck and keep on fighting the good fight!
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    April 23, 2015 at 3:54 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Sometimes we write off other’s, sometimes we write off ourselves. Either way, we are being unfair.

      April 24, 2015 at 1:25 pm
  • Reply Alicia

    I love this post! While I have grown so much in the last year I am still trying to figure out what I really want to do with my life. Developing my blog is definitely on the list for summer.
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    April 23, 2015 at 4:11 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I can’t wait to see how you do this!

      April 24, 2015 at 1:25 pm
  • Reply Kaella (KaellaOnTheRun)

    I always love your honesty! Lately, I’ve been struggling with learning to adjust to life on my own and having to share my time with London. Every day, I’m not with him, feels so emotionally draining. I know it’ll get easier. I just wish that day was today.

    <3
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    April 23, 2015 at 4:17 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Oh, Kaella, I can’t even imagine. Going from always having him with you to not. But you just have to keep your focus on the fact that a) it will get easier and b) focus on doing something that you would never get the chance to do otherwise. keep yourself busy but also positive productivity.

      April 24, 2015 at 1:24 pm
  • Reply Debbie @ Coach Debbie Runs

    It is so true. We all have our crosses to bear. Every single one of us. Some crosses are heavier to be sure, but no one gets by scot-free.
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    April 23, 2015 at 8:28 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Exactly. And that is why we are also all so (heh, that’s kinda funny, but I digress) valuable to each other in the end–there is so much to learn from each other, as long as we long let someone else take the rap for us.

      April 24, 2015 at 1:23 pm
  • Reply Sam @ PancakeWarriors

    Oh Suz, your posts are so inspiring! First of all, love that isntagram pic. Secondly, how true = you gotta let someone fight the fight and learn the lesson. I hate when people are always dealing with the same problem over and over because they are constantly getting bailed out by someone. I’ve never been jealous of others that have life handed to them, I’ve always wondered how I would have turned out if I grew up like that (from the poor girl who grew up around section 8 housing as a kid). The fight only makes you stronger!
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    April 23, 2015 at 11:40 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I think that when you grow up with something tough you either always want what you don’t have or you learn to make your life work for you. You develop the drive that you so obviously have! But at some point, I just hope that you also learn to sit back and give yourself a big freaking pat on the back–you deserve it.

      April 24, 2015 at 1:21 pm
  • Reply Montana

    You’re one of the most insightful people I know. I love this post! It’s so true in so many ways- all of us are working hard in our own ways and that should be admired. No matter what it is! Thanks for sharing this, totally something I’m saving for future bad days 😉
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    April 24, 2015 at 10:44 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      Well, all of that insight comes with a helluva lot of need to be! I just want to raise people up as they do the same for–I never want people to think that they are less than because they don’t have a chronic illness or something.

      April 24, 2015 at 1:19 pm
  • Reply Michele

    Big words of wisdom – we can’t fight anyone else’s fight for them as tempting as it is to try. Live and let live I suppose. Our own fights become a lot tougher when we try to fight for everyone else too. Now you have me thinking!
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    April 24, 2015 at 3:15 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      So true–because then we are spread so thin that we can’t do anything well, or as well as we deserve to.

      April 27, 2015 at 2:23 pm
  • Reply Sue @ This Mama Runs for Cupcakes

    You are right, I think a lot of us praise others but never give ourselves credit where credit is due. I wish I could do that, but I’m always downplaying how hard I work. My husband comes home and says “thank you for how hard you work” and my response? “You work way harder than me.” Wish I wouldn’t do that!

    April 24, 2015 at 7:23 pm
    • Reply suzlyfe

      See? I told you! You work so hard, but some of us just don’t know how to accept the praise for it. But look at what you accomplish every day!

      April 27, 2015 at 2:22 pm
  • Reply Amber

    is it weird/sappy that I teared up reading this? Because it’s SO true, I admire and am in AWE of your strength, but you are right we ALL fight our OWN fight, my fight is NOT always my IBS, but rather my fight is my anxiety, or my other personal issues, my fight is smiling when I am sad and homesick, my fight is finding my place in an area I’m brand new too, my fight is just that, MINE <3
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    April 26, 2015 at 11:05 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      And you are never alone in your fight, but you have to fight it yourself. And I know that you do!

      April 27, 2015 at 2:22 pm
  • Reply Emily

    Love this. Supporting others and sharing each fight with each other is such a wonderful way of encouraging and building up each other!
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    April 28, 2015 at 6:56 pm
  • Reply Eric

    Well put, I’m loving your blog! Everyday is a fight for people like us, it makes us mighty!
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    July 23, 2015 at 8:49 am
    • Reply suzlyfe

      I’m so glad that you are responding to what I have to say! Everyday is indeed a fight, but we are warriors!

      July 23, 2015 at 9:24 am

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